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Topic: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO FINDS INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS COMPLETELY ANNOYING !!? IF YES, PLS SHARE YOUR STORY :) IM NOT COPING :(

  1. 20girl101
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    22 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Definitely good days and bad days! Today was a bad day and then out of nowhere my mind is focusing on the positive and I'm back to thinking how much I love my partner and all the does for me. I'm not really a hopeless romantic due to how much fighting and stuff my parents got into when I was growing up, I definitely think that did play a role on how I perceive relationships and why I find it hard sometimes to express my feelings. I hope the psych can help me because I don't want to leave my partner.

    20girl101

  2. Petal22
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    22 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    The good days will eventually out weigh the bad days... things will get better.. stay positive... tell yourself many positive things every day.... focus on the positive... look for the positive ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Iโ€™m sure your physiologist can help you... just hang in there.... Iโ€™m here if you need to chat ๐Ÿ˜Š

  3. 20girl101
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    22 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Trying to look for the positive ! I definitely think the depression has played a large role in this. Just want to get better, I just want to move on with my life and get out of this funk that I'm in.

    20girl101

  4. Petal22
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    22 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    You will get better... just keep believing you can ๐Ÿ˜Š I believe every situation in our lifeโ€™s is temporary so you WILL get through this better days are coming ๐Ÿ˜Š keep believing

    the sun will shine upon you again ๐Ÿ˜Š

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    23 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Perceptions can always be changed... ๐Ÿ˜Š you will work it out... stay positive ๐Ÿ˜Š
  6. 20girl101
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    23 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Only thing keeping me going is my boyfriend, he is being a massive support and I just can't wait to get over this depression and anxiety so I can be more loving with him and show him how much I love him. It's hard being in this position it really is.

    20girl101

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    23 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Thatโ€™s great you have a very supportive boyfriend.... you will get better keep believing you can ๐Ÿ˜Š

    I know itโ€™s hard with what you are feeling but things WILL get better ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Iโ€™m here if you want to chat ... stay positive ๐Ÿ˜Š

  8. 20girl101
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    24 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I've had a really really bad two days, last night I did something really bad, I searched online for "signs you aren't in love anymore" and I was so close to breaking up with my boyfriend even though I don't want to break up with him. It sent me over the edge and for the first time in about 2 weeks I kept waking up and having a disturbed sleep. I am so confused and I don't know what's going on, I should have never been consumed by my thoughts, I want to be with him but I also am just so annoyed and frustrated with these thoughts. I'm scared that I don't love him anymore. It's so scary. This morning I coped serious anxiety and was all dizzy. Just when I thought I was making progress, it all went downhill.

    20girl101

  9. Petal22
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    24 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hello, sorry to hear you are feeling this way.....I understand itโ€™s hard to be going through this...... โ€œ you know you want to be with your boyfriendโ€..... with the other โ€œ thoughts โ€œ can you just let them be there and not question them? I know itโ€™s hard and I can understand the confusion..... sorry to hear about your sleeping I found anxiety did this to me aswell....... you are not alone with what you are going through.....

    Can you please go back to your gp and let them know how you are feeling.... keep going back until you feel they have heard you..... you may need medication for your anxiety....let your gp know you need to see a clinical physiologist or a physiatrist ASAP and you canโ€™t wait until the 8th .... see if they can help you in seeing someone sooner....

    im here if you want to chat...

  10. 20girl101
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    24 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I just feel like they won't understand how I am feeling, last night was so bad and it's causing so much distress! I am just going to try and let the thoughts sit there and try not to engage in the thoughts cause they do make them 10000% worse! It's really getting in the way of my happiness !!
  11. Petal22
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    24 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    I understand what you are saying.... but PLEASE book into your gp and tell them how you are feeling....they are health professionals and want to see you well ๐Ÿ˜Š please book in.... they may be able to also get you into see a clinical physiologist earlier... tell them how distressed you are feeling.... I totally understand with what you have been saying I was once in the same position as you and without the help of the professionals I received I wouldnโ€™t be the person I am today...... be honest with the professionals.... I understand it isnโ€™t easy living with high anxiety.... please make your appointment ASAP so they can help you ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Iโ€™m here for a chat ... let me know how you go ๐Ÿ˜Š

  12. 20girl101
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    24 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Honestly thank you so much for the chat, can I ask, were you in a relationship and did you have these thoughts ? How did you cope if you were in one?

    I'll try and get in contact with my GP and see what they say.

    Thx so much

    20girl101

  13. Petal22
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    25 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    No worries ๐Ÿ˜‰ Thats great you are going to try to get in contact with your gp..... let them know how distressed you are by the thoughts...and your level of anxiety...ask them if they can get you in to see a clinical psychologist or a phyciatrist... be honest with them so they can help you... if it makes you feel better take someone with you...

    how did I cope? I had different thoughts to you but they were very intrusive and distressing for me... they caused me to have severe anxiety ... it was a very confusing and scary time for me...
    If I found myself having these thoughts about some one close to me.... Iโ€™d defy my thought/ anxiety by deliberately being close to this person and not let my anxiety/ thoughts make me withdraw from them.... yes it was hard... but Iโ€™ve always had the mind set of this isnโ€™t going to defeat me....

    I had a very caring gp who put me on medication to manage my anxiety... this really helped... I did my mental health plan which gave me 10 free appointments with a phycologist which I did ... I also saw a phyciatrist. who diagnosed me with ocd.... which is an anxiety disorder..... after seeing these professionals it then led me to my ocd therapy which was the best thing I did .... I have so many tools now to manage my anxiety and intrusive thoughts if they arise...

    there is so much help out there we just need to be brave enough to step forward and receive it....

    you will get through this and remember you arnt alone...

    let me know how you go with your gp...๐Ÿ˜Š

  14. 20girl101
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    25 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Wow this gives me hope ! so did you see a psychologist first and then you went to a psychiatrist? How did you know that you needed to see a psychiatrist ?

    20girl101

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    25 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Thatโ€™s great I have given you hope.... there definitely is HOPE hold onto that.... you CAN get better with the correct help...I am recovered... you can recover aswell ๐Ÿ˜Š after seeing my gp I saw a clinical phycologist... I was lucky that this phycologist worked together with a phyciatrist... the process was that I saw both of them..... they are remarkable people our health professionals....
    Did you have any luck getting in contact with your gp?๐Ÿ˜Š

  16. 20girl101
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    25 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Nope not yet! I haven't called, because she is very busy at the moment. I'm going to keep trying, I find that my thoughts get worse at night for some reason, during the day when I'm with my partner it's good, I still will have the thoughts here and there but at night it gets so much worse.

    20girl101

  17. Petal22
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    25 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Ok, yes I found with anxiety it peaked more when I was alone... I tried to keep busy.... ๐Ÿ˜Š even if you try to read a book or try some meditation ๐Ÿ˜Š
  18. 20girl101
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    25 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I'll try some meditation and try to focus on a book or something. I've figured that if this is causing so much distress and pain then my feelings for him must be there, otherwise I wouldn't be hurting. It sort of helps me put things into perspective when I get lost in my thoughts. The mind is such a powerful thing and it's crazy how it can confuse you!

    I've also realised that I did avoid my boyfriends house for about two weeks due to the fact that I would get distressed and that the thoughts would resurface because that's where they first started.

    20girl101

  19. Petal22
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    25 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Yes, please try the meditation I find it great.... or a book ๐Ÿ˜Š thatโ€™s great you can see your feelings for your boyfriend.... ๐Ÿ˜Š itโ€™s great how it puts things into perspective for you.....the mind is a very powerful thing.... you will learn how to master it.... I once had a negative mind set but over time Iโ€™ve retrained it to be more positive ๐Ÿ˜Š I now look for things that Iโ€™m grateful for.... there are so many things we have in this beautiful world to be grateful for ๐Ÿ˜Š

    yes I understand what you are saying when you say you avoided your boyfriends house because of the distressing thoughts..... one thing I have learned with anxiety is to not do what it is telling you to do because the more we do what it is saying the more we reinforce it..... eg... if it told me not to go outside the house..... I went outside the house....

    we are so much stronger than our anxiety.... we can do anything we set our minds to ๐Ÿ˜Š

    keep pushing forward ๐Ÿ˜Š

    im here if you want to chat

  20. 20girl101
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    25 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Thank you so much! I have started going around again which is good. I also experience that when I am content and happy my mind straight away goes to "you don't love him" and it's as if I have an unsettling feeling cos I know it's always in the back of my mind. I genuinely want to be with him and be happy cos I don't want anyone else. It's just so hard, I'm worried the thoughts will never go away. I've read a book and am now watching a movie to calm me down and relax my thoughts.

    20girl101

  21. Petal22
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    25 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Just let those thoughts be there and try not to put your attention on them.... when you get the thought just move your attention calmly onto something else more positive ๐Ÿ˜Š Try not to let the thought worry you.... it is a thought and doesnโ€™t mean anything... with practice you will learn not to focus on the thought and not to question it.... and it will then fade away....when you notice yourself worrying about it calmly redirect your attention..

    thatโ€™s great you have read a book... adult colouring is also good.... it puts you attention on your colouring..๐Ÿ˜Š

  22. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Yesterday was so bad I had convinced myself I didn't love him once again and resulted to the fact that I just wasn't in love with him anymore but broke out of that because I know deep down I do and I want to be with him. It's just hard when your brain tells you "You don't feel the love anymore" and that could be due to depression as well. I desperately want to stay with him and just be happy again, I've come to the conclusion that if I didn't love him I still wouldn't be here, I would have given up.

    I often worry that these aren't intrusive thoughts but I try not to engage with that thought because it definitely makes it way worse. I just need to be stronger than this, I'm trying my absolute best. I also booked for my GP, but could only get an appointment near the end of September, so after I visit the psychologist. I know it's bad but had no other options.

    20girl101

  23. awesomenesstocome
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Hi, I too have intrusive thoughts, I was really bad many years ago. So the latest thoughts feel like a threat to going back there. Iโ€™m very tired atm so the thoughts r sticking and causing great anxiety. Because ocd is tricky to treat I think it helps to have a phychologist that is practiced in ocd. I hope we all learn to manage this soon.
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  24. awesomenesstocome
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    My sister had exactly the obsession you r experiencing, right down to the next step of thinking she was gay. It helped me to know that others were the same and I wasnโ€™t crazy.
  25. awesomenesstocome
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Also in my experience with ocd is that the obsessional thoughts r the very opposite to the person you r. Thatโ€™s why it shocks you to think you could think that way. Itโ€™s ocd tricking us to believe it, I used to say over and over to myself this is not me, this is ocd
  26. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Just keep positive take each day at a time.... remember you arnt your thoughts but the watcher of your thoughts... you will get through this....

    try not to analyse your thoughts once you are aware you are in this cycle calmly bring yourself out of it and focus your attention on something more positive... it all takes practice but you will get through this... I know itโ€™s hard but there is light at the end of the tunnel... Iโ€™m living proof of this... you can recover ๐Ÿ˜Š

    sorry to hear you couldnโ€™t get into your gp... that is a huge wait time.... would you consider seeing a different one?

    Iโ€™m here if you want to chat....

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    26 August 2020 in reply to awesomenesstocome
    Hello, yes we are not alone... many people have this condition I did group therapy for ocd with another group of people who had the same condition.... the place I did my therapy at specialised in ocd... the therapy was an intervention into the ocd.... what we were taught was remarkable for the people who have this condition.... the tools we were given took me time to practice and perfect... but after time I have learned to master my ocd.... yes it is possible you can break free of its cycle... and once you break free you fly ๐Ÿ˜Š there is hope out there for people suffering with ocd.... I agree treatment should be given by a trained psychologist in ocd...... my therapy was an 8 week therapy ๐Ÿ˜Š
  28. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    It's really bad! Because I know what I want and feel deep down and when your mind plays tricks on you, it really isn't fun.

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  29. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    Yes, through my therapy I learned ALL people have intrusive thoughts.... people with ocd though have these thoughts and are really shocked by them and really take them in....they feel these thoughts are not like themselves at all.. the total opposite... so they think why am I having these thought? They are not me? What does this mean? The anxiety revs up and the cycle begins.....

    I have learned the nicest of people develop this condition...

    remember you CAN break free of it with the CORRECT help.... Iโ€™m proof of this I was once very severely affected by this condition but I have now recovered thanks to the help I received ๐Ÿ˜Š

  30. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    How did your sister get through it? Because I really really do love my partner and know I am not gay. It's so frustrating.

    20girl101

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