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Topic: Been a long couple of months

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  1. Whatsinaname
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    2 September 2020
    Hi again everyone,

    I'm having a pretty rough time tonight, but if I'm honest I've been struggling for close to 2 months.

    I quick background is ive had anxiety offically for about 10 years or so, I see a psych on and off and am on anti depressants.

    I live in regional vic, so lock down isn't helping, plus we are building a house and expecting our second child. Just to put some pressure on!

    A fear ive always had is ill lose my job for one reason or another and now with my wife off work and taking on a lot of debt its compounding.

    I know most of my triggers and I generally just avoid them and of i am triggered I can bounce back relatively quick. I had a server panic attack close to 2 months ago and am yet to bouncw back. I have small triggers that ruin my day, like today.

    My psychologist has suggested I talk to my GP and and psychiatrist to potentially increase my dosage during this stressful time and look into if I have OCD.

    Ironically enough the idea of another diagnosis and increasing meds is making me.anxious, but I'm keen to get on top of this for my son, my unborn child, my wife and also myself.

    Thanks for reading, I just needed a rant.
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  2. Petal22
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    2 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Hello Whatsinaname,

    Sorry to hear you are having a rough time...

    I had ocd and I have now recovered from it.... I think going back to your gp and phyciatrist would be a good idea especially your phyciatrist to have a diagnosis .... medication helps and therapy if it is ocd...

    I did group therapy for my ocd it really helped... it taught me how to break free of its cycle... so if it is that there is HOPE that you can recover too... I was given many tools for it...

    😊

  3. Whatsinaname
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    2 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Hi Petal22,

    Thanks for the kind words. Funnily enough when I was told to talk to a psychiatrist about potentially having OCD you thread with the young lady having relationship issues came to mind.

    Its always good to hear of someone coming out the other side. I really don't want to keep doing this to my family.
  4. Petal22
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    2 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Your not alone... I’m happy to chat with you if you ever need support..... if it is ocd.... I know it can be a rough ride when you are in the grips of it.... I had this condition severely and to come out the other side just feels like freedom.... I was once told when people with OCD learn to master their OCD they fly and this is so true... I’d recommend you do therapy for ocd aswell if it is ocd... you can break free of its cycle once you are taught how...

    im glad my threads have been useful... I’m so grateful to our professionals.... I think it would be great for you to see your psychiatrist for a diagnosis at least then you can work on your recovery from there 😊 there is light at the end of the tunnel 😊

    I’m sure your family want to see you well and for yourself to feel well aswell 😊

  5. Whatsinaname
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    3 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Thank you and I definitely will chat to my GP.

    I really can't help but continue to argue with myself until I feel some kind of relief from what every i was panicked/anxious about.

    Its a very exhausting existence
  6. Petal22
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    3 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    That’s great you will have a chat to your gp....

    I understand anxiety is very exhausting.... you will get through it.... keep pushing forward πŸ’ͺ you are not alone 😊

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  7. Petal22
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    4 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Just a tip.... try not to interact with your thoughts just allow them to be there and they will float away...

    have you ever tried meditation? It’s great you could find one on your phone.... use a guided one for watching thoughts.. it takes practice but once you get the hang of it it’s great 😊

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  8. Whatsinaname
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    4 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I certainly do meditate and find it very useful, finding time and space to do it is another thing.

    I've found some peace today by repeating to myself "you're not a bad person" as I get lost in that shame spiral a lot
  9. aidane11
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    4 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname
    Hello. I am 12 years old from Australia and have had anxiety in the past. Things still crop up now but I have a good support network of people to talk to. I may not be the best person to give advice but I would suggest talking to people, thinking of the positives and believing that we will eventually come out of this horrible time. I'm sure you know much more about this stuff and strategies but I have one suggestion for you. You may already know him but Jason Stephenson is great for guided meditation and I find he helps. I guess I just want to pass on my wishes and hope you are ok. This will end eventually just hang in there and keep your friends and family close to you.
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  10. Petal22
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    4 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    That’s great you use meditation....

    Yes tell yourself positive things about your self every day... I believe in positivity...😊

    Try to live in the present moment .... the here and now is all that matters... our pasts don’t define our future.... I believe as humans we are all evolving and learning each day.... we can all train our brains to have a positive mind set... it just takes practice 😊 I believe our brains can be taught anything...

    We are all stronger than we think... sometimes we are challenged and I believe from these parts of our lives we grow from them 😊

    you will get through this... keep going.. never quit... there will be something great at the end of it 😊

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  11. Whatsinaname
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    5 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Wise word from a 12 year old! Thank you.

    My wife and a few close friends know everything about me and don't judge me at all.

    I know a trick is to imagine if your friend told you their fear and youd respond. Which I believe I wouldn't be concerned, but seems impossible to apply that to myself.

    I'm booked to see my GP Monday, so that should help.
  12. Petal22
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    5 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Yes I thought so aswell you are wise adane 11 😊

    that’s great you have non judgemental people in your life Whatsinaname ....

    that’s great you are seeing your gp on Monday I hope all goes well πŸ˜„ I’m sure it will help 😊

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  13. Petal22
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    7 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname
    Wishing you all the best with your appointment Whatsinaname 😊πŸ’ͺ
  14. Whatsinaname
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    7 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Thanks so much!

    In classic form I got the day wrong, its tomorrow haha
  15. Petal22
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    7 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Ha ha 😊 all good..... all the best for tomorrow 😊

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  16. Whatsinaname
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    19 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Back again,

    Ironically enough when I saw my GP I was having a really good day, so when talking to him about all of the above he recommend to leave medication as is and pursue a psycologist once the lock downs easy (which they have now) because the ones in town "aren't great"

    I've really been trying to tune into my anxiety over the last few months and something I found interesting is my anxiety seems to give me the most anxiety. I mean I still get triggers hit me hard but I can be having a good day and my brain will tell me dont be too happy because you have anxiety and then its down that rabbit hole.

    My mind confuses anxiety with being hungry and needing to go to the toilet too apparently, so that's fun.
  17. Petal22
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    19 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Hello Whatsinaname,

    Nice to hear from you....

    That’s great your restrictions are easing...

    Ok, hopefully you can find a good psychologist..... 😊 If you feel like you need to go back to your gp at any time to discuss medication you can always do that....😊

    I understand what you are saying with your brain saying you have anxiety.... but do you know what? Even if you get these thoughts just disregard them smile and keep pushing forward.... keep going about your day in a positive way.... do things that you enjoy....I found in my recovery when I had my anxious thoughts and feelings I would just allow them to be there and still go about my day as planned..... feed your mind with positive thoughts about yourself... create a positive mind set for yourself 😊

    I understand what you mean with anxiety we tend to need the toilet and food... it is fun 😊 have you tried exercise for your anxiety? I found this really helped aswell 😊

    keep in touch

  18. Whatsinaname
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    19 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    I actually used to be a very avid surfer, until my son came along and then lockdown.

    Now my wife, son and I go for walks, which I love doing but isn't the most strenuous exercise.
  19. Petal22
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    20 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    That’s great you love surfing with the lock down easing is it something you could get back into?

    i understand when kids come along our activities go on break for a little while.....

    that’s great you all go for walks 😊 maybe after your family walk you could head out for a jog or bike ride to add a bit of strenuous activity.... it’s really good for the brain 😊 I exercise every day and I think it helps with everything mind body and soul 😊

  20. Whatsinaname
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    28 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Hi Petal,

    Hoping you're still around anyway.

    I had a pretty big set back about a week ago and end up at the GP again today and he has given me short term fix medication.

    My psych app is next week once he gets back.

    Just struggling so thought I'd post to see if you're still around.
  21. Petal22
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    28 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Hi Whatsinaname,

    im still here 😊 sorry to hear you are struggling...... you will get through this just keep pushing forward πŸ’ͺ I know it can be tough but just believe in yourself and that you WILL overcome what you are going through...

    Well done for going back to your gp I hope the medication is helping you...

    I hope all goes well with you psych appointment..... I hope your psych can help you with some strategies....

    Things WILL get better .... take it easy on yourself..... please let me know if I can help you with anything.... strategies or just support....

    Your not alone.....

    Please stay in touch... and ask me any questions you have.... I’m here to help you and listen 😊

    Try to stay positive......

  22. Whatsinaname
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    HI Petal,

    Thanks for the reply, I know we don't know each other but its good to read a friendly reply.

    I keep telling myself I'm a good person and this is o ly temporary, but I constantly feel like im edge and its exhausting.

    My psych appointment can't come quick enough
  23. Petal22
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Good morning Whatsinaname,

    No worries 😊 I’m your friend... I’m here to support you....

    Yes the way you are feeling is only temporary.... it won’t last for ever.... things WILL get better 😊 just keep persevering.... day by day.... things WILL improve 😊 keep telling yourself positive things....

    I totally understand what you are saying anxiety does make you feel exhausted and on edge..... just try to be around people.... talk to them..... I found when I had sever anxiety it really helped to be around people.... try to practice your meditation and mindfulness this helps aswell 😊 even just going out for a walk or drive helps ....

    Your condition WILL improve just hang in there and keep going.... πŸ’ͺ

    All the best with your appointment

    please keep in touch I’m here if you want to chat... 😊

  24. Whatsinaname
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Thanks again.

    I'm pretty stressed I have moved through anxiety to depression.

    I have a real feeling of being stuck and hopeless.

    My appointment cant come quick enough
  25. Petal22
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Sorry to hear how you are feeling.... hang in there you WILL get through it.....

    I understand your feeling of feeling stuck and hopeless...... I believe nothing is ever hopeless there is always hope.... you CAN recover.... I’m living proof of that.... things WILL get better.....

    when I was in sever anxiety I would write myself a list the night before of the things I wanted to accomplish the next day and I’d cross each one off the list as I did them.....

    even if its

    cleaning the car, going for a walk, going out for a coffee, talking to a friend

    this got me moving every day, maybe give it a go.....😊

    I hope your appointment is soon.....

    Remember you CAN come back from this and you are never alone..... keep talking

    im here if you want to chat 😊

  26. Whatsinaname
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Thanks again, you're an amazing person.

    As with the last few days its about the time that I start to calm down.

    No idea why but its a welcome feeling.
  27. Petal22
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    29 September 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    No worries πŸ˜‰ thank you... through my journey I learned a lot about myself when I looked back and reflected.... I learned how resilient I am and how strong my journey has made me now.... we grow from our challenges I believe..... you too will see how resilient you are and that this challenge you are going through will strengthen you..... I believe we are always learning as human beings....

    I really hope you do settle soon and find some comfort... stay close to the ones you love they will bring you comfort.... I found just hugging someone I loved really helped....

    The tide will turn for you Whatsinaname in a positive way just keep persevering and do the best you can do ... day by day....

    im here for a chat 😊

  28. Whatsinaname
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    30 September 2020 in reply to Petal22
    Hi Petal,

    I dont have much to add but I didn't want you to think I was ignoring your kind words.

    Thanks again
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