However much you’ve planned things out in your head or imagined what it’ll be like when your baby arrives, nothing can really prepare you for the vomit-splattered reality. The first few weeks can be especially exhausting as you’re both learning and adjusting to your baby’s needs (and each other’s) while also trying to hold things together on zero sleep.
You might find some more subtle changes too – these may include your changing identity, how you feel about your work, and your relationship with your extended family and friends.
Take the time to talk with your partner about these big changes – what each of you miss about your old life, and the ways in which your new life is harder than you expected. Having this conversation doesn’t mean that you’re not good and willing parents, but it gives you an opportunity to acknowledge the changes you’re both grappling with.