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Topic: AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO FINDS INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS COMPLETELY ANNOYING !!? IF YES, PLS SHARE YOUR STORY :) IM NOT COPING :(

  1. 20girl101
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    31 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    She always said that we will try cognitive behavioural therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy? Have you done these?
  2. Petal22
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    31 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    Hello, I have done cbt but not commitment therapy.... sounds good though 😊
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    31 August 2020 in reply to Petal22
    How does CBT work?
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    31 August 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Im sure your phycologist will work with you ... to help you become aware of unhelpful thinking patterns... she may help you with strategies and ways of thinking..... I’m sure your phycologist will let you know more 😊

    Your sessions will give you life long skills 😊

  5. 20girl101
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    1 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yep well i'm willing to get better for myself and for my relationship, because everything seems so confused and jumbled at the moment !
  6. Petal22
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    1 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    That’s great... everything will settle down 😊 just give it time
  7. 20girl101
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    2 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Can't wait for things to settle down! It's so annoying and time consuming
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    2 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    I hope things settle for you soon.... if there are things that are distressing you mention them to your phycologist at your next appointment... 😊

    hopefully your phycologist can give you some strategies to help you 😊

    I’m here if you want to chat 😊

  9. 20girl101
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    3 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yeah it's just the fact that the thoughts feel so real and in the process I've like blocked my feelings, that's what she said. That because I've associated negative emotions and stuff towards my boyfriend it is hard to like show love and affection. I'm really sad about all of this, it's hurting me so much
  10. Petal22
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    3 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    I understand it would be hard.... you will get there... hopefully your phycologist can work with you on this.... try to stay positive things will improve 😊

  11. 20girl101
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    5 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I really do hope things get better!! I've been struggling for so long
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    5 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hi... I am not sure how you define better. I have also used the term "normal" with my psych. The reply I get is "what is normal" or "how do you define better". I am not saying that I will never be "normal" or "better" but I also do not impose a time frame on it. So I now see the journey similar to the never-ending story or trying to get to the top of the mountain and having to into into valley to get to a better spot. (That word again!)

    Where am I now... things are getting better... with kindness to yourself, patience and wanting (and determination) things will get better. Perhaps, for myself, broadening the definition of "better" needs tweaking?

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    5 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    It will 20girl101... stay positive I know it can feel like a marathon... there is light at the end of the tunnel 😊 you are on the right track with the help you are receiving 😊 keep talking 😊
  14. 20girl101
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    5 September 2020 in reply to smallwolf

    I totally understand what you mean. I don't know how I'm coping. I feel like I love my boyfriend and sometimes I struggle because I convince myself that I don't. It's like a never ending battle. I get fixated on ideas and things that cause me so much pain, because they couldn't possibly be true. I know I love him deep down, it's just I don't know. The mindset that I'm in is so bad. I used to see a future with him and I still do, but when we talk about it I don't have access to those happy emotions.

    I'm trying my best, because DEEP down I know what I want and how I feel.

  15. 20girl101
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    5 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    It is definitely a marathon! I just want to get back to my normal self, because I know that I want this person as my life companion. It's just a lot of stupid ideas that are ruining it for me. It's very hard to access those loving emotions for me right now. When I have a bad thought I start to freak out but I have to contain my breathing and just remember that it's all in my head.
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    5 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    You will get there.... keep persevering.... talk to your phycologist about the way you are feeling....

    I’m here if you want to chat 😊

  17. 20girl101
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    5 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Thank you ! Yeah it's going to be very hard, I just hope it works out
  18. Petal22
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    5 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101
    I understand it is really hard.... I too went through a hard time on my journey... i don’t think it is supposed to be easy... your doing a great thing seeing your phycologist I hope your phycologist is nice ... do you feel like a good match? Some times it takes a few sessions to begin to feel comfortable with your phycologist... 😊
  19. 20girl101
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    6 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I felt remarkably comfortable with her! The thoughts are slowly coming down and I'm more at ease now, but when I am not obsessing and at ease I get anxious and think "If i'm not obsessing does that mean I don't love him?" it scares the hell out of me. I know it's just because I've been obsessing for ages! and i've now linked negative emotions to my boyfriend, that's what the psychologist said.
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    6 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    That’s great you are comfortable with her 😊 you must be a good match 😊

    Just take it day by day .... when you are at ease try to find happiness in yourself that you are at ease... you can always change your patterns we have the power with in us to do that 😊 we are not stuck in our patterns we can CHANGE them and embrace the positivity that comes with that.... smile and put your positive energy out there for yourself and others x you are going to be ok and you WILL get through this 😊 have a nice day 😊

  21. 20girl101
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    7 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Getting back to my normal self is definitely going to be the hardest part and going back to how I was in the relationship. Due to all the anxious thoughts and feelings, when I'm not having the thoughts it feels as if something is missing! It's because of the absence of the thoughts and negative emotions I have attached to my boyfriend and our relationship. I know I love him and I'm so happy I haven't quit yet.
  22. Petal22
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    7 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    You WILL get back to your normal self..... you will learn how to..... keep persevering and keep up with your appointments see it through x We grow from our challenges.... never quit 😊 quitting is never an option 😊

    You will grow from this.... things can be undone ...... you can retrain yourself..... trust me I know it is possible x

  23. JacintaMarie
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    8 September 2020

    Hi

    Had some intrusive thoughts today at work, they were negetive & felt real.

    They weren't reasonable and not common sense. I hate having them, I usually end up going off at the thoughts though you shouldn't do this as it makes them wrong.

    It usually happens when I assume than realize I was wrong, or I wonder why they didn't ask me to do the task, I usually think it's because I didn't do it right, though I get told when their busy they'll pass to me.

    Having a clarity moment & am ashamed of myself, I thought I was a logical & reasonable person but I am not! My brain has tricked me again.

  24. Sandro
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    8 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Your welcome,

    It is great that you know what you want, and you have an understanding. It is a matter of getting help and speaking up which is also great that you have openly expressed your thoughts. Definitely better out than in , hope you have been able to get help and learn some coping tools. Meditation and mindfulness once again has helped me so much over the last year in calming down my thoughts and mind. Even just closing your eyes and visualising yourself being happy in the past or future , and places / activities that you enjoy or once enjoyed doing. I use images of the beach on a nice summers day, after allot of practice I visualise that picture and the happy feelings it gives me when Im struggling or need a lift :-)

  25. 20girl101
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    8 September 2020 in reply to JacintaMarie
    Our brain plays so many games with us ! It's crazy
  26. 20girl101
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    8 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Yeah I pretty much have to restrain myself and just move on with life and just trust myself ! I know what I want and how I feel deep down
  27. 20girl101
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    8 September 2020 in reply to Sandro

    It's soooo confusing! I know I love my partner and definitely want to be with him I just overthink and then stress myself out. The thoughts have slowed down but now because I've been in that state for so long, always questioning and such. I feel uneasy and unlike myself. Like it's hard to remember how I was acting in the relationship before. I literally need to just stop stressing and trust what I know. I know the psychologist will help definitely !

  28. Petal22
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    8 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    That’s awesome 20girl101

    😊

  29. 20girl101
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    9 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Today I almost fell into the dark hole again and start believing my thoughts, cried a bit then realised that I AM LITERALLY JUST OVERTHINKING and making things worse for myself. I pulled myself out and went for a walk, spoke to my partner, he calmed me down a bit. I have my second session tomorrow :) PRAYING THAT GOES GOOD.
  30. Petal22
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    9 September 2020 in reply to 20girl101

    Hello,

    Welldone ! You pulled yourself out 😊 proud of you πŸ‘ try to stay positive, practice your strategies..... put your attention on the present moment eg what you can hear, what you can smell....when you realise you are in your head bring your attention calmly to the present moment... even if it is feeling your heart beating πŸ’— I know it can be tough but you will get through this.... tell yourself you CAN overcome this..... let your phycologist know what happened today... hopefully she can give you stratergies...... I believe crying is healing .... I know I did a lot of that on my journey....all the best with your appointment I know she can help you .... stay strong πŸ’ͺ keep in touch

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