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  1. Petal22
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    26 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Who s taking you off your medication?

    Sorry you are struggling with your anxiety and agrophobia I understand this is very difficult for you…

    I understand it’s very hard when we don’t feel ourselves…..

    Im here to chat to you

  2. Truetomyself
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    28 August 2021 in reply to Petal22
    DASSA are taking me off. I really am scared and frightened because I want to have a quality of life and be able to cope. I don't understand why I am being taken off if it works. But when I was in the hospital last they want me to come off it. I really am feeling frightened.
  3. Sophie_M
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    28 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    Thanks for reaching out tonight,

    We're sorry to hear how scared you feel coming off your medication. We acknowledge the uncertainty that would come from transitioning off a medication. Did the hospital talk through what your next steps could be in getting support and maintaining your quality of life?  You might also want to talk this through with your regular GP or psychologists if you have one. 

    If you feel up to it, we'd also recommend getting in touch with our Support Service which is available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or you can visit on our website www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport for online chat. One of our friendly counsellors will be able to give you some information and advice to help you.

    We hope that you keep checking back in with us to let us know how you are going, whenever you feel up to it.


     
  4. Petal22
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    29 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    So sorry you are feeling so scared and frightened, did they explain to you why they are choosing to do this?

    Did they tell you when they were planning on doing this?

    Did they say they were going to replace this medication with something else?

    If you are unsure of their reasoning maybe give the person a call that is in charge of this and ask them some questions…… let them know that you are scared to come off your medication…

    I can understand why you are frightened just try to slow down your breathing…… and calm yourself….

    Please come back to us when you are ready …

  5. Truetomyself
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    30 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Has anyone had to come of meds at home? I am struggling with it and it is not easy. Does anyone have any tips? I am really really struggling with it. I have not been sleeping, I am frightened, and vomiting it's really hard. If anyone can help please reach it. I really need it.
  6. Sophie_M
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    30 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself,
     
    Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you are going through at the moment. We are sorry to hear that you are having side-effects of having your medication discontinued by your treatment  team.

    Have you been able to reach out to them or your GP and let them know how you’re feeling and how this has been affecting you?
     
    If you are concerned about the side-effects and want someone to talk to about it now, we would recommend contacting an on-call nurse service to speak to someone on the phone.
     
    1300 60 60 24 within Victoria (On Call Nurse)
     
    1800 022 222 outside of Victoria (Healthdirect nurse triage)
     
    Otherwise if you are unwell and require immediate medical assistance, please call 000 or present to your local emergency department.
     
     
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  7. Petal22
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    30 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im so sorry you are struggling with this……… please call 000 and have a ambulance take you to hospital if you are feeling distressed……

    Im here to chat to you my friend

  8. Petal22
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    31 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Just checking in with you, how are you today?

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    31 August 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    I'm so sorry you've been going through this - it sounds like it's been so difficult for you. It seems like you are experiencing a lot of suffering and finding it hard to escape your anxiety and agrophobia. I know this must be so hard for you. One thing that might help is to remember that it will pass and things will get a little bit easier, I know it's so hard to see when you feel so anxious and in the depths of despair...but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and things will slowly get easier as time goes on.

    I know that you haven't had many people to talk to so I just want to make sure that you know that we are HERE for you. Always. Whenever you feel alone feel free to jump on the forum and reach out, we love talking to you and you are never, ever alone. Please continue to post if you feel isolated and we can talk.

    Sending you lots of strength. Feel free to talk whenever you need it.

    Miz

  10. Truetomyself
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    1 September 2021 in reply to Petal22
    Tonight I am in hospital and no one gets what it feels to go through this. This is the hardest thing I have had to do. I don't have a voice. Not a psychiatrist, GP, ED doctor understands. No one is listening to me at all. I am really lost and each time I go and explain the nurses really aren't interested. I am at a loss what to do.
  11. Petal22
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    1 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Welldone for getting your self to the hospital…..

    Im sorry you are feeling lost and the doctors and nurses aren’t listening to you…. I understand this is hard for you….

    Can you write a letter detailing everything you are feeling and going through?

    Give this letter to your psychiatrist or doctor who is assigned to you at the hospital…….. if you need help to write something please let me know I will help you in any way that I can……

    I’m so proud of you I understand the strength it took to get your self to the hospital..

    You have an inner warrior inside you true to myself believe me she’s there her voice is strong and she’s ready to use it……. 💪❤️

    Im here for you my friend, please keep in contact …

  12. Here2Talk
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    1 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    So sorry to hear ttm. Why they taking u off medication?
  13. Petal22
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    1 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Just checking in with you… how did everything go for you today?

    Did you manage to write a letter?

    I hope today was a better day for you…

  14. Here2Talk
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    1 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Sorry you did answer why you are being taken off of them. These forums can be very cumbersome to navigate at times and I missed that with the clunky page thing - beyond blue if you’re reading this, some sort of infinite scroll thing like social media would be good.

    Seems like dassa u speak of is a government service ??? Hospitals usually primarily deal with purely physiological things - they can sometimes be awful with mental health. That’s very disappointing that they stopped you taking the medication when you suggested it seemed to be working...

    you are a free being who can go see your own GP and apart from the money thing (hopefully you will be able to be bulked billed anyway????) a private GP is much better than a govt service if you get a decent one - they are for YOU and you could discuss whether it might be appropriate for you to recommence the medication you had been experiencing some benefit from?

  15. Truetomyself
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    13 September 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am struggling today. I can't stop crying and my anxiety is high. I am tired of fighting this. It's so hard with my agoraphobia and no one understands. I just want to be normal.
  16. Petal22
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    14 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Nice to hear from you…

    Im sorry that you are struggling today….

    I understand, I know it’s hard but you need to keep fighting for you!

    Have you tried to slow down your breathing?

    Are you still in the hospital? Did the hospital put you back on any medication?

    I know it’s hard truetomyself but hang in there….. if you are feeling distressed please call Beyond Blue and speak to a trained councillor they will understand…….1300 22 4636

    Are you currently seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist….

    Im here to chat

  17. Truetomyself
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    14 September 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I see a psychiatrist. The agrophobia is hard. I see myself as useless and can't do anything. I feel trapped in myself.
  18. Petal22
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    14 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    That’s great you see a psychiatrist…..I’m sorry the agrophobia is challenging….

    Has your phyciatrist been able to give you any helpful strategies?

    When you feel trapped in yourself is it useful to bring you attention onto something in the present moment? Like how do your feet feel? How does your clothes feel on your body?

    Remember to slow down your breathing

    Im here to chat

  19. Petal22
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    14 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I’m sorry you see yourself as useless, you arnt!

    Please start trying to talk to yourself in a positive way, please talk to yourself like someone you would talk to that you loved.

    When you have panic or anxiety practice breathing exercises

    Try progressive muscle relaxation

    Try helpful thinking, which changes how you talk to yourself

    Instead of saying to yourself I’m useless say……. Im learning new positive things about myself every day and I’m improving….

    Do you enjoy doing craft? This would help you to keep your mind focused on something….. even adult colouring in

    Have you tried any type of therapy? CBT or metacognitive therapy……. I went through a severe anxiety disorder OCD……. I did metacognitive therapy this therapy changed my life! I was able to learn to challenge my thoughts and beliefs this was extremely helpful….. I learned many other strategies and tools…….

    Maybe you could talk to your psychiatrist about putting you into a therapy that suits you….. I did a group therapy I was with 12 others who had the same condition as me….

    Your not alone Truetomyself there will be others going through the exact same thing as you….. please try to find a therapy for you….. it can change your life for the better 😊

    Im here to chat

  20. Truetomyself
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    21 September 2021 in reply to Petal22

    You have been so kind to me. Thank you.

    I have not left my bed for 5 days and I feel terrible. There is no one else who understands and I feel like an empty shell. Hollow. I don't care about showering.

  21. Sophie_M
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    21 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself, 

    We are sorry to hear that things have been difficult lately and that you have been feeling so hollow and like no one understands. Please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

    If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

    We also strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

    Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.
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  22. Petal22
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    21 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Thats ok Truetomyself that’s what friends are for 😊

    Im sorry you are feeling this way…. do you have anyone around you? Does anyone live with you?

    Im sorry you are feeling hollow Truetomyself this must be so difficult for you…..

    Im sorry that no one else understands……

    Sophie has given you some great contacts please call them Truetomyself and have a chat to them, there are people who care about you and want to help you……

    If you are feeling really unwell Truetomyself please call 000 so you can be taken to the hospital..

    Please chat to me anytime….. I’m always here for you..

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    21 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself

    Sophie_M mentioned the caring Beyond Blue counsellors on 1300 22 4636 24/7 Its only my humble opinion as a person with anxiety & agoraphobia,,,I would call Lifeline (13 11 14) for support

    we are good listeners

    your health comes first...all other considerations are secondary

    Paul

  24. Truetomyself
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    26 September 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am struggling with myself and people understanding me. I get frustrated that people don't understand the reality of mental illness. I just want to be free to talk openly with people about me but I feel they won't understand. I hate feeling the way I do and having to hide who I am.
  25. Mk2692
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    26 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    I'm sorry that you are going through a tough time. There can be a stigma sometimes around mental illness, however, the world is more informed about mental illness and mental health nowadays than before. This can be frustrating at times, but when you are faced with such a situation, it can be useful to enlighten those people about mental health. You do not need to hide your feelings and who you are to anyone, be who you want to be and if some people are not accepting of that, then they might not be the right people for you. Hope this helps.

  26. Petal22
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    26 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Nice to hear from you 😊

    Thank you for opening up to me about the way you are feeling…….

    Truetomyself please don’t hide yourself any longer! Show people the real you! Tell them exactly who you are and how you are feeling! Be open and honest about your mental illness it’s nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about…. I think it should be openly spoken about like any other illness.

    By you opening up to people and revealing the real you it can help you with your healing and your own understanding…….

    One day Truetomyself your story could be some one else’s survival guide…., you really are a strong resilient person stronger than you know and I’m glad that we are friends….

    Is there someone who is a health professional that you want to be understood by?

    When I first opened up about my mental illness to health professionals I really didn’t understand what was happening to me and I thought these people are going to think I’m crazy….. but the opposite happened they understood and wanted to help me…… all the other people I did my group therapy with all had the same condition as me……. I wasn’t alone and the health professionals were there to help us to overcome our illness so we could then move forward and thrive in the world ❤️

    Truetomyself I believe you can find a therapy for you and your condition a therapy that health professionals understand what you are going through and want to help you too so you can move forward and thrive aswell…. Your not alone there are people out there that understand and want to help you 🙏

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  27. Truetomyself
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    28 September 2021 in reply to Petal22

    I failed. I have to move home because I can't look after myself. I am frightened and scared. I just want to disappear and not be here. My parents don't understand but there is no where else for me to go. I wish I could go to my grandma's but she has passed and was my rock. I just want to be safe. My father caused my mental health issues and I am terrified.

  28. Sophie_M
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    28 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Dear Truetomyself,

    We are sorry to hear that you are feeling frightened and scared and that you want to disappear and not be here. It sounds like things are really hard for you right now, so we want to remind you that you are important and you have significant strength. It takes a lot of courage to reach out to our online community and we’re really glad that you have, so please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

    If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

    We also strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

    Please feel free to keep reaching out here whenever you feel up to it.
  29. Petal22
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    28 September 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Please don’t look it as failing, your surviving and doing the best you can with what you can you are stronger than you know your a fighter !

    Im sorry that your grandma passed away.

    Im also sorry that your father caused your mental health issues…

    I understand that you just want to feel safe…

    Sophie has given you some great advice please try to call the help lines if you feel you need to.

    Im here to support you, please contact me on this thread as often as you need to for support.

    Hang in there

  30. Truetomyself
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    4 October 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I feel lost. I don't want to be like this anymore or take medication. I am tired of being afraid. The agrophobia is too much and I hate relying on others. I am tired of crying. I am tired of being here.

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