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Topic: Tired

  1. Michelle34
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    12 June 2021 in reply to CalmCat
    I disagree, as I’ve done this before and lost my job. Some employers do not understand mental illness when it really comes down to it
  2. Truetomyself
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    12 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Is there anyone who gets really bad anxiety to the point of being agrophobic?
  3. Petal22
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    12 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi truetomyself,

    So sorry you are feeling this way it must be really difficult……

    Is there anyone at home with you now that you can talk to and tell them what you have just told me and ask them to take you to the hospital emergency so you can talk to a doctor…..

    please, please don’t give up reach deep inside your self and find something anything to hold onto, find your inner light … trust me it’s there …. Keep fighting….. you CAN recover, your condition is temporary….. the best is yet to come…….

    let me know how you go

  4. Truetomyself
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    12 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    My parents don't want to take me as I have been many times. I have to have tough love. I have had this for so long. I have no friends. No support. It's hard. I have had to reach down for 16 years so far.
  5. Petal22
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    12 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I’m so sorry to hear this truetomyself, i really believe you would benefit from seeing a doctor now….. your symptoms need treatment………

    How would you feel about calling a ambulance yourself?

    I know it’s really hard but once you see the correct people for treatment the quicker you can start to recover….

    we are here for you

    please hang in there and seek help even if you have to be brave and do this yourself…. You can, there are people who can help you

  6. Truetomyself
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    13 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I can't call an ambulance. My father would get angry. I don't know what to do anymore.
  7. TheWookie
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    13 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Have you called the beyond blue helpline? I have, many times. It is good to talk, and they are trained psychology talking peoples.
  8. Petal22
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    13 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Good morning truetomyself,

    Ok, I understand…..

    Maybe try to call beyond blue and have a chat to someone there? I’m sure they could help you….. talking helps……

    please know I’m always here if you want to have a chat with me….

    let me know how you go

  9. Truetomyself
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    17 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Today the police did a welfare check and then my mum just lectured me. I had a panic attack. She said why can't I get out of bed and clean up, I am lazy and ruining her nerves. I don't know how to make her understand it. I don't know how to make others understand. I am struggling with it all. I am just a burden that is better off gone. I am impacting all around me.
  10. Sophie_M
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    17 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself, 

    Sorry to hear that you are struggling so much lately, not able to get out of bed, panic attacks, not being understood and needing a welfare check today. It must be so difficult to need support and to have loved ones not understand where you are coming from. We have contacted you privately to offer you support.

    We would strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). 

    If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

    You are not alone and we are all here to support you. 
  11. Petal22
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    17 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi truetomyself,

    so sorry to hear all of this …….. I know it’s hard but please hang in there…….

    Sorry your mum said all of that it’s very hurtful, she doesn’t understand but there are people who do and want to help you…

    try calling beyond blue for a chat……

    im always here to chat to you

  12. Truetomyself
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    19 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Thank you. But I am frightened and scared. I don't know how much longer I can do this for.
  13. Sophie_M
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    19 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    Thanks for posting here and letting us know how you're doing. We're sorry to hear you are feeling scared. Our Support Service is reaching out to you privately to do a check in. Your wellbeing is of utmost importance.

    Please remember that there are support services avalable. In overwhelming moments you can contact our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). 

    If you are at immediate risk, this is an emergency and you must contact triple zero (000).

    Please keep checking in with us here. We care about you and you are not alone.
  14. Petal22
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    19 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Good morning Truetomyself,

    Sorry you are feeling this way, try to breath slowly breath in, breath out slowly……. Repeat……….. ( this will help your anxiety)………

    You are strong truetomyself, stronger than you realise keep going I know you can…….. I know it’s hard but you will get through this………

    Have you tried to contact someone at Beyond Blue for a chat? Please do if you can…. I think it will help you…, there are people there who care about you and want to help you……

    im here to chat to you

  15. Truetomyself
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    20 June 2021 in reply to Petal22

    I am affecting everyone around me. My mum said I am making her nerves go. I miss my grandma. She was my safe person.

    I don't want to go to hospital. No one knows what to do with me. I feel afraid. I can't stop crying and I feel frozen to my bed.

    I am a nuisance to the world and my family.

  16. Petal22
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    20 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Good morning Truetomyself,

    Thank you so much for chatting to me 😊

    ohhh your grandmother must have been a beautiful lady, I understand how much you must miss her…

    Im sorry your mum isn’t being very understanding …..your mum s behaviour reflects the person she is it’s not you……..

    You are a beautiful human being with a wonderful life ahead of you….. you can get better from what you are going through…. You really are a very strong person…. Look at how much you have gone through already…….

    I understand you don’t want to go to hospital……….. do you think you could see a gp? You could talk about the way you have been feeling…….. there are people who care about you and want to see you well………

    I understand the way you are feeling is scary… it’s a strong feeling….. but it’s temporary …………. I also experienced these feelings…… I was really scared aswell……. I received help from my very caring doctor and psychologists …….I’m now better thanks to the help they gave to me…. You really can get better….. Truetomyself ………

    Please keep chatting to me, I’d like to be your friend and help you…… hang in there things will get better…… 😊

  17. Truetomyself
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    20 June 2021 in reply to Petal22

    I have no friends so thank you for offering to be my friend. I feel so alone.

    I haven't showered for a week and I am afraid. I live back with my parents. My father caused all the trauma and my PTSD is high. I am eating on and off. This week I ate nothing. I am afraid of outside.

    But no one understands I get agrophobic.

    My parents don't understand. I am tired of being yelled at. Make it go away. I have suffered enough.

  18. Sophie_M
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    20 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    Thank you so much for keeping the community updated on how you've been going. We're glad to see the caring support from your friends here on the forums, and we hope that you can find some comfort in feeling a little less alone through this. It sounds like things must be feeling incredibly overwhelming to cope with at the moment, and we are so sorry to hear that you've been struggling to shower and eat. We're worried about your wellbeing, and are currently checking in with you via email with some extra support through this.

    Please remember that extra support is always here for you to talk things through when it's getting too much- including from our BB Support Service (1300 22 4636), our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467). These services are here for you 24/7 to use as often as you need, and we'd urge you to reach out and get the support that you deserve through this difficult time.

    We're all here for you.
  19. Here2Talk
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    21 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi ttm,

    I would gladly be your friend also m, and person to talk to.

    Is there anyway you could move in somewhere by yourself - eg some kind of Centrelink benefit etc?

    Im assuming you live with your parents?

  20. Petal22
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    21 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Good morning Truetomyself,

    Thats ok 😊 glad to be friends….

    im sorry you are feeling so scared it must be hard…….. have you ever tried meditation? It’s quite calming…. You could find one on your phone that suits you…… look for a guided meditation…….. I do one for watching my thoughts……. Also remember to slow down your breathing……..

    im sorry your Dad behaves the way he does remember that’s a reflection of him not you….

    It must be hard being yelled at It’s not nice and it doesn’t help you…. When people yell that’s their choice it’s their emotion………. not yours…… with practice you can begin to realise this……. You can choose your emotion aswell instead of reacting to their negative emotions…….( with practice)..

    please tell yourself positive things about yourself every day….. tell yourself positive things in general This will renew your mind….

    read positive affirmations….. google positive affirmations…… this in turn will give you positive emotions… 😊

    it’s hard when others don’t understand what you are going Through ……… just hang in there….. you are strong…. Keep going……😊

    here to chat to you

  21. Truetomyself
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    23 June 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am tired of crying alone. I feel like I'll never be better. I use to think I would and now all I do is feel like such a burden and a failure. I am so scared. I just don't want to be around. Then I won't be a burden to my parents.
  22. Petal22
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    23 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Good morning Truetomyself,

    You WILL get better…… better days are coming your way… you need to believe that……. Never give up HOPE!

    I understand how it feels to be going through a mental illness when I had severe anxiety OCD my illness felt like a marathon……… but it was a marathon I won! I’d tell myself every day that I was going to recover I never lost hope of that and now I’m on the other side of my illness and life couldn’t be better… I feel reborn again it’s amazing….. keep persevering things WILL get better if I can get better then there is HOPE you can aswell…….

    Have you been able to try meditation? If you haven’t please try it….. meditation was one thing that helped me to recover ….. it teaches you to become aware…. You can learn that you arnt your thoughts but the watcher of your thoughts…

    You can re train your brain Truetomyself, every negative thought that your brain it gives you give it back a positive one……. Build yourself up! You CAN… if I CAN you CAN!

    You are LOVE Truetomyself I believe all human beings are this they just need to realise its our true essence….. we all have a inner light … you have one Truetomyself….. let it shine!

    Seeing, hearing and feeling are miracles…… ❤️

    You are far from a burden or failure you are a shining light….. it’s within you…., all you have ever wanted is within you! Trust it …. Let it shine……

    I’m always here to chat to you my beautiful friend your not alone ……….. You have a bright future ahead of you….. believe it!

  23. Petal22
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    24 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Goodmorning Truetomyself,

    Just a little something for you 😊

    This is for the ones struggling right now. This is for the ones who have been having a rough week or even year. The ones who feel this storm will never end. Keep fighting for you. Not for your friends , not for your family, but for you. Keep fighting because deep down you hold a tiny voice that knows you were meant for far more than this sadness and pain you are feeling. Keep fighting because the person you will be on the other side of this is cheering for you so much. Keep fighting because you will get there. And it will be worth it.

    💪

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  24. Truetomyself
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    26 June 2021 in reply to Petal22

    Thank you.

    I went to my psychiatrist today and my mother just put me down. Which has made me more anxious. I wish I had the strength to get up and leave. I am dreading the mornings even more. I just want peace. All I have ever wanted is peace. I am tired of it. When my mum left the room my psychiatrist wants me to leave but how????

  25. Petal22
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    26 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    TEstthisahjah
  26. Here2Talk
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    26 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi TTM,

    Are you old enough to legally move out where you live? Different states/jurisdictions have different laws about which conditions you may make up your own mind and leave. Maybe you could ring up the various help lines, or if you don't know the various numbers, maybe we could collaborate on this forum trying to find you the right numbers that you could call in order to get the information you need - both on whether you can leave, how you can leave, and how to go about getting centrelink benefits.

    I'm so sorry you're being treated like this, no human deserves to be treated so by their parents. Did the psychiatrist give you any information on how you might go about leaving?

  27. Truetomyself
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    26 June 2021 in reply to Here2Talk
    I can leave but I am not working. The psychiatrist told me to get a job to move. But I am not doing well. How do you leave your bedroom when you are scared? How do you do life with no support? My self esteem is so low, I don't have the willpower to keep fighting when I am put down. I feel like a failure, I feel like why can't I move. But I have so much fear I don't know how to feel, how to be me.
  28. Here2Talk
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    26 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Well TTM it’s not surprising that one would feel low and not able to move with a home life of rejection and abuse. It would be hard to pull yourself up around that- when you’ve got your own mind that torments you and other people being unhelpful it’s like a double whammy holding you down... I’d imagine, and I’m so sorry that it’s happening to you.

    I totally get being afraid to move with the trauma and rejection; you are not doing well and that is understandable that it would make it hard to get a job, but do you think you could get some kind of benefit allowance from the government to allow you to move?

  29. Truetomyself
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    27 June 2021 in reply to Here2Talk

    I don't know. I can't even think.

    I am so anxious and I can' leave my room. I wake up and am afraid of my mother and everything going on.

    I don't know what to do anymore. I honestly don't.

    I am so afraid of everything and my mother.

    I am tired.

  30. Here2Talk
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    27 June 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I totally understand that my friend...

    You could possibly find out about the benefit by ringing Centrelink. Do you find talking on the phone too hard or scary?

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