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Topic: Feeling anxious and lonely. Can't sleep, crying and my chest is tight

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. Roogirl14
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    6 posts
    19 July 2020
    I have done something really stupid and I am very angry with myself. I have let my work colleagues and bosses down. I have apologised so many times but they dont believe me. I love the place I work at but they think I am a bad person now. I am very anxious about going to work tomorrow and feel like a failure. I am seeing my daughter today but I don't want to tell her what I have done. I live alone and have no one to talk to. Everytime I close my eyes the words just repeat through my head. Hence no sleep. O don't know what to do and feel like I am worthless.
    HELP
  2. Sophie_M
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    3673 posts
    19 July 2020 in reply to Roogirl14
    Hi Roogirl14
     
    We’re so grateful to have you reach out to our community this morning and are so sorry to hear about what you’ve been going through. It sounds like your experience at work has had an impact on your mental health, and this is a challenging time for you. We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you. If you would like some extra support, please phone beyondblue Support Service – 1300 22 4636 or we are available on web chat at www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.
    Keep checking in to let us know how you’re going, whenever you feel up to it.
     
  3. Croix
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    20 July 2020 in reply to Roogirl14

    Dear Roogirl14~

    I've read your other posts and understand you suffering from an anxiety condition. I understand as I have one too.

    I guess we'll start with a logical thing - which probably won't help much - and that is everybody makes mistakes. No exceptions no matter how high up the hierarchy or whatever face they present to the world. So you are in company.

    So having got that out the way I have two suggestions to keep you going, the first being if possible talk to your daughter. If, as I suspect, she is an OK sort of person she will be on your side and may be reassuringly easy to talk to.

    If she is not the one is there anyone else, non-judgmental and caring? Trying to face this problem by yourself is horrible. Just telling someone and talking really does seem to lift a physical weight of your shoulders.

    I hate waiting for the next day to resolve something, I tend to use the free smartphone App Smiling Mind a lot. It breaks my mind out of that loop of anxiety. It starts off with a very easy 2-minute mode and you can change up when you want. (the background music can be switched off -thank goodness)

    The other thing is hte trap I fall into. My anxiety gets me to think the very worst, and it is only by talking to someone I have confidence in -my partner or my psych - that I can get more of a sense of proportion and not catastrophize.

    Please let us know how you get on

    Croix

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  4. Roogirl14
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    6 posts
    20 July 2020 in reply to Croix
    Thankyou so much for your helpful advice. I spoke to my daughter and she was very understanding. Now I hoope my boss is the same today
  5. Croix
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    20 July 2020 in reply to Roogirl14

    Dear Roogirl14~

    I'm very glad you had your daughter to talk to, trying to wait in isolation is so hard/

    Please let us know how you got on at work

    Croix

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