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Topic: I may be the most unlucky person on the planet

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. i'mbadwithnames
    i'mbadwithnames avatar
    25 posts
    5 August 2020

    Hi guys!

    You may have seen me around a little bit, so I will just give a brief synopsis with an update. I am in a toxic abusive house and I have to be moved out by end of next week due to housemates cutting lease in the middle of a pandemic. I am moving back to my home state with family who refuse to acknowledge my (diagnosed) mental disorders and have been abusive in the past.

    Now onto the update.

    I have bad swelling in one of my feet and I went to see a doctor today. She said I have (likely) blood clotting around my foot which is obviously very dangerous.

    So now within the next week I have to move all the things out of my room and into the removalist area, get someone to help me put unsold furniture on the curb for hard rubbish collection, pack my car up and get that taken to the removalist, book flights, quit my job, somehow get rid of all the rubbish in my room (tips are closed now for general public and my housemates keep filling the bin before I can put anything in there just to be difficult), go get a scan on my foot and a follow up with a doctor, all the while wearing a mask and following COVID protocols that are literally changing every day.

    I'm not sleeping well, I'm not eating well, my anxiety is through the roof every second of every day and I don't know how I am supposed to get all of this done alone. I also don't have much money (my job was a casual minimum hour shift once a week) and, with my foot, struggle to walk without being in pain. I don't know how I am going to do this and am terrified and scared of this fast arriving deadline that seems to be getting more and more anxiety inducing every day. I am trying my best to take things one day at a time but I'm really struggling with even that concept. Now with the added anxiety of possible blood clots in my foot which is very dangerous, I feel overwhelmed by anxiety and don't want to do absolutely anything at all, which is in turn making my anxiety worse because the day keeps getting closer with not much more happening.

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  2. Sophie_M
    Sophie_M avatar
    3673 posts
    5 August 2020 in reply to i'mbadwithnames
    Hey i'mbadwithnames,
      We're so grateful that you have reached out to our community tonight, we know that it is not an easy thing to do and you have shown a lot of strength in sharing your story. We can hear how overwhelming things are feeling at the moment, and understand it must be especially tough to cope with during this pandemic. But please know that you don't have to go through this alone, this is a safe space to express your thoughts and feelings, and our wonderful community is here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need. If you feel up to it, we'd also really recommend reaching out to our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. You can also call our dedicated support line, staffed by mental health professionals, which is available 24/7 on 1800 512 348 or you can get in touch through webchat at: https://cmwssonline.beyondblue.org.au/ We hope that you keep checking in here on your thread to let us know how you're going, whenever you feel up to it.
  3. Andre_P
    Andre_P avatar
    66 posts
    5 August 2020 in reply to i'mbadwithnames

    Hey there. Doesn’t sound easy been inundated with all these tasks at hand. I know what it’s like. Some days I can’t even tackle anything. The worst part is thinking of everything at once, you end up achieving very little.

    1. on the days you don’t feel up to it, don’t push yourself, take an hour and just meditate or something that calms you down or talk to one of the councillors on here.

    2. If you do have to tackle something then break it down bit by bit and tackle just a part of that. Looking at everything definitely seems to overwhelm a person, especially in a stressed time and with ongoing ailments etc.

    I dunno what else to say but hope it gets easier along the way 👊🙂

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  4. i'mbadwithnames
    i'mbadwithnames avatar
    25 posts
    6 August 2020 in reply to i'mbadwithnames

    Hey guys! Thought I would pop in and let you guys know that I went and got an ultrasound today - no blood clotting. YAY, NO LOSING MY FOOT! It's quite concerning that now I have absolutely 0 clue what could be causing the swelling and pain, but that's not the point. Have to see this as a positive and think positively.

    I pretty much packed my car up today (couple more things to put in after housemates leave downstairs (every time they see me its a new issue and a new problem with me to complain about and it is literally driving me up the wall)) and drove into my job to hand in my resignation today. I will be able to book removalists tomorrow along with a car removalist. I still have a little bit of tetris to play in my car but will be able to do that over the weekend. I have to pick up one more box and some pain killers tomorrow (as they are all packed in my first aid kit in who knows what box) and then will be pretty much good to go.

    I feel tired and exhausted but I feel okay. I was very productive today, and it feels nice. My foot is pretty sore (wish I had those painkillers when he was shoving the ultrasound directly ontop of the sore spot) but I will rest for tonight and it might help.

    Thank you all for your support!

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  5. OrganizedNotReally
    OrganizedNotReally avatar
    17 posts
    20 August 2020 in reply to i'mbadwithnames

    Great that you getting through the tasks you need to one at a time.

    great news about your foot!

    keep going one step at a time and stay well!

    things will brighten up

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