Yep water seeks its own level.
Wow I've never Googled it! lol I was told this same thing during the aftermath of my D Day years ago... + many other quotes too which I LOVE... like I thought I married my Knight in shining armour but it was just an idiot in tin foil. Hm lol.
I had to Google it to see what you may have read, that's exactly what I meant.
Not that YOU were seeking that ex's level... heck no!
That the ex has flipped you off and is seeking its OWN level.
You LEFT! You knew this wasn't "your level".
Your level is far higher than that.
That's why that r/ship would never work.
ex is broken.
So from that understanding about water seeking its own level... is to raise your expectations / even promises to yourself about what you want & what you will NOT tolerate in r/ships.
Also to develop those core character traits within you like trustworthiness, steadfastness, reliability, authenticity etc so that you have embodied integrity & emanate it also.
Stephen Covey's book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" is a boomer for this!
I hate to say this so bluntly, but that relationship was NOT about you as a person, in fact it wasn't about you at all!
Narcs don't "see" or know the other person, they only seek "supply".
They can never truly be intimate with another person and I understand that being loved and appreciated for being uniquely YOU is what would most likely be some things you would want from a long term r/ship.
That person could never give you this, only abuse for wanting it... basically abuse for nothing!
So good luck to its next victim.
More about you and lamenting over whether you'll find this or that... I'm sure most of us have these thoughts after a r/ship ends esp if we would like to be in a loving one at some point.
The more you LOVE and APPRECIATE yourself, the more likely you'll attract someone who does also. We could talk about "the next person" and working on self till the cows come home...
for now, my really happy acceptance is KNOWING that we are born alone, travel life more or less alone regardless of r/ships - our journey to the end is alone.
So when we LOVE our-self then we have awesome travelling company lol.
There are no guarantees or promises in life that anyone can guarantee anything to you, anyone else or even themselves BUT If you read Covey's book, you'll develop a "flight path" that is set BY you & can seldom be shaken.
The one thing you MUST do is look after yourself!