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Topic: Tired

  1. Truetomyself
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    24 October 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I don't know how much longer I can hang in there. I am tired of being like this. I just want to be able to do the things I use to do. Showering and getting dressed shouldn't be so hard.
  2. Petal22
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    24 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im sorry things are feeling difficult for you at the moment.

    Is there a gp you could speak to?

    Have you been able to keep your fluid intake up?

  3. Truetomyself
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    25 October 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I have been keeping my fluid intake up. Thanks for asking. You are the only one who cares. It means a lot. I use to be a teacher and got burnt out. Since then I have felt lost and alone. I struggle so much and it's hard seeing others doing thing with their lives. I feel so behind and don't know what I am doing with my life.
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  4. smallwolf
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    25 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    that you make it through each day counts for something! It also sounds as though you are permanently exhausted? Is there anyone you are able to speak to? Or would that be too much?
  5. Petal22
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    25 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im glad that you are keeping your fluid intake up it really helps.

    Water is very cleansing.

    Also try to eat nutritious foods to help your mind, body and soul.

    Wow a teacher that’s wonderful thanks for sharing that with me 😊 I understand being a teacher would be hard work. I understand the burn out.

    I do care about you Truetomyself I want to see you well again, it really is possible.

    It’s ok not to know what you are doing with your life at the moment, I didn’t really find my passion until I hit my 40 s……

    Do you have anything you would really like to do in the future or are you passionate about anything in particular?

    I understand that you feel like you are struggling now I understand, it’s hard to see past the fog sometimes but I believe we go through certain things for certain reasons we may not understand why we are going through these things in the moment but in time we can stand back and see we’re our path is leading us…

    A good friend of mine once told me while I was in the grips of OCD….. that there was a reason why I was going through it and it wouldn’t be for nothing… now that I’m past the fog I understand what my friend meant I learned so much while I was in the storm.

    I remember asking myself while I was in the storm “ what is this trying to teach me” and from then on I had a shift in my mind set

    Truetomyself you are a very strong resilient person look at how far you have come…. Just amazing

    Another thing my beautiful friend told me while I was in the grips of OCD….. For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, LOVE and a sound mind ❤️ I hope this message will help you also 😊🦋

  6. Truetomyself
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    26 October 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am frightened and scared. I am finding it hard to breathe.
  7. Petal22
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    26 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im sorry that you are feeling this way.

    Try to practice slowing down your breathing.

    Has anything happened to make you feel this way?

    Please call 000 if you feel you need to go to the hospital.

  8. Sophie_M
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    26 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself,

    We are sorry to hear that you are feeling frightened and scared and are currently finding it difficult to breath. Please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

    If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

    We have also reached out to you privately to see how we can support you and to also check in with you. Please check your inbox and reply.

    If you are having trouble breathing then this could be an emergency and you should contact 000 immediately.
     
    Keep checking back in with us whenever you need to.
  9. smallwolf
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    26 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    hi. I want you to know the people here, at beyond blue and the users here care very much about you. I know this is only a virtual space and perhaps you will allow Petal22 or myself to sit with you for a while? Maybe you might want to chat about other things... ? Please know we are here for you.
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  10. Truetomyself
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    27 October 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Thank you. I can't move at the moment. My anxiety is really high. I am terrified to move.
  11. Sophie_M
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    27 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    Thanks for reaching out tonight on the forums,

    We're very sorry to hear our anxious you're feeling at the moment. Is there anything you've found to help during these moments? Maybe a warm bath or shower or possibly some breathing exercises? You might like to try this one: https://bit.ly/3Gr2gtC

    Please remember we're available via phone or webchat if you'd like to talk these feelings through: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.


     
  12. smallwolf
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    27 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    do you mind if I ask a couple of questions ...

    1. are you able to tell me what you are worried about?

    2. do you have any tools to help you in these moments of anxiety?

    I am concerned for you and listening.

  13. Truetomyself
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    27 October 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    My father has a bad temper and it scares me. That I won't get better and be on the streets. But I have PTSD from childhood trauma caused by my father. I am scared of him. I have breathing.
  14. smallwolf
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    28 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I assume you live with your father?

    Are you looking after him?

    do you have any brothers or sisters?

  15. smallwolf
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    28 October 2021

    Sad to hear that you are suffering from a something caused by your father. :(

    And things will get a little better... just have the find the right pathway. You are also strong to have made it this far and to tell a more of your story. You are also not the same person as you were when you were a child as well - that you became a teacher also says that.

    last note... remember your thoughts are just that.... thoughts. They do not define you.

  16. Truetomyself
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    28 October 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I live with him. I am not looking after him. My brother and sister don't care. I really feel unwell tonight. I am struggling as I am not getting enough food to eat and my fluid is low.
  17. Sophie_M
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    28 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    We're so sorry to hear how difficult things are at home and how unwell you're feeling. Do you have access to food and water at the moment? We're concerned to hear you're not getting enough food to eat. 

    We'd really urge you to get in contact with our Support Service to help you manage your situation. They'll have a lot of useful ideas and strategies to support you. You can contact the Beyond Blue Support Service anytime on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport

    Is there anything our community can help you with tonight? We can hear you feel as though you're not looking after your father? Could you tell us more about this? 
  18. smallwolf
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    28 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I am sorry I am not quite sure how the living arrangements work but...

    I am sad that you do not appear to be getting any support from your brother or sister. I also hope you have been able to eat something this evening.

    do you want to tell me what subjects or years you taught?

  19. Truetomyself
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    29 October 2021
    I really don't feel well. I am struggling.
  20. Sophie_M
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    29 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself,

    Thank you for reaching out to the community and keeping us updated.

    We are sorry to hear that you are not feeling well and are struggling at the moment. It sounds like things are really difficult for you right now. We want to remind you that all life is important, including yours.

    Please remember that immediate support is always available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

    Feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.
  21. Petal22
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    29 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im sorry you don’t feel well and your struggling.

    Please call 000 if you feel you need an ambulance to take you to the hospital.

    We are here as a community to support you. You are important.

  22. Truetomyself
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    31 October 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am running out of energy.
  23. Mk2692
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    31 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Thanks for reaching out and sorry that you are going through a hard time. It sounds like you feel alone and things are quite difficult for you. I'm not sure if you have people around you like family or friends to reach out to when you are going through a tough time. With no lockdowns at the moment, maybe reach out to people around you for a catch up and talk about what is bothering you. I would suggest if you can see your GP to refer you to a psychologist to talk to, you might find some ease speaking about what you are going through. We are also here to support you through this tough time.

  24. Truetomyself
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    31 October 2021 in reply to Mk2692
    I have no one to reach out to. No friends, no family and no psychologist. I am struggling and my parents do not care. I am exhausted and am struggling.
  25. Petal22
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    31 October 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im sorry to hear you are running out of energy.

    Please call 000 if you feel you need an ambulance to take you to the hospital.

    We are here to support you.

  26. Truetomyself
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    1 November 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am frightened to turn the lamp off. I am getting scared about sleep. Not that I get much but it's become an issue. It frightens me in complete darkness.
  27. Petal22
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    1 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im sorry you are feeling this way. I understand it would be difficult for you.

    Truetomyself can you see a gp about the way you are feeling?

  28. Truetomyself
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    2 November 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am having stomach cramps and diarrhea. I am struggling.
  29. Petal22
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    2 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im really sorry you are feeling this way.

    Have you been eating and drinking?

    Please call an ambulance 000 if you feel you need to Truetomyself, so you can have medical attention..

    Your important

  30. smallwolf
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    2 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hello. It might not seem much but you are reaching out to us and we care very much about you. If you cannot go to see a GP, perhaps one might be able to come to you?

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