Thanks for reaching out. You are very brave and courageous in doing so. Firstly, I want to say I'm really sorry to her about your situation right now. You must be feeling really confused and upset with his conflicting actions, which I can somewhat relate to with my past relationship. In my recent 4 year relationship, I only saw my boyfriend's (now ex) parents once! It was definitely a red flag, which I always ignored, despite my friends continuously pointing it out. However, during isolation, and with the excessive amount of spare time it provided me to reflect, I came to the realisation that it was definitely a big issue with our relationship, and hence ended it. Similar to what the other members have suggested, I think establishing some time away from him may give you better clarity to what direction you want to take in the future. It may also give the space and clarity to determine what is best for your mental health. Do you have a strong support system around you? It might be helpful to talk to a close family member or friend about your current situation and what they see in terms of the relationship dynamic from an outside perspective . Please remember your are worthy and deserving of love equal to the love you give back :)
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Wishing you all the best and sending you positive thoughts x