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Topic: Depressed

24 posts, 0 answered
  1. Spd
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    17 June 2020
    I don't have family or friends to speak to, so I thought I'd give this a go.
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  2. white knight
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    17 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Hi, welcome

    Youve joined a completely anonymous site so feel free to explain your circumstances age, meditation?,do you have anxiety also and anything else you’d like to mention

    TonyWK

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  3. ecomama
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    17 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Dear Spd

    Welcome! You will always have friends here to talk to. I'm glad you joined and I hope you feel alot better for joining.

    What are some things you like doing?

    EM

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  4. Spd
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    18 June 2020 in reply to ecomama
    All my time is spent with animals.at present I have two dogs,One cat,one horse ,all rescue .im X soldier and retired from work in 2017 and it's been downhill from then.
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  5. Spd
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    18 June 2020 in reply to white knight
    Thanks for your reply.my anxiety is off the scale at the moment and didn't really know we're to turn.my family,friends,and someone in the Vic police have been destroying my mental health for a long time and I'm worn out totally.l don't really know what to do anymore.
  6. Tommys
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Spd
    Good afternoon. Thank you for joining Beyond Blue. I took me a gigantic step to go onto the forums and speak. I love that you can spend time with your animals. I also find getting remedial massages and going to some op shops is great therapy as well. If you do see a regular doctor you may be able to get a care plan which you may see a chiropractor (if you have any back or neck issues). Believe me it helps a lot with anxiety and stress.
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  7. Spd
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Tommys
    Thanks Tommy,good advice.have you heard of gaslighting.its been happening to me for a very long time and has destroyed my mental health.family and friends have all deserted me and not sure what to do anymore.
  8. Tommys
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Spd
    Have you spoken to your doctor at all? To see if they can refer you to someone who maybe able to help?
  9. Spd
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Tommys
    It's all a waist of time.im being harrased badly by the police as well.my family is behind it,so they must hate me a lot.l moved to a small country town,and everyone here turned on me too.l can't find out what is being said,no one will talk to me .I've complained to police complaints unit and ibac,but nothing will be done.l don't know what to do anymore.
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  10. Sophie_M
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Spd
    Hi Spd,

    We're sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time. It sounds like you're quite isolated at the moment and we understand this must be difficult. Can we ask, do you have any mental health support? We understand it can be really tough to cope sometimes, especially if you don't have a lot of support from family or friends. If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  They will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area.

    You can also find information on support groups is available on the Black Dog Institute site here - https://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/resources-support/support-groups/
    It might be helpful to join a support group to try and build a social network in your area.​​​​

    Many of our members understand and it's great to see that so many have reached out to you here to talk about these feelings with you. If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help support you.
  11. Spd
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Sophie_M
    If l try to do anything the police interfered with it.l can't even get help from a doctor because someone speaks to them and I'm treaterd like garbage.it is the police.l don't have any support from anyone.im on a DVA pension and even they are the same.lm intentionally gaslighted by everyone.even doing this will be interfered with by someone.
  12. Doz86
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    18 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Hi Spd,

    Thank you for being so brave and sharing your current circumstances.

    It sounds like your going through some trying times. Why don't you give Beyond Blue a call on 1300 22 4636. They will listen to you, I know it feels good for me when I'm listened to.

    Let us know how you get along.

    Regards,

    Doz

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  13. ecomama
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    19 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Spd said:It's all a waist of time.im being harrased badly by the police as well.my family is behind it,so they must hate me a lot.l moved to a small country town,and everyone here turned on me too.l can't find out what is being said,no one will talk to me .I've complained to police complaints unit and ibac,but nothing will be done.l don't know what to do anymore.

    Dear Spd

    Have you spoken to the Ombudsman?
    I had to do this many years ago when an ex policeman was harrassing us dreadfully and got Local Court personnel involved. The Ombudsman was BRILLIANT.

    There IS hope.
    All of my family and friends were turned against me also, it came out in the wash so to speak.
    My "family" were reporting me for all sorts of garbage that I didn't do. That came out in the wash too.
    Now no authorities listen to these people. It's all vexatious.

    I know this sounds like a rash thing to do, but can you go interstate for a while?
    I took my kids and did this.
    Getting away gave me clarity.

    I know this would be hard with your rescue animals (I do this TOO - rescue animals and had over 30 at one point).

    See what you can do.

    Higher Authorities need to know.

    This too shall pass, I hope it's not in the spectacular and dramatic ways as mine had to, but it will pass.

    Praying for you.

    EM

  14. Spd
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    19 June 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Thankyou for your reply.they have done a real number on my mental health.l have complained to every department there is,but no luck as yet.l can go interstate,l have a camper/horsefloat so l think I'll eventually do that when boarders open up.there isn't anything here for me anymore,so l think I'll settle interstate.thanks for your reply,it was a big help.when there isn't anyone to talk to,it can be a real struggle.thankyou.
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  15. ecomama
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    20 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Dear Spd

    It's totally understandable that you would feel extremely stressed with all this crazy stuff happening.

    Please be careful using any and all Social Media. It's important to keep these accounts "clean" and not post anything untoward.

    I really think it would be a good idea to get away to somewhere safe. There you may be able to heal and recover from all this.

    Please post when you can to let us know how you're getting on.
    Best wishes!
    EM

  16. Spd
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    20 June 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Thanks for your posts,but l don't think anything will change.my mental health is ruined so I'll just except how it will be and try to move on.thanks.
  17. Spd
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    20 June 2020 in reply to Doz86
    Thanks for your post.the police interfered with everything l try to do,so it will be a waste of time trying to talk to anyone.l don't know anymore,so I'll try to move on.thankyou anyway.
  18. ecomama
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    20 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Best wishes Spd, please post whenever you want or need to.

    It's a hard situation you're in atm. I hope things improve for you.

    EM

  19. Spd
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    28 June 2020 in reply to ecomama
    Thought I'd say hi .nothing has changed and probably never will.ive come to learn that my family have never liked me since I was very young and my so called friends were never friends.this lock down with covivid hasn't really effected me because this is how I've spent my hole life .now there is nothing at all so feeling very lost.l can't remember the last time I had a honest conversation with anyone,let alone just a chat .my mental health has gone down hill since retiring,and I don't think it will recover .
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  20. Sophie_M
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    28 June 2020 in reply to Spd
    Hey Spd, thanks for reaching out on the forums tonight. We're so sorry to hear how lonely you feel at the moment. We understand how difficult things have been lately with the COVID restrictions. But please know that you've come to a safe, non-judgemental space to talk about your thoughts and feelings, and our wonderful community is here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

    If you feel up to it, we'd recommend reaching out to our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time. You can also call our dedicated support line, staffed by mental health professionals, which is available 24/7 on 1800 512 348.

    Many in our community have experienced similar feelings and will be able to talk through these feelings with you. If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best support you through this.
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  21. ecomama
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    29 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Dear Spd

    Yes, the whole covid shut down didn't make much difference to us that were already socially isolated.
    Many people have said that now others in society will understand what it's like for us.

    But they don't.

    It's really up to us to take steps for ourselves.

    I'm sorry you've come to specific realisations about your family. My family stopped speaking to me decades ago.
    I lost 39 people in one fell swoop by calling the police on my mother - finally. She was jailed by Police.
    It took me AGES to work out that my family hated me.
    Years.
    I was heavily depressed during those years. Depression can be a very difficult thing to lift off of you.

    Hold on because you can overcome depression!
    IMO if we believe some people's actions have contributed to our depression, I ask how good they could be for our MH anyway?

    There are so many wonderful Community groups out there to foster friendships between people and assist them making connections with each other. I'm not saying ALL of the people who attend these groups have pure intentions lol, but you're probably alert to red flags anyway.

    There are:
    * Community Gardens that you can go to and they usually have working bees and interesting talks,
    * Men's Sheds
    * Church Food Pantries that you could help out with and they foster WONDERFUL friendships IME.
    * Community Soup Kitchens
    * Disability service centres who run Op shops are usually always looking for Volunteers.
    * Gardening groups and Permaculture groups.

    These are just the groups I've been involved with in the past and I've kept around 1 good friend per group lol.

    I even found a group that assists with driving children to jail to see their incarcerated parent(s).
    You would probably need a Working With Children's Check to help with some groups but these are free for Volunteers.

    Sometimes we just need to feel needed and you may feel the right things if you can get yourself out there.

    Has your interest been piqued at all?

    EM

  22. Spd
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    29 June 2020 in reply to ecomama
    I've just found out that my complaints have not been going to were they should have.my complaints to the police never got there because it's the police who are doing the harrassment.if you can't trust them and it's them who are doing this,then we're do l turn.ive put three complaints into ibac with no reply.the police will be interfering with that for sure.l read on the net that the ombudsman does not investigate police.does that sound right to you.l can't find anything out that would help me,and it's eroded my mental health totally.theres no point trying to join a group or meet people because the police interfered with it,and l can never find out what is said about me.they tell me I'm not under investigation for anything,but they have been all over me since 2017 .my family is behind it.they have hated me for as long as l can remember.this has been going on for a very long time,but l never realised until 2017.l always blamed myself.they always made out everything was my fault,and l believed that to.l came to realise that my family,friends and police have been involved in spiking my drinks when l went out.l just thought l drank to much,and didn't know any better.l haven't had a drink for a long time.l remember mentioning this to a mates wife once,and all of them changed towards me.anyway thanks for your messages,they are a big help.l don't get any other replies,so thanks for listening.
  23. ecomama
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    30 June 2020 in reply to Spd

    Dear Spd

    Have you made detailed notes with dates and hopefully names of people you believe are trying to harm you?

    If I were you I would go the Local MP. Lodge a complaint there. Ask questions about who to report to etc.

    I did contact an Ombudsman for Police years ago and got an incredible response. Courts where I could not lodge complaints were suddenly opened up to me. But I went out of my local area to lodge in Court, then they transferred me to a local Court.

    I engaged my own lawyer because I didn't trust the police at all then. The Judge ruled in my favour and the offenders tried to attack me before I had even left the Court house. Police pounced on them and handcuffed and charged them immediately.

    I never heard from them again.

    Strangely enough, within a year our whole local police were investigated and many were sacked for corruption. There was a whole clean out here. I'm sure it wasn't just my complaint that made that happen.

    I hope you can get somewhere safe.

    EM

  24. Spd
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    1 July 2020 in reply to ecomama
    I can name all the people who have tried to harm me,but have no proof.l can't name any police but they have been all over me since 2017.l think one of my brother's will be heaverlly involved.he knows about computers and will be the one hacking into my phone.l don't have the energy to do any more about it.its just stopped some were,so why bother.lve never used social media,so I'm safe from that rubbish.l have sent a lot of abusive and threatening messages,but not for a while.not sure what the future holds.cant go interstate at the moment.this covid looks like it's coming back.its early to bed,then a struggle through the day.the depression and anxiety is relentless but l don't think l know any better or different .that's life.

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