yeah - we can be very difficult.
Its extremely hard for us to talk about whats bothering us. For me (It may be the same with your partner too?) I grew up where you were kinda expected to keep your problems to yourself and just 'sort it out'. Mental health - particularly mens mental health was not in the spotlight, so I kept everything that was going on in my head to myself for the next 10-15 years. Everyday I just put the 'happy mask' on to get through the day.
Long story short - I had a breakdown about 8 months ago and I recognised that I needed help. Talking about it to my partner, my family and friends was such a liberating experience. I realised I had so much love and support around me I wasnt alone - everything I needed to help me was right in front of me and I didnt see it. I realised communication is key and that it was ok to talk about feelings.
Does your partner have mates that can give him a bit of a nudge of encouragement?
Theres 2 facebook groups that I follow that are really really goood. They focus on mental health - particularly mens mental health but they may help you too!
Haka for life - The creator is amazing, he talks really make you think. right now hes doing 3 check ins a week to talk about mental health. Check out his 25 pushups for 25 days challenge videos - they are so on point.
Mens group - build a brotherhood.
You have every right to feel the way you do!
As harsh as it sounds - your partner needs to be pulled up and told straight out he needs help because its not only affecting him, but you also.
I was hit with that truth bomb.
I hope ive been of some help! feel free to reply if you want :)