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Topic: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO FINDS INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS COMPLETELY ANNOYING !!? IF YES, PLS SHARE YOUR STORY :) IM NOT COPING :(

  1. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to awesomenesstocome

    I don't know if it is OCD, but could possibly be? I am going to a psychologist next Monday and see what they say and how it goes.

    20girl101

  2. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    How did you know you had it in the first place? Like did you recognise the symptoms ? or did you just go and get diagnosed due to like thinking you had it?

    20girl101

  3. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I have booked for a psychologist this Monday coming up ! so way sooner than the 8th which is really really good! She specialises in anxiety and depression as well which is good. I hope all goes well.

    20girl101

  4. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Thatโ€™s fantastic ๐Ÿ˜Š Iโ€™m sure it will be good.... let me know how you go ๐Ÿ˜Š
  5. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    I didnโ€™t know what I had..... I didnโ€™t feel that great.... my gp told me I was feeling that way due to my anxiety.... my clinical physiologist diagnosed me with ocd..... which is a anxiety disorder...
  6. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    Yeah that's what my GP has said as well. Just anxiety. I might go to a few sessions with a psychologist and see what they say and then take it from there. How many sessions would you recommend with a normal psychologist ? Is everyone different?

    20girl101

  7. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Definitely will, thank you so much for the support as well! It's been a massive help !! Honestly has๐Ÿฅฐโ˜บ๏ธ
  8. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Just get a feel for you psychologist and see how you feel things are going ๐Ÿ˜Š I did 10 sessions with my clinical physiologist before doing my ocd therapy .., the phycologist appointments definitely helped with my anxiety ๐Ÿ˜Š Iโ€™m happy to help you ๐Ÿ˜Š no problems for giving you the support ๐Ÿ˜Š I understand what it is like to be dealing with this... it makes me happy to hear I have helped you.... I believe I went through what I did to be able to learn and recover to help others who need help with their mental health ๐Ÿฅฐ Iโ€™m always here for a chat ๐Ÿ˜Š
  9. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Once you use the 10 sessions what happens then? Can you re-apply for another mental health care plan??
  10. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    After the 10 sessions..... I waited until my ocd therapy clinic started and then I did that ๐Ÿ˜Š from memory I think you get 10 free sessions a year so I think after your first 10 you can do another lot of 10 in the new year..... double check this though ๐Ÿ˜Š
  11. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I definitely will double check, will let you know what I find ๐Ÿ˜€

    20girl101

  12. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yes I think it is 10 sessions a year but can get extended if needed! Feeling a bit defeated but trying to go strong.
  13. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Ok..... stay strong you will get there.... take it a day at a time ๐Ÿ˜Š keep talking.... you have help on the way.... ๐Ÿ˜Š keep your mind occupied... read, play music, meditation, mindfulness..... you are stronger than what you are going through... things will get better ๐Ÿ˜Š you need to believe that ... Iโ€™m here if you want to chat..
  14. JacintaMarie
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    26 August 2020

    Hi

    I have intrusive thoughts, I've had them so long I think of them as normal thoughts.

    It usually happens at work when I do something the wrong way! I get frustrated that I keep on doing things a long & complicated way and not the osh way, though to be fair I do try to be careful the way I do.

    I also tell myself I am stupid & an idiot when I make a trivial mistake & when I react the way I shouldn't that sets off the negative thoughts, it doesn't help when someone else "goes off" at me at the mistake, saying why can't you be careful, and so the cycle goes on.

    I am okay some days until my trigger hits. I do feel so self asorphed.

    I just wish I could do something the right osh way that won't end up hurting me or that people don't have to tell me off for doing it & yes I've been told they're only being caring.

    Anyway your not the only one,

  15. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to JacintaMarie

    It's very hard, I can't stress that enough. It kills your positivity and kills whatever makes you happy. I am so confused and lost at the moment, hopefully things will change once I get help.

    20girl101

  16. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I'm really worried that the damage is done and that I've convinced myself I don't love my boyfriend. It's becoming really confusing to me, sometimes I feel like so happy and it comes naturally, sometimes I can't find the feeling anywhere. Another thought I get is "am i forcing this relationship?" I don't know. I feel sick when I have these thoughts. I don't know if it's because I've dwelled on it for agessss and new thoughts and things are coming up. I'm just yeah, very very confused and distressed.

    20girl101

  17. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hang in there.... you will get through this..... turn your attention to something else.... try mindfulness ๐Ÿ˜Š practice

    try to wash the dishes what does the water sound like? How does it feel? What sounds can you hear?

    You are strong ๐Ÿ’ช

  18. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Try to slow down your breathing......

    Are you ok?

  19. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I'm really scared right now. I'm afraid that I'll break up with him.
  20. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    If things get to much donโ€™t be afraid to go to your nearest hospital emergency room if you need to....
  21. Sophie_M
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hey 20girl101,

    Thank you for reaching out and keeping us updated on how you're going. It sounds like things are very overwhelming at the moment, and we are so sorry that you're in such a tough space right now. Please know that we are all here to support you.

    We'd really encourage you to reach out to our Beyond Blue Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals to help you through this.

    In addition to this, our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467), are there 24/7 to help you whenever you're feeling overwhelmed and needing to talk it through.

    You are not alone here, and we hope that you keep us updated on how you're going whenever you feel ready.

  22. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I keep researching online and I need to stop because it all gets to my head and I start to believe things. I do this for reassurance and then I just make it ten times worse!
  23. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Ok, yes please try to stop researching online.... I know itโ€™s hard but itโ€™s not useful.... just try to turn your attention to something else....keep talking you arnt alone Iโ€™m always here for a chat...

    If you want to it may be useful to contact the Beyond Blue Support Service as per Sophie s post... it may help to talk to a councillor, you can discuss how you are feeling....they may be able to help you...

    im still always here for a chat ๐Ÿ˜Š

  24. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I think I might do that and yes I've told my partner that I would stop researching online cos it makes it so much worse. I hope the psychologist can help me break this pattern of thoughts and just bring me back to my normal self so I can properly engage with my boyfriend and show him how much he means to me and how much I love him because at the moment I feel like I'm slipping away from him.
  25. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Thatโ€™s great for you to contact Beyond Blue Iโ€™m sure a councillor can help you... just talking helps...

    and Iโ€™m sure your physiologist can help you.. just hang in there.... yes definitely stop researching online... I too use to do this... it was a compulsion of mine It would give me more anxiety it really wasnโ€™t helpful... you CAN stop doing this....

    things WILL get better you are on the correct track with the help you will be receiving.... stay strong my friend you will master this it just takes practice ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Iโ€™m here for a chat ๐Ÿ˜Š

  26. 20girl101
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    26 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Definitely am going to stop looking online, one of the things I definitely need to stop. I trust that I love him and I know it's just a build up of thoughts but sometimes it does get too much and I start to doubt myself even more and it gets worse.
  27. Petal22
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Thatโ€™s great you are going to stop looking on line..... ๐Ÿ˜Š try to practice meditation and mindfulness.... and always remember you are not alone... you can call Beyond Blue and speak to a councillor if you want to๐Ÿ˜Š

    I am here for a chat ๐Ÿ˜Š things will get better....

  28. vixstar
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    26 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hi 20girl101 I can relate to what you have described and have experienced similar thoughts about my relationship. It can be very disturbing and I feel for you right now. I still struggle at times but it does get better.

    I know you said you want to stop searching online for answers but whilst I was frantically doing the same a while ago I came across a website called Conscious Transitions it has helped me alot and is very focused on relationship anxiety and what you have described in your posts.

    It may be something you want to consider having a look at, there are alot of others sharing similar stories. Take care of yourself, I know first hand what ur going through is awful. Stay Strong.

  29. 20girl101
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    27 August 2020 in reply to vixstar

    Hello, it is so freaking hard. I genuinely love him and just want to get back to our relationship but these thoughts in my head are killing me! They are creating fake feelings and fake thoughts and they are hurting me so bad. Is it normal for this to be going on for about a month now? How did you get better ?

    20girl101

  30. 20girl101
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    27 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    No more looking online. I'm trying to keep an open mind and just focus on the positive. Can't wait for my session on Monday, I just need to let it all out.

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