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Topic: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO FINDS INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS COMPLETELY ANNOYING !!? IF YES, PLS SHARE YOUR STORY :) IM NOT COPING :(

  1. Petal22
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    28 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    I understand...... just allow the thoughts to be there and float away..... once they can come and go you won’t notice them as much 😊

    Not long until your appointment 😊

  2. 20girl101
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    28 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Not long at all, I'm actually excited to be honest. I hope she understands where I am coming from and hopefully she is sympathetic. I always have worried that the person won't understand the issue.
  3. Petal22
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    28 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    I’m glad you are excited 😊 I’m sure your phycologist will understand just explain to her what is going on.... 😊
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    28 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Another way you can think of the thoughts is you know when you have a song stuck in your head.... it just plays over and over until you don’t notice it anymore think of the thoughts as a song stuck in your head and do what you would usually do if it was a song 😊
  5. 20girl101
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    28 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yeah with a song I usually just forget about it and move on. I guess because these thoughts have been ruminating for at least three weeks (about close to a month) It's hard to shake them but hopefully the psychologist will be able to help me. What sort of therapy can they do for this? If you have any idea
  6. Petal22
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    28 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Maybe just try to treat them that way... I know they have been there for a while but you could still treat them the same 😊 therapy maybe mindfulness, meditation.... your phycologist will have some ideas I’m sure 😊
  7. 20girl101
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    29 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    They are definitely slowing down which is good, can't wait for them to go away so I can just relax and be my normal self!
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    That’s great they are slowing down 😊 be proud for how far you have come 😊 they will eventually go the more you just let them be there and not put your attention to them 😊 it just takes practice 😊 keep up the good work 😊 you will be back to your normal self soon I’m sure.... stay positive 😊enjoy your weekend do something nice for yourself 😊 I’m here for a chat 😊
  9. JacintaMarie
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hi 20girl101

    I know what you mean, I get those thoughts about work, they do seem real and I don't know which ones are real and what's not. I have to tell myself no and stop!

    I have good days and nit.

    You can do it, I get told at the end of the day you have to do it, no one can do it for you.

  10. 20girl101
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    29 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    They slowly come in and out but I try not to engage with them at all. They flow and go away, so it's not that bad. Sometimes I do fight them but I know I shouldn't. Can't wait til they go away !!
  11. 20girl101
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    29 August 2020 in reply to JacintaMarie
    They definitely are most likely not real! Because I've found that if they were real, you would have done something about them already. You would have acted on them, it's all crap! Stuff your brain has made up!
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    The more you practice in not giving them your attention the more you will no longer notice them 😊 it takes practice 😊

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    29 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    So best thing to do is just let them come in and out? There are still times when I panic and ask myself, "do i love him?" which I know I do, but then I try to redirect my focus somewhere else! Is that a good thing to do? I don't want to fall into that loop again.
  14. Petal22
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Yes just let them come in out.... you will learn not to panic when they come in.... don’t interact with them.... well done in redirecting your attention πŸ‘ you are doing well 😊
  15. 20girl101
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    29 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I find that in the beginning of the day all is well and the thoughts are less constant and then once we hit around 3-4 pm they pop up again. I don't know why this is. I'm trying to redirect and not believe them.
  16. Petal22
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Oh ok..... do you have more anxiety around this time? I found mine were worse in the morning due to anxiety.... keep practicing you ll get the hang of it πŸ˜‰
  17. 20girl101
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    29 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Well I usually wake up and it hits me straight away and then I see my partner when he comes to visit and i'm okay and content, and then when I'm truly happy and such the thoughts just come back. Not sure why this is, I start to feel uneasy and just sort of 'panicky'. Then my mind goes into overdrive straight away but I try to keep my cool
  18. Petal22
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    29 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    It’s ok for your thoughts to come back because they are normal all thoughts are normal..... just keep practicing your skills 😊 it takes time to practice and become the watcher of your thoughts 😊
  19. 20girl101
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    30 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yep, slowly getting there. Trying my best. The weather definitely is helping! It's so nice out now in Melbourne. Been listening to some podcasts as well, they are seeming to help.
  20. Petal22
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    30 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    That’s great 😊 try to get some sun shine 😊 tomorrow is going to be great 😊 a great step forward 😊 well done
  21. 20girl101
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    30 August 2020 in reply to Petal22

    I will definitely let you know how it goes! I am okay I guess. Brain has suddenly fixated on "Do I want to be with him?" even though I was so sure literally a day ago. I'm really starting to lose faith. Cried a bit before, I desperately don't want to let go of my relationship because I know deep down I love him and that I want to be with him.

    Some days are better than others.

  22. Petal22
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    30 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Sorry to hear you have been upset... you will get through this... just let the thoughts be there but don’t give them your attention 😊 I know it’s hard but it takes practice 😊 yes you will have good days and bad days... keep positive.... it’s a marathon but one you can win πŸ’ͺ all the best for tomorrow yes please let me know how you go ..... keep persevering
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  23. 20girl101
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    30 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I just find it soooo exhausting that my brain won't let me settle on an answer like I know what the answers are. They are just consuming and draining
  24. Petal22
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    30 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    I totally understand..... our minds job is to think.... you know what the answers are... yes ... keep practicing your skills 😊 we are not our thoughts.... but the watcher of our thoughts... you will get the hang of it... it just takes practice 😊 they are just thoughts... they don’t mean anything.... 😊
  25. 20girl101
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    30 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I know! Trying to keep a positive mindset, very hard though. I hope I actually gain something from the psychologist tomorrow! I don't want to give up my relationship.
  26. Petal22
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    30 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Keep persevering 😊 I’m sure your phycologist will be able to help you...

    our thoughts can’t make us do something they are just thoughts.... YOU know what you want 😊

    All the best for tomorrow 😊

  27. 20girl101
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    31 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Not too long now! I'm sort of nervous, will let you know how it goes. Trying to remain positive.
  28. Petal22
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    31 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Goodmorning 😊 wishing you all the best for today...I hope all goes well 😊 today is a great step for you,to on your road to recovery 😊 irs normal to be nervous.... I was aswell 😊 thinking of you..., well done πŸ‘
  29. 20girl101
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    31 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    So it went really well. I feel a sense of calmness and chill. She said that due to having no work, no excitement and that day in and day out we do the same thing due to the lockdown in Melbourne, it can cause us to think things that are crazy and blown out of proportion. She said I have symptoms of anxiety and depression, but mild. So I don't need to go on any antidepressants. They are just thoughts. She also said I am a catastrophizer, I just to overthinking straight away and can't find peace cos I overthink. She always believe my past has an effect on how I react in relationships and such. My next session is next Thursday. I'm feeling hopeful!! It's good to get some reassurance that it's all in my head.
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  30. Petal22
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    31 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    That’s fantastic so glad it went so well for you 😊 I’m sure your sessions will be beneficial 😊 well done

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