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Topic: Dreams ruining your day

6 posts, 0 answered
  1. Whatsinaname
    Whatsinaname avatar
    93 posts
    6 June 2020
    Hi all,

    As usual just looking for some comfort in the solice that I'm no alone (hopefully).

    Last night my brain decided it would be fun the have dreams about every mistake I've made in my life so I could wake up anxious as possible.

    I know that my day is ruined, as I I'll spend it in my head, and odds are the next few days ill enjoy an anxiety hang over, just in time for this long weekend.

    Does anyone else fall off the ledge by a simple dream?

    Thanks,
  2. white knight
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    6 June 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    Hi, welcome

    Intrudive thoughts is not productive.

    Many years ago my then therapist (1985) recognised my unrealistic thought patterns. Every time I told him of a fear he’d ask- “is that realistic”?

    Like, fear of dying, of breaking my ankle when I just rolled it and getting cancer. Was I being realistic?- no.

    It is a clear sign of anxiety.

    google

    beyondblue topic anxiety, how I eliminated it

    cheers

    TonyWK

  3. Whatsinaname
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    93 posts
    6 June 2020 in reply to white knight
    Thanks TonyWK,

    My therapist also got me to acknowledge intrusive thoughts.

    My conscious mind is well aware of what is happening, but my unconscious mind/body is more than willing to accept the swat team are going to break down my door and lock me away from my family for ever for speeding the night before (just an example)
  4. white knight
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    6 June 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname

    These recommended threads can work wonders as they highlight the problem.

    worry worry worry

    is smother one.

    as told in the thread “anxiety, how I eliminated it “ that tells how it took 22 years to rid myself of anxiety. A long time, such is the “programmed” mind. All Zi can say is it is worth going through the daily rituals of relaxation before sleeping, acknowledge the thoughts are only thoughts and fears and distract your mind.

    definately what you put in you benefit from it.

    TonyWK

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  5. Sandonz
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    7 posts
    6 June 2020 in reply to Whatsinaname
    I have intrusive thoughts about events from the past. They come unwanted and day in day out. If anyone knows how to stop them please let me know. They are sucking the happiness and enjoyment of life clean out of me.
  6. white knight
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    6 June 2020 in reply to Sandonz

    Hi Sandonz

    your post is relevant here. Whatsinaname has this problem.

    Im 64yo and due to mania, had a colourful life. 90 jobs, 15 professions, RAAF, prison officer, security, PI, so on. In my young days in the Air Force I went off the rails and did a few things I regret among them I assaulted s room mate. I was 19yo.

    About 2 years ago I found his Facebook page. He is now living in Canada. So after 53 years I sent him s message including an apology- he blocked me. Friends of mine told me that they would have let it go 43years ago!

    Si this highlights a problem of guilt and intrusive uncontrollable thoughts.

    In response to this I wrote a few posts that are relevant and might help.

    guilt the tormentor

    sensitivity and depression- a connection

    capacities and expectations

    switching mindsets

    Your own worse enemy

    You can copy those and put them in the search bar at the top of the page. You only need to read the first post

    If you wish you can reply in those posts or here.

    TonyWK

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