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Topic: Tired

  1. Truetomyself
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    14 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I don't know but I am scared and not sure what to do.
  2. Truetomyself
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    14 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    My mum said I have lost the plot because I thought it was Monday but it was Sunday. I am in tears still about it.
  3. smallwolf
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    15 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    That must have been upsetting to be told that.

    There have been occasions where i have lost a day as well. Other people I know have done similar. It can feel stressful to think you have lost a day, and embarrassing when corrected.

    Do you look after your parents?

  4. Truetomyself
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    15 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    No and I don't work. I can't go anywhere. I am not well.
  5. smallwolf
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    15 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Does that mean you stay in the home all the time and cannot go outside?
  6. Truetomyself
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    15 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Yes and I am scared and struggling with this agoraphobia.
  7. smallwolf
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    15 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Have you tried or do you have any relaxation techniques?
  8. Truetomyself
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    16 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Yes I have PTSD coach, Smiling Mind and Calm.
  9. smallwolf
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    17 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Do you use them every day?
  10. Truetomyself
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    17 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Yes I do and practice my breathing.
  11. smallwolf
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    17 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    And do they work for you?
  12. Truetomyself
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    18 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    They work at times. If I am highly anxious it is difficult to do.
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    19 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Yeah. Similar here. I would do the same exercise over and over. One of my apps has a word game built in. My go-to.

    Can you tell me something about yourself?

  14. Truetomyself
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    22 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I like animal documentaries.
  15. smallwolf
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    22 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Like David Attenborough?
  16. Truetomyself
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    23 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Yeah and others too
  17. smallwolf
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    24 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Can you share what you like about them?

    (And perhaps how you are feeling at the moment?)

  18. Truetomyself
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    24 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I like them because you learn new things. I like animals and watching it gives me an insight into new things. At the moment I am anxious.
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    24 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Yes ... on learning new things. And pets are mostly loyal and loving to their owners. Don't you think?

    If you could be or were an animal, what would you be?


  20. Truetomyself
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    24 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Pets are loving. If I was an animal I would be a dog. A dog gets lots of hugs and love. I wish I got hugs.
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    25 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    If I may... sending you a hug.

    It does not sound like you got/get many hugs or love from your writing. That makes me sad. The way you speak about a dog ... you seem to be sensitive and caring person.

    Tell me more about this dog. What would you do with it?

  22. Truetomyself
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    26 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf

    I don't get any hugs. It makes me feel unloved and that I am not worthy of love.

    Thank you for the compliment. I like to think I am a caring person.

    with the dog I would play with it and give it lots of hugs. It would be spoilt.

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    26 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    my view is that when we are down we can forget about (lose touch?) with our real self. And I am aware of the effect of not getting something as "simple" as a hug. :( Do do have anything like a stuffed animal or blanket for a substitute. Or even a plant, While you cannot cuddle a plant it would be something else living. (I can imagine you playing with a dog.)

    You deserve to have your needs met. You are worth investing time and energy into. Your feelings are important. You are important. I think you know you are worthy because you are talking about love here.

    What do you think?

  24. Truetomyself
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    27 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf

    I have a stuffed bear.

    I don't feel worthy as no one in my family shows me love. They usually yell at me or pay me no attention. It's really lonely and I spend a lot of time crying because I feel so alone and unworthy of love.

  25. smallwolf
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    27 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Do you give your stuffed bear hugs?

    Tell me about your bear? Big or small? Age? Colour? I had a small blue bear. Parents kept it til they moved and gave it to me. Would have been 40 years old then.

  26. Truetomyself
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    27 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf

    I give it hugs. But it's not the same as the real thing.

    His name is Spencer and he is 40 years old. My aunty gave it to me. He is brown and soft.

    Your parent's must have loved you to look after it that long and give it to you.

  27. smallwolf
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    27 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    You are right about the my parents giving me that bear. I never thought about it that much.

    I also realise it is not the same as the real thing yet it can be helpful. How did you choose that name for your bear? And do you still talk with your aunt?

  28. Truetomyself
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    28 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf

    The bear came with a name.

    I still talk to my aunt. It's hard though because my family don't want me to. But I text her.

  29. Truetomyself
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    29 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Today is hard. I feel like a burden to my family and am struggling with my mental health. I am 40 next year and having mental health issues I don't know what to do with my life. I am not well but can't keep staying home. It is so confusing and I am tired of it all.
  30. Truetomyself
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    29 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I am tired of being yelled at because I have a mental illness.

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