thanks for ur post.
you write so beautifully and from the heart, have you any experience writing or sharing ur story? I think it could help a lot of ppl.
I feel that women are disadvantaged at many stages in life, and in retirement seems like another point of that.... it makes it harder if there is trauma etc. I think thats admirable how you dont' blame others for what has happened or past pain. I struggle with that, as my past trauma has a lot of impact on my life today.
I'm a woman in my 30s, I live alone, and am single.
I understand that some ppl are in r/ships, and still feel alone in certain aspeccts of their journey. I had opportunities to enter relationships that in some ways, mdae me feel worse, and yet, there is a protective layer of being "coupled".
I even remember my parter advocating for me regarding an insurance problem - he called up and said he was my husband and sorted it all out over the phone. When I tried, I think they tried to tak advantage of me more - as a single woman, they assume u know less about ur rights, and are less pushy or assertive, and will comply more easily. In som ways, this is true. Women have been socialised that if we stand up for ourselvse, we'll be seen as bossy, while to men, that isn't an issue, they can be firm, strong etc, and no one will think less of them.
Thank u for posting here, and warm wecome to backspin, Calblue and Lorena. Great posts. Loved reading about how you feel at different stages of ur lives... the struggle is real. x