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Topic: Ignoring orders when growing up.

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  1. SwansandSharksMan
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    16 September 2020
    When you were growing up, what would happen to you if you didn’t do as you were told, or just totally ignored your parent’s orders? Did your parents punish you severely? I just remember being extremely frightened of disobeying my parents so I always did as I was told and didn’t want make them angry.
  2. romantic_thi3f
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    17 September 2020 in reply to SwansandSharksMan

    Hi SwansandSharksMan,

    So I had a lot of friends that disobeyed their parents, and for the most part nothing really happened or the parents would yell a bit, but then all would be fine.

    I was a bit like you in being afraid to disobey my parents - when I was a kid everything had to be done right so that I wouldn't upset anyone, and that included not breaking any rules or questioning any rules.

    rt

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    17 September 2020 in reply to SwansandSharksMan

    Hi SwansandSharksMan

    Thanks for reaching out, we know it can be daunting so we appreciate you being here. Personally, my parents were always firm but fair, and I could always speak up and say something if I felt especially upset. This is an important part of trust and respect, even within a parent/child dynamic, I think. That's not to say I wouldn't do a few things differently from them if I had children of my own- but that's a part of learning and getting to make our own parenting decisions when we grow up.

    I hope that gives you a bit of insight or one perspective to consider along with romantic_thi3f's. What was your experience like? Is there something in particular you feel you need to reflect on? We are here to listen if you need it.

    Tay100

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    18 September 2020 in reply to SwansandSharksMan

    Hello SaSM, and in relation to what rt and Tay have said is exactly what happened when my twin and I were growing up, but there were on many an occasion we would slightly diverate away from what we were told to do, and when asked if we had done it, we had our fingers crossed.

    All of this is how we begin to learn, which is something we never stop learning.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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