Hi the rising
I understand you, although understandably we are all over sensitive to different topic/reaction/comments etc.
For myself my top trigger is selfishness. Considering other people before myself was taught to me. Talk about a grand enabler!
AAfter much hurt from giving to others and placing them on a pedestal only to realise that such consideration would not be reciprocated I was stumped....aren't all people considerate? No, in fact that illusion was only one of many things not the same so the wide spread of behaviours of humans began to sink in, including sensitivity.
Men are lions, prepared for battle more physically in the past now mainly sharp piercing words of today. My over the top acts of consideration is not realistic, it's on the extreme end of the scale inviting capitalisation on my vulnerability. Things had to change and that came about around 20 years ago. I decided my HSP would never change so my strategy would be, not to get sad but to confront these aggressors in a measured but equally determined manner with an addition of wit.
It has worked. If I am now still sensitive but will equalise any unfair treatment vocally, even with volume. In a lions world this isn't preferable but necessary.
I might point out that my late brother took his life at 26yo and was a HSP.
The challenge for a parent of HSP children is real. Yes, teaching to embrace themselves for whom they are with that balance of an effective measured defence. Finally, post confrontation to learn not to feel guilt which is something I haven't mastered.
Re: " I will forever be grateful to 2 of a small number of people who brought me back to life, my kids. This is one of the reasons why I try so hard to raise them to be more sensitive and aware. It's one of the ways in which I love and bring them to life. I never want them to have to suffer depression."
The problem is, try as you may, it can happen. My daughter now 32yo was a good teacher also HSP and broke down at 26yo with depression bipolar and PTSD. She can never work as a teacher again. I recognised all my illnesses in her as she became an adult. Prior to that she was teary eyed too easily but dad's think daughter's always are. My point being, I couldn't sway her to stand her ground as I've explained.
I agree with your angle of choosing the right people to share your life around. I covered the process of screening, using a filter, to make sure they weren't going to damage me in the thread "fortress of survival"