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Topic: Perceptions and unkindness: GAD and me

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  1. Peace2021
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    7 April 2021
    I am posting for the first time. I have managed(suffered?!) GAD for years and have worked through it time after time. I know I have to continuously manage it and sometimes it rears it’s ugly head without me even knowing! It’s only when people get frustrated with me that I have to remember to get control of it again. Family members cry out ‘You don’t listen!!’ ‘You don’t remember anything!’ ‘Hellooo!!’ As a senior executive, I am also fed up with it all at work. I love my job but feel as though this constant roller coaster will ruin everything. I’ve been deep in depression off and on over the years and don’t want to go there again but geez, how do you tell people what you’re experiencing when the family has these expectations of you and at work the perception is (or has to be) you’re all over it. Life is making me anxious. People can be cruel and it is a constant battle. Anyone else ever feel like just giving up your dreams and admitting defeat over anxiety?
  2. white knight
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    7 April 2021 in reply to Peace2021

    Hi, welcome

    Well, anxiety I overcame many years ago. I have bipolar and depression etc but it was the anxiety that I recovered from but it took many years and lots of adjustments.

    Not bragging but I realised early in the peace I'd need to approach the illness with many prongs not just medication and therapy. It took 22 years to overcome fully but 5-8 years most of it was gone. You only need to read the first post of the following

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it#qpS1gXHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    Other aspects that help-

    • If possible give up full time work and work part time, even 2 part time jobs is better as your environment is changing more often

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/meditation---words-of-wisdom---it-helped-me-for-25-years#qe4ivHHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/the-toll-of-stress-upon-us#qzCH_HHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/supermarket-shelves#qlo-znHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

    I hope they help.

    Repost antime

    TonyWK

  3. S D
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    7 April 2021 in reply to Peace2021

    Hey Peace2021,

    Thanks for your contribution. On one hand anxiety can be crippling at times and then on the other sometimes I feel it can motivate us to achieve things which is the paradox of suffering from GAD. It's very understandable that after experiencing it for so long you may sometimes feel like giving up, although perhaps you could try slightly re-framing this. Maybe next time you feel that your anxiety is rearing it's head you could find a quiet place and just sit with it, honour it, welcome it into your mind. Offer it a cup of metaphorical tea. What we resist, persists they say and sometimes if we're in a big of a tug of war with our anxieties it can feel like they're getting stronger. If we just allow ourselves 20 mins a day of letting the anxiety do whatever it wants internally and just observe it without judgement it may start to lose its hold on us. Another good tip someone has given me is to actually give a human name to the anxious thoughts, let's call them 'Frank'. Instead of seeing the anxiety as inseparable from yourself start to image that Frank is talking to you again, have an internal conversation with him and see if you can try to understand why he is bothering you, what does he need? What is he trying to draw your attention to? There is a great book I read, an autobiography about a women who was a singer and for most of her life she was consumed with her anxiety. After applying this technique which she called "F off Frank" she was able to start to de-personalise the anxious thoughts to the point where she was no longer letting them get in the way of her dreams, she eventually became a famous singer/ song writer and used her experiences of anxiety as material for her music. Hope this helps!

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