00:04 Speaker 1: I have my ups downs like anyone else.
00:11 Speaker 2: Maybe more than anyone else.
00:16 Speaker 3: Things can be hard to figure out.
00:21 Speaker 4: I like my privacy. I like to work things out myself.
00:29 Speaker 5: I don't like you looking over my shoulder all the time.
00:36 Speaker 6: But you know your kid better than anyone and if you think she hasn't been herself lately...
00:42 S2: Acting really down. Crying all the time for no reason.
00:46 S5: Getting really mad.
00:48 S3: Not able to sleep and sleeping too much.
00:52 S4: Shutting his friends out and staying in his room all the time.
00:56 S3: Acting reckless, drinking, using drugs.
01:00 S5: Not doing the stuff he used to love.
01:02 S1: Doing stuff that's not like her.
01:05 S2: Might be nothing to worry about. Might just be high school.
01:08 S6: But it might be something more. She might be depressed.
01:12 S1: Not just feeling down. Really depressed.
01:17 S5: Your kid might be thinking about killing himself.
01:21 S4: It happens more than you think. More than it should.
01:25 S3: And when it's too late people say, "I had no idea."
01:27 S2: I thought it was just a phase.
01:29 S6: I never thought she'd actually do it.
01:30 S1: I wish she'd said something.
01:32 S4: I wish I'd said something.
01:34 S6: If you think your kid's acting differently, if she seems like a different person, you should say something.
01:42 S2: Ask, "What's wrong? Do you want to talk about it? How can I help?"
01:49 S3: Maybe you're afraid you'll make it worse if you ask, like you put the idea in their head.
01:53 S4: It doesn't work like that.
01:55 S6: The best way to help a teenager who might be suicidal is to just ask.
01:59 S3: Are you feeling so bad that you're thinking about killing yourself?
02:03 S2: If they say, "Yes."
02:07 S3: Maybe.
02:08 S5: Sometimes.
02:10 S1: Don't say...
02:11 S4: That's crazy.
02:12 S3: Don't be such a drama queen.
02:14 S6: That boy's not worth killing yourself over.
02:16 S5: You're not gonna kill yourself.
02:17 S2: You're just trying to get attention.
02:19 S6: Yes. They're trying to get attention. They feel distressed, lost, alone.
02:27 S4: What you should say is...
02:28 S3: I'm sorry you're feeling so bad.
02:31 S2: Do you wanna talk about what's going on?
02:33 S6: How can I help?
02:36 S1: We'll get through this together.
02:38 S2: Let's keep you safe.
02:41 S5: A lot of people feel so bad that they think about killing themselves. Adults and kids.
02:46 S4: So if your kid says...
02:48 S6: Things are never gonna change.
02:51 S1: I can't live like this.
02:57 S3: I'd be better off dead.
03:02 S4: I'm gonna kill myself.
03:05 S5: Take him seriously. Listen to what he's got going on for him and find someone he can talk to about it, someone who knows how to help.
03:13 S2: Talk to your doctor.
03:14 S1: Talk to a counsellor at your kid's school.
03:16 S4: Don't just let it go.
03:17 S6: Make sure your kid always has someone to talk to. Someone she trusts.
03:21 S1: You could make a list together, four or five names of people they trust.
03:25 S5: Put the number of a mental help support line on there too.
03:28 S2: Ask him to keep the list in his wallet or his phone. That way, he always knows who he can go to.
03:35 S4: Make sure your home is safe straight away.
03:38 S3: If you have any medication that she could use to hurt herself, lock it up.
03:43 S2: Don't leave him alone.
03:45 S6: Take her to the nearest hospital.
03:47 S1: Call 000 if you have to.
03:49 S4: If you think something might be wrong, the only way to find out is to ask.
03:55 S3: Ask straight out. Are you thinking about killing yourself?
04:00 S6: It can make a big difference.
04:02 S2: It could make all the difference to your kid's life.