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Topic: OCD and asking for the help you need

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  1. Petal22
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    15 May 2021

    Hi everyone,

    I wanted to start this thread in the hope it helps someone to feel they can ask for help in regards to their OCD...

    When you have OCD it can feel like a very overwhelming scary place to live in..

    We have intrusive thoughts that can seem taboo to the sufferer to talk about with someone you know let alone a health professional who we don’t know..

    We have the thoughts of “ what is this person going to think of me for having these thoughts “...... so some people suffer in silence instead of reaching out to a professional....

    OCD is a condition that is very treatable..... our health professionals can help us.....

    You can learn to get on top of your OCD.... with the help of professionals.... many people have this condition... choose to ask for help.... if you think you have OCD talk to a health professional about it.... try to be as honest as you can about the thoughts you are having so a clear diagnosis can be made, try not to hide the thoughts.... if we try to hide them OCD can be missed in the diagnosis and it can be be brushed aside as just anxiety.... so be as open as you can so you can receive the correct treatment....

    OCD has a name, for me it was intrusive thoughts that seemed irrational but felt very real...... the anxiety with OCD is very intense.....

    there is help out there available for OCD you don’t have to live with it... learn how to beat it with treatment because you CAN! Life can be great after OCD! Just be brave and ask for help....

    im here if anyone wants to chat 😊

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    18 May 2021 in reply to Petal22

    Hi Petal

    I'm sorry no one has comment thus far. However 2 have liked your valuable thread and it covers a topic that I have little knowledge of.

    My post here will cause the thread to go back to the top of the list of threads so hoping you'll get a reply.

    When we post a new topic with valuable information many people later on google that topic eg OCD and are led to this site to educate themselves and therefore contribute so your efforts are not in vain.

    TonyWK

  3. Gambit87
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    18 May 2021 in reply to Petal22

    Great post Petal!

    OCD has a name, for me it was intrusive thoughts that seemed irrational but felt very real...... the anxiety with OCD is very intense.....

    This was me, it got to the point where I was thinking maybe I should push a police officer or hand myself into the police station so they will lock me up. I would hide it and was afraid to ask for help because I thought I was a terrible person for having these intrusive thoughts.

    Then I asked for help. So far im a year and a half into therapy and working on myself and I am so much better and in a way better place then were I was. I still get the intrusive thoughts but thats based on how anxious I get and I know that these are just fake thoughts or fake news I call them.

  4. Petal22
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    18 May 2021 in reply to white knight

    Thank you White knight for your reply 😊 I appreciate it

    My hope is that someone with OCD will read my post and it will give them courage to seek the professional help they need to recover....because recovery is possible...

    thanks again

  5. Petal22
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    18 May 2021 in reply to Gambit87

    Thank you Gambit87,

    Congratulations on asking and receiving the help you need.... I wish you all the best for your future...

    I did group therapy for my OCD this is we’re I learned to master my OCD.... I did my therapy almost 4 years ago and I’m still going strong in my recovery..... I work on myself daily and I know I now have the “ skills “ I need to stay recovered.... thanks to the help of our professionals...

    OCD is a very cruel disorder, my hope is that if anyone thinks they have OCD to not suffer in silence.... seek the help from professionals because there are skills we can learn to help us deal with OCD and even beat it... we can get on top of our OCD....

    Yes I still have intrusive thoughts but I’ve learned that this is completely normal I now just let them come and go and don’t put my attention on them anymore......

    that’s were they stop for me now... just at the thought I no longer get caught up in them.... 😊

  6. Knots0
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    19 May 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Hi, Ive been suffering with OCD since I was 11 years old, now 44. Seing a psychiatrist when I was 25 literaly saved my life. Im currently going through a very severe episode, the first bad one since I first sought help. The first available apointment in in 3 months. I have a few tools ive learned to keep me afloat, but it gets hard sometimes. I cant belive it takes so long to get help. I know there are crisis options, but I want to avoid this if I can. Any advice?
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    19 May 2021 in reply to Knots0
    Hi Knots0,

    Thanks for reaching out here. We're sorry to hear that you are currently going through a severe episode. It's great that you've come here for some advice - hopefully something here can help.

    The Beyond Blue Support Service will be able to offer you some advice for what could help you in the interim. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  

    Additionally, you could access short term counselling via helplines. Lifeline is a national charity providing all Australians experiencing emotional distress with access to 24 hour crisis support and suicide prevention services. You can call them 24/7 on 13 11 14, or chat with them online 7pm-midnight AEDT - https://www.lifeline.org.au/crisis-chat/

    We hope that the forums will offer you some comfort during this difficult interim period. Thanks again for reaching out.

     
  8. Petal22
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    19 May 2021 in reply to Knots0

    Hi knots0,

    Thank you for reaching out to me 😊

    Sorry to hear you are currently going through a severe OCD.

    my skills I learned were: attention training doing this exercise helps your attention our attention is like a muscle and it needs exercise, attention training also brings us out of our head and into the present moment....

    when you are having an intrusive thought instead of putting your attention on the thought practice attention training.. so your attention is focused on the present rather than on your intrusive thoughts.

    meditation was another tool I use.... we had a particular meditation to do during our OCD therapy.... you could try to find one on your phone... look for a meditation for ... watching your thoughts.....

    meditation taught me that I’m not my thoughts but the watcher of my thoughts.... I can now sit back and watch my thoughts come and go and not get caught up in them

    you can even practice watching your breath and every time you notice your mind wondering from your breath you can bring it back to your breath.... this helps with our attention and it also helps to reduce our anxiety..

    we learned how to challenge our thoughts.... the for s and against our thoughts...

    I learned in therapy that these intrusive thoughts/ urges/ images mean nothing I’m normal 94 percent of people have them....

    even if they seem or feel really awful they still mean I’m normal they are just random activity

    when I have an intrusion ( and I will) I can....

    let it go

    be present

    gently dismiss as “ my intrusion “

    be ok with uncertainty nothing is 100 percent certain.

    I don’t need to

    analyse

    seek reassurance

    checking

    avoid the thoughts

    because: they don’t mean anything.. “ thoughts mean nothing “

    this is driving the new system.... “ practice it.... 😊

    if I have a bad day ( get caught up in intrusion thoughts or compulsions) I can remind myself that OCD occurs on a sliding scale.

    if I keep working at driving my new system my good days will outweigh my bad days!

    OCD is a vicious cycle.... when you feel you are having an intrusive thought try not to put your attention on it..... choose to put your attention on the present moment instead or practice attention training or mindfulness..... try to stop your cycle at the thought....

    it takes practice to learn your skills but once you learn them they will start to come easy to you.....

    I was also put on an antidepressant to many my anxiety...

    please know you aren’t alone

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  9. Petal22
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    19 May 2021 in reply to Knots0

    I’m sorry you are going through a severe episode... I understand how this feels I went through two severe episodes in my life time...

    sorry it will take so long for you to receive help... is there a gp you can see in the mean time?

    I wanted to give you an example of attention training... if you are washing the dishes... what does the water feel like, what can you smell, how do the dishes sound? This will bring you into the present moment and not inside your head....

    practice trying to let the thoughts go.... when you have the thought say to yourself let it go and put your attention on something in the present moment

    please know you arnt alone and I’m here if you have any questions or need support...

    you can learn to overcome and mange OCD..... hang in there ..

  10. Petal22
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    19 May 2021 in reply to Knots0

    I just wanted to give you some more strategies in regards to getting caught up in the OCD cycle..

    What are the early warning signs that tell me I have begun to get caught up in my OCD cycle and need to do something about it myself? ( e.g when I have started to ruminate on the meaning and significance of my thoughts, when I am caught in doing my compulsive behaviour) :

    • reaction to initial thought
    • analysing
    • ruminating
    • questioning
    • stuck in your head

    what are some of the coping statements or helpful phrases that I can use to interrupt my OCD cycle get myself back on track?

    • go back to the present moment
    • intrusive thoughts are normal every one has them it’s just a feeling it’s normal every one has them.
    • thoughts are not reality and this exists only in my head

    hope this helps you Knots0’s 😊

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    20 May 2021 in reply to Petal22

    Hello Petal, this is a terrific thread and there are many good suggestions supported by different people, but we need to remember what may work for one person, may not be the case for another person, so it's actually no different from many things in life, for example, one person can run the 100 metres in 30 seconds, while another person can only do it in 45 seconds.

    Some people may have to count to 100 and if for any reason they are interrupted, they have to start from scratch again, beginning at one, the same applies if another person has to swallow their own saliva 30 times, not only is this exhausting but again if they are disturbed, they have to start all over again.

    If you going to visit someone and you have any intrusive thoughts about this particular person, you might try and convince yourself not to have any of these thoughts, which only makes the situation worse, so they rapidly take over your mind and dominate.

    It's an illness that is difficult to explain to another person who doesn't suffer from it because all they say is 'why do you need to do that'.

    My best.

    Geoff.

  12. Knots0
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    20 May 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Hi, Thanks everyone for your support and ideas, I constantly do mindfulness exersises etc, and they help. I think I would be in a much worse place without it. Nice to know there is a community out there. Keep up the good work
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  13. Petal22
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    20 May 2021 in reply to Knots0

    Thanks Knots 0,

    That’s great you do mindfulness exercises.... they are wonderful.... keep practicing.... I found breaking free of the OCD cycle took perseverance and practice....

    Exercise is also great for it aswell, I like practicing mindfulness while out walking.... also being with people also helped me 😊

    keep talking, you aren’t alone.... we are all always here to support and chat to you anytime 😊

    please reach out to us if you feel you want to have a chat..

    keep up the practice 😊

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    20 May 2021 in reply to geoff

    Thanks Geoff :-)

    There is always hope that the person suffering reaches out to a professional and finds the correct treatment for them 😊

    all the best

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  15. Chizzy
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    Hi, this is my first time ever on this forum, I suffer with OCD I’ve had it my whole life I am 32 years old now and I’m having intrusive thoughts about my beautiful wife, it makes me doubt my love, attraction and makes me always feel so terrible and I even start crying when I can’t deal with the thoughts and the possibility that it’s real thoughts, my compulsions are always reassurance seeking, I am on medication which helps but I still get my terrible days.
  16. Petal22
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    1 June 2021 in reply to Chizzy

    Hi Chizzy,

    Welcome to our forums and thank you for reaching out to me.

    I totally understand what you are saying about your intrusive thoughts. The OCD cycle is a vicious cycle..... you can learn to break free of its grips with the correct help.

    have you done any type of therapy for your OCD? I did meta cognitive therapy....... it was the best thing I ever did..... I learned to master my OCD...

    I had very severe OCD it was very distressing for me and debilitating.... after doing my therapy and putting it all in to practice on a daily basis I no longer get caught up in my OCD cycle..... I still have intrusive thoughts but that’s were they stay now as just intrusive thoughts I have learned not to ask for reassurance, not to question the thought or analyse the thought... I no longer do compulsions.... by not doing these things I have disengaged from my OCD cycle.........

    I too use to react the same way you do in regards to becoming distressed by my intrusive thoughts....I was also put on medication.... antidepressants to manage my anxiety... I’m glad your medication helps you..... I had really terrible days too until I did my therapy.... in therapy I learned OCD runs on a sliding scale some days will be better than others but eventually your good days will out way your bad days....

    if you haven’t done therapy for your OCD I highly recommend you do therapy..... it will teach you so many tools to help you manage your OCD if I can recover from OCD there is hope you can too...

    im here if you have any questions or want to chat 😊

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    1 June 2021 in reply to Chizzy

    Hello Chizzy, and welcome to the forums and thanks Petal for your reply.

    I'm really sorry you are having these thoughts, there is nothing worse that could possibly happen because you have to acknowledge that these thoughts are not true, it's the illness making you think this way, you love your wife and OCD is trying to punish you, but in all my experience of having OCD for 60 odd years, none of these thoughts have ever come true.

    These are only toying with your mind, be open with your wife, tell her about them, but also tell her that this is what happens to someone suffering from this illness and once they begin ask her to distract you.

    Everyone has thoughts like these but it's different when you have OCD because it seems to be more intense, plus they reoccur, once you discuss with her, she will show you that it's only your mind playing with you.

    Let the love for her dominate how you are thinking.

    Take care.

    Geoff.

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  18. Chizzy
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    1 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Just like to Thankyou petal and Geoff for your replies, I really appreciate it your words give me peace as I know I’m not the only one who is dealing with this and I have hope I can get ontop of my OCD, I have had psychological help and I am currently seeing one now, but I will mention meta cognitive therapy to him and see what he says, my ocd is very tricky as for some reason if my wife has her hair up in a bun I get anxiety and think it must mean I’m not attracted to her and then I get a lot more panicky and I have to ask my parents or even my wife that these are not true, for some reasons I am hyper focused on her looks which kills me as I am not shallow and I love my wife and wouldn’t want to think this.
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  19. Petal22
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    1 June 2021 in reply to Chizzy

    That’s ok Chizzy happy to support you 😊 you are not alone many people have this condition..... you can get on top of your OCD Chizzy it just takes practice....

    I saw a specialised clinic that dealt with OCD it was an 8 week therapy.....

    As said above the therapy was meta cognitive..... I really believe this therapy is great for someone with OCD it teaches us how to break free of its cycle and yes you can learn to break free Chizzy! Once you learn how you will begin to fly..... it takes time and practice to learn the skills you are taught but once you learn them you will feel free of the OCD cycle...... you can learn many tools.....

    can I ask if your psychologist is trained in the OCD area? I believe it’s a specialised area we’re certain phycologists understand it...

    please mention the therapy to your phycologist and let me know how you go....

    ok I can see were you are going in your ocd cycle with what you are saying when your wife has her hair in a bun..... I think you are looking for a meaning in this thought which is something that happens in our ocd cycle..... your anxiety then goes up and you ask for reassurance as a compulsion to bring it down.......

    can I ask next time this happens instead of looking for a meaning in the thought just turn your attention to something in the present moment instead.... like how does your feet feel on the ground or what can you see? Also do this instead of seeking re assurance.... just allow the thoughts to be there but redirect your attention to something in the present moment..... let me know how you go it does take practice....

    have you tried any meditation? We did a specialised one in our ocd therapy....

    I think it’s wonderful that you are receiving professional help... well done...

    please let me know how you go..

    there is always hope Chizzy.... you can learn to get on top of your OCD..

    im always here to chat to you 😊

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    2 June 2021 in reply to Chizzy

    Hello Chizzy and thanks again Petal.

    I hope that as Petal has suggested seeing someone who is trained in this field and if I can say that I did an online course to help people with OCD, from memory it was free, and during it, I did seem to improve but as soon as the course finished, I was lazy and didn't abide by what I was taught.

    After 60 odd years of having this illness, yes I still have my obsessions/compulsions as my psychologist was going to deal with my OCD after I had recovered from depression, but she suddenly left the practice, now having to still do them, but at a much reduced amount, it doesn't make me anxious any more, that doesn't mean I would love to not have it, I only wish I didn't.

    Best wishes.

    Geoff.

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