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Topic: If you could describe your anxiety in one word, what would it be?

  1. YoyoBear
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    8 September 2021 in reply to Liamsi
    Sure is uncomfortable, and there’s no off switch, sometimes just lying down quite on your bed can help
  2. YoyoBear
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    8 September 2021 in reply to missep123
    Debilitating
  3. quirkywords
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    11 September 2021 in reply to YoyoBear
    Confusing
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    12 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Treatable

    (GP best choice if symptoms are having a detrimental effect on our ability to function on a daily basis)

  5. missep123
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    12 September 2021 in reply to YoyoBear

    Hi Yoyobear,

    I wish you the best of luck with your medication change, please let us know how you go. I can imagine it would be really difficult to feel up (but then be impulsive to purchases) and then down (sleeping and laying down). Those are big emotions and feelings to go through.

    It is good that you are able to speak to your psychiatrist about this and I really do hope that it helps to make you feel better

  6. Jodielianne
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    12 September 2021
    Drowing
  7. Emmy.
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    12 September 2021 in reply to Jodielianne
    Constant
  8. SR2333
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    12 September 2021
    Familar
  9. mmMekitty
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    478 posts
    13 September 2021

    Jumpy; spikey; intolerant; exhausted; flummoxed; discombobulated; unsettled; unsure - no, I cannot describe how my anxious feelings feel to me.

    All I am sure of is that I need to pause, sit perhaps in a dim room, to reduce stimuli, remember to breathe (maybe), and hopefully, not beat up on myself as much as usual.

    mm...Mekitty, wishing us all some peace.

  10. missep123
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    16 September 2021 in reply to mmMekitty
    Attached to me
  11. n2k12
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    16 September 2021 in reply to Ggrand
    For me, terrible. I literally have trouble taking the garbage out. I manage to do it every 3 days, i do a real brisk walk to the otto bin and back. As for checking the mailbox, it might get done once a fortnight. I cant go out on my own, i cant use public transport, and i have tried. it results in panic attacks and dizziness. I have valium, however i prefer not to rely on it. I am inside 24/7 99% of the time. I get my groceries home delivered, as i simply cannot handle the outside world in any shape or form. I was not always this way. its been the last year, that something....changed.
  12. Sequoia
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    18 September 2021
    Suffocating
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  13. missep123
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    24 September 2021 in reply to missep123
    Holding me back
  14. CMF
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    26 September 2021 in reply to missep123

    Returning

    Annoying

    Draining

  15. quirkywords
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    26 September 2021 in reply to CMF

    Overthinking

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  16. Wanti
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    27 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    Trapped

    unconfident

    Pathetic

    weak

    hopeless

    i hate having anxiety.

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  17. Anna1991
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    28 September 2021

    The word I would use today is - "irritating". Like an annoying fly that I can swat away.

    On other days (including yesterday) - "overwhelming". Years ago, "unbearable".

    I feel like I will always have a spectrum of anxiety given it's been there for as long as I can remember (I had my first panic attack at 8) but after years of therapy and eventually taking more steps forward than steps back I feel like I can manage my anxiety, rather than it controlling me.

  18. Resilience21
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    8 posts
    2 October 2021

    Anxiety is after all, only a feeling,

    and a feeling can be changed.

    Breathing helps, and the right selftalk.

    I found great relief from anxiety by adhering to Dr Weekes principles.

    “By your facing the things you fear, recovery lies in the places and experiences feared”.
    by Dr Claire Weekes (mentioned under helpful books tab).

    Cheers B

  19. SarahJB89
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    1 posts
    2 October 2021
    Hell!
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  20. mmMekitty
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    478 posts
    3 October 2021
    At the core, I'm feeling an impending threat, I'm frightened, my skin tingles, my antennae are out and like a snake's tongue, probing the air, searching for the danger. So, restless, alert, panicky, unsafe - vulnerable, to be more accurate.
  21. Mk2692
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    52 posts
    3 October 2021
    overwhelming
  22. ecomama
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    5 October 2021 in reply to Mk2692

    Suffocating

  23. mmMekitty
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    478 posts
    6 October 2021

    I have spoken to my PDr about what happens when I am anxious, me trying to understand what is happening in the moments, and he says, at times, I am panicking. I trust he knows what he's talking about, but for me, I wonder if I am 'losing the plot', showing signs of some sort of dementia. Later, maybe, but surely not at my current age.

    Sometimes, WHEN, I am quietly 'panicking', I am confused: I forget what day it is, what I am supposed to be doing, and don't comprehend well what is said to me. & I'll forget things I needed to remember. Things are moving too fast. I'm so nervous, & don't feel comfortable enough to ask for a break or to slow down. Taking notes is not at all convenient for me, and I am too flustered.

    So, the words I have here:

    Confused,

    Forgetful,

    Uncomprehending,

    Rushed,

    Nervous,

    Uncomfortable,

    & when I leave, I feel incapable; failure; lost.

  24. I_love_pugs
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    3 posts
    6 October 2021

    overthinking

    draining

    tiring

  25. lildancer
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    1 posts
    6 October 2021
    Yo-yo
  26. missep123
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    7 October 2021 in reply to missep123
    Makes me self-exclude
  27. missep123
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    7 October 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty,

    I completely know how you feel! If it makes you feel better, when we become anxious this can trigger the flight-or-fight response in our brain. The stress hormones flood our brain and it can make it more difficult to think rationally. Basically it can overwhelm our system so it can make it difficult to focus on basic things. Then we can start to panic more when we put pressure on ourselves and get scared when we can't remember certain things in the moment.

    I have definitely felt this! Please know you are not alone. I try to remind myself to breathe and that it's all okay. Once I'm in a calmer state of mind then I try to recall things.

    We are definitely here for you!

  28. mmMekitty
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    478 posts
    7 October 2021 in reply to missep123

    Thanks Mis sep123,

    Indeed, it i s when I am expected to respond quickly, or when others are behind me, wanting to beserved, or I'm feeling from within myself, that I am taking too long to say or do what is required, when this happens. & when my confidence is particularly lower than usual.

    So, add:

    Pressured, Rushed, and other similes,

    Flustered,

    incapable...or to be more precise, when I'm thinking I am dumb, slow, not as good at these things as everyone else, clumsy, oh, everything I ever heard I was from my (ex-)step-mother.

  29. Sholey
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    3 posts
    9 October 2021
    DREAD
  30. Andre_P
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    89 posts
    18 October 2021
    Debilitating

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