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Topic: Don't know what to do

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Domaincircuit
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    2 January 2020


    This is my first time posting on anything so im sorry if it is just me rambling, I don't really know how to type these sorts of things . For 3 years now I have been feeling just down no matter what I do, I don't know who to talk to hence why I am posting here, Among family and friends I am seen as the "funny guy" but I feel that now that they just wont take me seriously anymore and I don't want to burden them with my issues as they already have there hands full. I was unemployed for 2 years after I finished school and honestly there were some time where I thought maybe death was the easier option, I know that never would be the solution as it would just hurt my family and friends. After I finally got a job I thought these feelings would go but if anything they feel the same. I just have no drive to do anything and honestly im surprised that I am writing here. Thank you for reading and sorry again for the ramblings.

  2. romantic_thi3f
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    3 January 2020 in reply to Domaincircuit

    Hey Domaincircuit,

    Welcome to the forums and thanks for your post. I'm glad you decided to share what's been going on with you - sounds like it wasn't really an easy thing to come to these forums.

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling a fair bit; doesn't sound like you have much support around you or people that you've shared things with. I totally get the sense of not wanting to burden people, but at the end of the day- these people do care about you and I have no doubt if the situation was reversed you'd probably want to be there for them too.

    Can I ask you a bit of a weird question - what might your life look like if you didn't feel so down? If say you woke up tomorrow and that feeling kind of went away? What might you be thinking, or doing? It's okay if this sounds a bit kooky or you're not sure yet, but sometimes just the idea of brainstorming can help open up the idea that things can be different for you.

    I hope you enjoy being apart of this community. Feel free to jump in or have a browse on some of the other threads here too if you like.


  3. Maree1993
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    5 January 2020 in reply to romantic_thi3f

    Can totally resonate with this.

    Have felt like like this on and off for quite some time. Too shy/embarrassed/confused to open up to anyone I know about it, GP included.

    I do agree with what romantic_thi3f said - if the roles were reversed I’d want to be there for my friends and for them to open up to me.

    Taking that step is so hard though.

  4. therising
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    6 January 2020 in reply to Domaincircuit

    Hi Domaincircuit

    rt poses a significant question 'what might your life look like if you didn't feel so down? If say you woke up tomorrow and that feeling kind of went away? What might you be thinking, or doing' I know it's probably going to be a tough one to answer but still worth considering.

    Now that you have an income, do you know what to do with it in order to raise your self? I personally believe money is nothing more than a resource; a resource with which to pay the bills with, eat and so on. So, how could it be used in the way of raising you above the life you are used to?

    Let's say the first thing that pops into your head is 'travel'. If you know someone who loves to travel, someone you're close to, ask them if they wish to travel to somewhere you once dreamed of going to. Or maybe they may have a more sensational or simplistic destination in mind for a good start. This is not only an opportunity to travel, it's also an opportunity to discuss how you're feeling. You may find yourself saying to this person 'I've been feeling incredibly down and I feel I really need this but don't necessarily have to motivation to achieve it on my own'. Suddenly you have someone on your side who is conscious of you needing to be raised above depression. Some folk are fantastic at naturally raising people, through great directional words of advice as well as presenting challenges to rise to. The challenges become important when we're trying to raise our self. With each challenge we meet, they become like steps on the way up. With each challenge we meet, we meet a high that comes with such an achievement.

    Myself, I lived in my depression for about 15 years, some time ago. I have now reached the stage where I say 'Bring it on!' for I know that no matter how difficult or how emotionally draining a challenge might be, when I rise to overcome it, I have evolved just that little bit more. I keep going because I want to know who I can be. I know this may sound simple but it has taken me many years to master.

    Perhaps your first significant challenge at this point in time is to answer the question 'Who do I want to be?' If the answer is 'An adventurer (because staying still is a little soul destroying)', give some thought to the travel idea. Don't give up until you find someone who says 'Yes, let's do it!'

    Let no one keep you down :)

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