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Topic: I’m new here...

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Mummatoboys
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    2 posts
    12 January 2020

    Hi Everyone,

    I am wanting to reach out for help, guidance and reassurance. I’m 33, married with 2 children. I know something isn’t right and I’m just not coping with life at the moment. My youngest who is 3 is really testing at the moment and I feel like i’m constantly yelling, screaming and angry all the time. I still get up, do what needs to be done, care for my family... But I feel empty inside and I can’t put my finger on why. Not a day goes by where I’m not bad tempered, impatient or irritated by something. It sucks! I want to be happy again. My husband doesn’t believe I have any mental health issues and puts it down to having kids, life in general and our youngest who is very testing at the moment. My parenting and coping with my older child who is 7 is different. I can cope, I am more patient, He listens haha. Could it be my youngest is going through this stage and I’m finding it so challenging and it will pass as he’s older? I seem to go through some down times at various times in my life and have been to counseling and then i feel “better” and think i’m fine until it hits again months down the track? All i know is i’m feeling meh with life. Wouldn’t dare take my own life, but want to cope better, stop feeling so angry, hot headed and irritable. I feel so bad for my children and husband. They deserve better.

  2. uncut_gems
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    13 January 2020 in reply to Mummatoboys

    Hi Mummatoboys,

    I'm not a parent myself so hopefully some other folks with kids of their own can share their thoughts. I just wanted to say that children deserve a parent and partners deserve a spouse who loves them unconditionally and wants what is best for them– and I can tell from your post that that is just the case here. I don't have too much specific to add other than this poem that my mother kept on the fridge when I was a kid that I found very moving, and lord knows I could be testing at times:

    When children try your soul, as they will,
    When they cause you grief, as they do,
    When they rouse your anger and provoke your wrath, as is their way,
    When they reduce you to tears and prayer, as often happens,


    Love them.

    Don't bother about anything at all
    Until you have first made clear to yourself
    That your love for the child in question
    Is holding firmly, swelling warmly in your heart.
    Then, whatever you do will be as nearly right
    As it is possible for human judgment to be right.

  3. Mummatoboys
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    15 January 2020 in reply to uncut_gems
    This brought me to tears and I really appreciate it. Thank you so much, it means a lot. x
    1 person found this helpful
  4. uncut_gems
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    22 January 2020 in reply to Mummatoboys
    Any time– take care!

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