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Topic: 10 months postpartum with Overwhelming thoughts

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  1. Mhe
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    27 June 2020
    I am overly thinking of everything. A lot of housechores, pressure, looking after my son and I am about to go back to work, . I dont know how to stop thinking that I am becoming emotional, angry,
  2. geoff
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    27 June 2020 in reply to Mhe

    Hello Mhe, it's a difficult time for you and feel very sorry going back to work and suffering from PND which I have experienced myself.

    When anybody overthinks they believe what they should have done in the past and scared about may happen in the coming weeks and how to cope with it, or what they may not be able to handle and unable to rectify, and say this but I'm not a qualified doctor but been through it and it exhausts you.

    Housework will always be there, some people believe that it has to be done on a regular basis, whereas others think 'tomorrow I'll do it', it's always going to be a chore.

    Can I ask you how long you have been off work and any support you have, just to continue the conversation?

    Take care.


  3. therising
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    27 June 2020 in reply to Mhe

    Hi Mhe

    My heart truly goes out to you as you face such challenges.

    This is going to sound horrible to some but I found raising both my babies (who are now 14 and 17 years old) to be thoroughly depressing. I'd faced depression for many years leading up to them coming into this world so them giving me challenges I felt I was failing to meet was something which brought me down even further. It was actually PND group therapy which saw me leave my 15 years of depression behind me. I couldn't have done it without others who truly understood the torturous feelings depression can bring about. I'm so glad you came here.

    While the chemistry that plays out in depression can offer answers as to why we feel the way we do, I can't help but wonder what you are feeling angry about.

    I look back now and understand why I was feeling the way I was. A lot of situations and people seriously triggered me. To all those who said 'You need to try harder' when I couldn't breast feed successfully to the point where my nipples bled or where I was on the pump (stimulating milk) and hardly getting any sleep at all - 'You heartless thoughtless careless bunch!' My mum raised my consciousness, spirits and energy levels by telling me 'Stop it, this is killing you. You're putting the baby on formula'. To all the women who told me how wonderful motherhood is and how I must be doing something wrong 'Are you people insane?!' Who the heck says this sort of thing to a mum who feels like she's failing, to a mum with depression? Just thinking about these things triggers me Mhe. What makes you angry Mhe? Vent away. Really let loose if you want to.

    I'm very conscious of the connection between mental and physical emotion these days. If I get really worked up in my head through mental emotion, it will trigger some pretty intense energy in motion physically. Getting mentally worked up will trigger the blood pressure in my head, my breathing, my muscles (tension) and more. Wondering if you're experiencing the same connection. Figuring out what suits you in the ways of venting is important. You want to be calming your systems down if you can. If you can't, looking to someone who can guide you may be the idea. Whether it involves venting your thoughts and emotion through words with a counselor or venting through guided breathing techniques, there are a number of options worth considering.

    Making sense of all the thoughts in our head is a significant challenge. The thoughts are there for good reason.


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  4. missep123
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    27 June 2020 in reply to Mhe

    Hi Mhe,

    It definitely sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I feel very overwhelmed when I have a lot of things going on. What has really helped me is to make sure I do self-care. Are there things that you enjoy or give you a little bit of happiness? Someone once told me mental health can be like a cup where if we feel stressed or overwhelmed our cups empty and we have to make sure to 'refill' it by doing little things for us that keep us going.

    Here for you!

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