Hi everyone, I'm looking to get some advice on how to handle anxiety around specific people. My step sister has one really good friend who it seems she uses as a crutch a lot in social situations. While this is totally fine, the friend has said some bad stuff about me and has told people that she doesn't like me (she has even said this to my boyfriend of 4 years). She also very subtly puts me down when she's around by making snark remarks and laughing at me. I don't have the best relationship with my step sister already and I think this is what started it.
Even though I have spoken to my step mum about how this person makes me feel (she makes me lower my self worth and the anxiety I get before seeing her makes me feel physically ill), my step mum still keeps inviting her to family gatherings. This is really upsetting to me and is another thing in itself as my family doesn't really take others into consideration.
I just found out that this person has been invited to my families mother's day brunch on Sunday and already I'm feeling a pain in my chest, can't eat properly and having minor panic attacks.
I can't bail on this brunch and I want to work on my resilience to be able to power through my anxiety in these situations. Does anyone have any tips on how to handle your anxiety around people who make you feel this way?