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Topic: Your positive story... please share

  1. StevoP
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    22 December 2018
    I have to say I still deal with anxiety today/currently at the moment, but what helped me get that down to a more manageable level is not being bothered at all about what others think of me. Which allowed me to get back into my interests such as Star Wars ahaha yes a nerdy thing, but each to their own I think with whatever interest works for you and also I'm trying to get back into AFL and European football a bit as well. Star Wars is probably the easiest in terms of anxiety to like, as I have for many years I mean not saying I haven't been interested in those two sports but yeah with getting interested in those comes thinking about how thats more of an outside world thing. Still it all counts and I'm definitely trying to get back into all three
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  2. paramedicfirey
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    2 February 2019
    Here is a short story of success. I am a current full-time paramedic, and have also worked full-time as a career firefighter internationally and interstate. I have also taught for an Interstate Ambulance service and volunteered for numerous emergency services. In my day, I had to lie about getting these jobs as the stigma is and was tremendous and I would not of got these jobs if I advised them I had a mental illness. But come today, and my work knows and is nothing but supportive as the workplace has come a long way.
    In short, at 19, I was diagnosed with Schizophrenia and have battled since with depression, PTSD, anxiety and to some degree bipolar. I am now in my early 40's with a family. Healthy family. I have been institutionalized 8 times but got up and back on the horse every time. It has been so hard, so hard but its a battle and even today i still struggle but with a very good psychologist, the right attitude and obedience with medications. Mental health should not be a block in anyone's life in regards to family, work and friends. Not saying its easy but well worth it. I mainly deal with pretty bad anxiety atm but cope ok. its hard but im ok. I jiust get paranoid about other workmates, thats my most struggle atm.
    I have also had the privilege of traveling all around the world and I always believed you are either the victim or survivor. A great man once told me, who was my psychiatrist, you control your illness, not your illness control you.
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  3. JRG
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    2 February 2019 in reply to paramedicfirey

    Hello again,

    What an inspiring story you have to share - getting past the hurdles despite the setbacks! I too can relate to working in Emergency services and primary healthcare whilst suffering from severe stress and mental health symptoms including anxiety. No one will ever joke that it is easy. Good on you for managing to cope and keep on working despite all of the problems you have been suffering along the way.

    Personally, I have struggled not to find severe mental health a block in my life as it seems to have taken so much of my life away from me. However, your story is one of hope. I like what your psychiatrist has said to you. Mine also gave me a quote which I try and live by and it is this: "You have the right to look after yourself". Self care is something that I have always struggled with as I have always put others before myself. My mental illness is gradually teaching me that my psychiatrist is right - I cannot help anyone if I have not first helped myself.

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    JG.

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  4. paramedicfirey
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    2 February 2019 in reply to JRG

    Hi JG,

    To tell you the truth I don't know how Ive done it. Still an ongoing struggle but I manage well. But in all honesty, I would never of made it today without the help of others. In all forms.

    We both have chosen very stressful work. Sometimes I wonder if it was all worth it. Last week Ive been feeling has it all been worth it, as the amount of hardship, struggle and stigma, bullying I have endured in the past but i look at my family and accomplishments and say yes, it was worth it. Would ive chosen what doctors said that Im 75% incapacitated to work, DSP and housing commission, hide under a rock and roll, I guess not, but it can be hard. As you empathise with me. Since chatting with people who have similiar experiences, it helps so much. So many lost souls.

    Mental health block, Oh God dont get me started. :) Amount of time thats been wasted is alot. I totaolly get not looking after ourselves. To me its emotional, especially coming out of hospital in the past but as time goes by it gets better. When we dont love ourselves and are stressed we seek food and unhealthy options. Been there done that but I am lucky that my wife helps me.

    And I too like what your psychiatrist said and there is an old jewish proverb. Not that I care if people believe in god or not but you cant win the lotto if you havent bought a lottery ticket and you cant help others till you help yurself as you said. very very true.

    Thanks JG
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  5. Jacstar44
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    5 March 2019 in reply to Lind779
    I walked the journey waiting to have a baby before having my first 10 years ago, and I know the level of stress it can put on a person. You have made a selfless, brave decision to wait till your mental health is more controllable because this is something you want really bad, and your willing to do what it takes. I know you will have a baby, I know you will get back on that path, sometimes we can loose sight of that, so I will be here, to believe when you need to wait, keep the faith when you take a break... I know I will be thinking of you a lot, even if we don't connect here again, and I will believe it will happen, because it happened for me, despite the odds, despite the years, it happened... twice. Well Done Mum!!
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  6. Feeling fine
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    7 May 2019 in reply to Lind779
    I have suffered from anxiety on and off since I was a teenager. At times I felt extremely unhappy despite lots of good things happening in my life. A few years ago I was in a bad place and thought of trying hypnosis as medication was not enough.
    I wanted to tell people of my success in dealing with my anxiety using hypnosis and self hypnosis. I went to Sydney to see a hypnotist. After an initial treatment session she gave me a self hypnosis recording and program to follow at home. I was to listen to the recording twice a day for a month. I did this and it did assist a lot however I found my anxiety very powerful, so I kept on listening to the recording for a much longer time period. - over a year. I now feel very positive as though I have changed from a negative thinker to a positive thinker. If ever I feel a bit on negativity and anxiety creeping in I get the recording back out and listen to it. This seems to quickly get me back on track.
    For me it has really worked and I feel very positive and happy. It has helped me to slow down my breathing, cope with some difficult problems without falling into a panic attack. I would recommended giving this type of treatment a go. It was worth going to see someone in person and the lady I saw was excellent, however if you cannot do that you can get the program and do it from home.
     
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  7. Moonstruck
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    13 May 2019 in reply to Feeling fine

    Hi there Feeling Fine....do you mind telling me what the program is called?...thanks and so glad it helped you..

  8. Chloe111
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    19 May 2019 in reply to Fairywings
    Fairy wings I need an earth angel in my life right now. I have major anxiety and currently living in a flight response to life. I feel my body may collapse with all the stress, elevated heartbeat, crazy thoughts, tense body and like acid rain bad thoughts..
  9. Snoopy88
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    31 May 2019 in reply to Chloe111
    Hi chloe111 I just saw your post. How are you feeling at the moment? What’s going on for you? My anxiety is really bad aswell. What have you done for?
  10. Luvlife49
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    1 August 2019

    Positive negative but what about realistic

    sometimes people get confused believing which one ...positive or negative...they are way overrated and misunderstood

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  11. Andy_7
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    1 October 2019

    I woke up Saturday morning at 2 am, not an unusual occurrence during the past few months. But this one was different. The question to myself came up....are you o.k.....pause, pause, pause....and then the answer, NO I am not o.k. For the next 2 hours I was debating this answer with myself. Took my memories back to 2010, the year when I was diagnosed with severe anxiety. I fought hard against it and managed to deal with it and stopped medication by the end of 2013. It was a tough 3 year battle but through support from family and my doctor I managed to gain back the life I wanted. The events that lead up to my severe anxiety in 2010 are to much to write here.

    Back to the present, 2019 has been a very difficult year. 1) Loss of a parent, 2) my child has battled depression over the past 7 months and 3) financially I am in a bad position. So I asked myself on Saturday morning, why have you been lying to yourself and to others during the past 9 months? See, every day people ask “ how are you “. The standard answer “ good, how are you? “.....
    Not true at all! I could have won an Oscar award with my acting “ Good “ in the past few months, but now I have put myself in a position where I could potentially fall back to where I was in 2010.

    I will not let this happen and through my admission to myself and others since Saturday I already feel relieve and in fact I slept much better the past 2 nights.

    The positive I want to bring here is:

    1) Recognise and acknowledge your emotions/signs early enough

    2) Don’t keep it to yourself. You have people around you that can and will help

    3) Through processes, counselling and/or medication and lastly but very important TIME you will return to live a life that you want

    4) If you had your anxiety under control and life is pushing a bit on the hard side, don’t wait to act and don’t give up

    I also realised now more than ever the importance to become involved and to talk about anxiety. So many people need to hear the positives as well.

    Thank you for starting this thread.

    Andy

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  12. RicardoD
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    6 October 2019 in reply to Andy_7

    Good post Andy! It's almost like a knee-jerk response sometimes, far easier to just say "yeah am good" rather than tell the truth by saying, "actually, not very good at all" . . . I always think that's the mark of a friend or at least someone that cares - whether they baulk at your admission or they're willing to listen. It does go both ways though - I often ask people how they are and sometimes I'm in a rush and sometimes not, I try to always listen to the answer and not just hear the words. Make time for the people that need help, one day you may need them in return.

    Hope your week last week continued on an upward trend. Being honest with others is as important as being honest with yourself.

  13. Andy_7
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    9 October 2019 in reply to RicardoD

    Thanks Ricardo,

    Last week unfortunately had a downward trend but I had a call late last week from a friend and although he is in another country he gave me the one thing that I needed.....his time and a person I could talk to, somebody that listens. That is what makes him and people like yourself so special, you offer your time and you care to listen. Thanks for that mate, you are so right in saying that we should all make time to listen to others because we might need them to listen to us later in life!

    Andy

  14. quirkywords
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    13 October 2019 in reply to Andy_7

    Waves to all,

    You wrote that your friend.. gave me the one thing that I needed.....his time and a person I could talk to, somebody that listens. That is what makes him and people like yourself so special,.

    Thanks for that sometimes we forget it isn't about sharing meals or going out to movies, but phoning a friend you have not spoken to for a while, checking up on a neighbour or ringing a family member you have not contacted for a while.

    I was inspired by you and contacted a friend I hadn't communicated with for months.

    Quirky

  15. Sarah_31
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    3 November 2019

    Hi Everybody,

    I have struggled with social anxiety all my life and found it hard to keep friends due to being afraid to meet up with them in social settings.

    Being a musician, I realised I could push through this, by going busking and putting myself out there.

    Long story short its helped alot.

    Has anyone else been through social anxiety?

  16. SDeliahS
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    10 December 2019 in reply to Lind779

    Hi everyone,

    There was a time a couple of years ago when I wasn’t sure whether I was ever going to get better.

    My anxiety was severe, I would shake uncontrollably when talking to people, would be overwhelmed and dizzy in public spaces and had a slew of physical symptoms. (Became severely underweight as my digestion was compromised by the anxiety, heart palpitations, headaches, random pain in my body).

    I ended up quitting my job to take the time to ‘repair’ myself. Went to therapy, found a nice doctor that treated my symptoms seriously and never making me feel like an idiot. Exercised, meditated, ate well, faced my fears but gave myself time to rest and repair. And very importantly I learnt that it was ok to feel like absolute crap sometimes. To not try and stop the pain, to acknowledge and feel it. This way I could work through it.

    So fast forward to now and my anxiety is very low. I no longer shake, I can eat well again and I feel happy. I am so grateful.

    i wanted to share this because I want to let you know that you can get better. When I was at my worst I promised myself that if I got better I would share it here. So here is my message of hope for you - you can get better. This will pass. It is an unbelievably challenging thing to go through, and it’s going to make you so much stronger.

    And when you do get better, share it :) share your story so that others that are going through a challenging time can read these endless threads of hope.

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  17. sim777
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    22 December 2019 in reply to SDeliahS

    What a wonderful outcome for you and your story is beacon of hope for everyone else suffering the same!

    Thank you for your post, you've shown amazing conviction and belief in yourself which in turn allows us to learn of your journey.

    Happiness and good health to you always !

  18. Bulus Shabbaz
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    26 December 2019
    I thought I would be alone this Xmas and I was at a low point. However, my two best friends were also going through some tough struggles, and we all decided that if we are going to spend Xmas alone, we might as well spend it alone together. We laughed, we cried, we broke bread together and opened up to each other. And when it came to me, they set me right back on the straight and narrow. My mates can speak to me in a way that if other people were to say the same things, it would hurt or trigger me, but because they're my mates, they can rip that bandaid right off. I came back home today, an all the unneeded anxiety I have been experiencing since moving into my new home has now washed away. Sure, I am always going to be somewhat neurotic, and I have to contend with psychosis, bipolar, and anxiety and OCD. The moral of the story I feel is that being around people you can trust, and supporting others is very therapeutic, not only to them but to yourself.
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