What not to do
There are plenty of ways you can help your partner. These are not among them.
Take things personally
People experiencing anxiety or depression can sometimes lash out at those closest to them, or say negative, hurtful things that they don’t necessarily mean. Recognise when the condition is talking and try not to take it on board.
Make big life decisions
Now is not the best time to make big life decisions about things like your relationship, career or your house. There’s plenty of time to make changes in the future.
Try to fix things
You don’t need to solve every problem or always be ‘right’. It can be hard to put this aside, especially if you’re used to being the ‘fixer’, but don’t underestimate how helpful it can be to simply listen.
Beat yourself up
When you do the wrong thing or get frustrated with each other, it’s easy to blame yourself. Try to stay on the same side in the battle against depression and anxiety. Accept that sometimes this won’t happen, but it’s how you repair things between you that’s more important.