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Topic: Tired

  1. smallwolf
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    29 November 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Sorry to hear you are getting yelled at because a mental illness. You should be made to feel as though you are a burden. And perhaps this is also leading to the tiredness, confusion etc you speak of. It sounds as though you get on OK with your Aunt. Is it possible for you to stay with her for a while? May then you might be able to find some time to work out what to do with your life?

    I am still here. A virtual friend in this space listening to you.

  2. Truetomyself
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    30 November 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I can't stay with my aunt. She has depression and anxiety. She is older and can't have me as she struggles too. I wish I could. She is understanding.
  3. Truetomyself
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    1 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I don't feel so good today. I have tremors and bad anxiety. I don't know how much more I can take.
  4. Sophie_M
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    1 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself,

    We are sorry to hear that you don't feel so good today and that you're anxiety isn't good at the moment. Please remember that our community are always here to support you.

    We want you to know that there is always extra immediate support available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

    Please keep us updated as to how you are going.
  5. smallwolf
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    1 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Sorry to read things are getting worse again for you. :(

    Can you think of anything that might have changed in the last couple of days?

  6. Truetomyself
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    2 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I can't think of anything. I am struggling.
  7. Sophie_M
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    2 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hey Truetomyself,

    We can hear it’s hard right now. We are checking in with you offline, and our support service is here for you if you'd like to talk it through. 

    Can you think of anything, real or imaginary, that would help?

    We’d recommend checking out some of these other threads where community members have shared their self-help tips and coping strategies for when you’re feeling low. A few mention sharing can help, so we’re glad you were able to do so here, that’s a really good start.

    Kind regards,

    Sophie M
  8. smallwolf
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    2 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    That's ok. Do you write in a journal? We just want the best for you.
  9. Truetomyself
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    3 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    No I don't. I never know what to write.
  10. smallwolf
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    3 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    you can write what you want. what you are thinking, or feeling? Describe what you see?
  11. Truetomyself
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    4 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I don't feel so good. I have been in bed all day. My anxiety and depression are not good.
  12. smallwolf
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    4 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    have you eaten?

    what were you thinking about when you were in bed?

  13. Truetomyself
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    4 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I have eaten something small. Whilst I was in bed I slept and thought about not being here anymore.
  14. smallwolf
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    5 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    :(

    It sounds quite bad.

    In the times of those thoughts, did you try using any of the apps you previously mentioned?

  15. Truetomyself
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    5 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I didn't. I am struggling to get up and be normal. This is the worst I have been.
  16. Sophie_M
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    5 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Hi Truetomyself,

    We are so sorry to hear you are feeling this way and that it is the worst you've been. The community will be here to listen and chat with you. You can reach out to Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 or Lifeline 13 11 14 for some further support. 

    In the event that you are feeling like hurting yourself, it is important that you take immediate steps to keep yourself safe. You can do this by:

    • Speaking to your doctor or psychologist (if you have one) if he or she is available right now

    • If, however, you feel unable to keep yourself safe this is an emergency and you need to call 000 (triple zero).

    We have sent you a private email so that we can support you further.
  17. smallwolf
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    5 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I am concerned for you.

    When I talk to my psych about wanting to be normal, I am asked "what is normal". In one sense I am already normal. So are you? We just have challenges in dealing with scenarios.

    Can you please tell me how this is the worst you are feeling?

  18. smallwolf
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    5 December 2021
    And what might be one thing that would make things better for you?
  19. Truetomyself
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    6 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    I am struggling with everyday life and one thing that would make it better if someone in my family understood.
  20. smallwolf
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    6 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    I am sorry your parents do not seem to want to understand.

    I thought your aunt understood what you were going through? Perhaps not a daily basis but ...

    And one of your siblings also?

    Would these people count as understanding?

  21. Truetomyself
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    8 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    My aunt is the only one who understands because she suffers the same thing. No siblings. I wish there were.
  22. smallwolf
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    8 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Isn't your aunt part of your family? (You wished someone in your family would understand.)

    can i ask who provides or gives support to your aunt?

  23. Truetomyself
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    9 December 2021 in reply to smallwolf
    Her kids support her and my uncle. I am really struggling. I hate this.
  24. Sophie_M
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    9 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hey Truetomyself,
    Thanks for reaching out to the forums this afternoon,
    We're really sorry to hear how much you're struggling at the moment. If you feel comfortable, would you share with us a bit more about what's been going on in your life? Please know our community is here to listen and support you through this.

    If you think it might be beneficial, you might like to get in touch with our Support Service. Our Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. One of our professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service will give you support and do their best to point you in the right direction for help in your area.
     

  25. Truetomyself
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    9 December 2021 in reply to Sophie_M
    I have no family support. I am struggling with depression and anxiety. It has been really hard. No one understands how hard it is for me.
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    9 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hi Truetomyself,

    Im really sorry you are struggling today.

    Please know we are here as a community to understand and support you.

    Can you think of 3 things you are grateful for today?

  27. Truetomyself
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    10 December 2021 in reply to Petal22
    I am grateful for my aunty, my grandma who I miss and I don't know what else.
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    10 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    That’s great that you thought of those two things that you’ve grateful for …….. it’s a great thing to do to think of the things we are grateful for I like to do this when I first wake up in the morning it puts me on a positive road for the day……. I’m grateful to be alive, for my family and just to be able to see all the beautiful things in this life like the beautiful blue sky 😊
  29. smallwolf
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    11 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself
    Petal22 mentioned some things at the end of their post to be grateful for. Other things could be ... your bear, bed, music (if you listen to it), clean water, color of your eyes, etc. When I was first asked a similar question I had to use google to find some answers! If nothing else ... grateful for this space where we can meet :)
  30. mmMekitty
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    11 December 2021 in reply to Truetomyself

    Hello Truetomyself,

    Like Smallwolf, at my worst times, I coldn't appreciate anything. I didn't have Google back then to help answer the question, & so I had to get on with thinking I was alone, unsupported, un cared for, with nothing. No one was going to help, so I had to help myself. It was that or starve, get evicted, or sleep on the bare floor of my flat.

    Of-course getting up took more strength than I knew I had. just as it takes strength for you to continue to talk, as you have been , with Smallwolf. Might this be another thing you can be grateful for, that you have the strength & the presence of mind to talk here, to us?

    I want to reassure you, Truetomyself, you are not alone. Some of us, like me, have been as part of the shadows in your room, here & listening, allowing you & Smallwolf some space to talk. I know, it's hard to quite believe we are real people out here, but, yeah, we are, & we're here. 😸

    mmMekitty

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