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Topic: Opening up...about body image

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. Taylah.P
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    1 posts
    12 July 2020
    I have major body image issues, when I was a child I was bullied for being over weight, and for things such as hairy legs etc. My own mother use to bully me into trying to loose weight by saying things like you’ll become the size of a house and my siblings would call me a pig or fat. I hate my body because of my past and I don’t know what to do, I don’t like talking to others about it because everyone has plenty of other issues that are way more important, but sometimes I feel like no one care about how I feel but I’m just a burden eater. If I bring it up it’s just ignored, I listen to everyone else’s problems but I struggle to open up about mine. I hate it and sometimes it’s hard to stay positive, I wish people didn’t have to go through stuff like this it’s just crap. I see my own mothers Facebook covered in photos of my siblings but there lacks plenty photos of me and I’m ashamed of who I am, i don’t feel like I worth finding love or being happy.
  2. Sophie_M
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    3679 posts
    12 July 2020 in reply to Taylah.P
    Hi Taylah Page,
    Wishing you a warm welcome to the forums. It takes a lot of courage to be so open and honest with your feelings, and we are so glad that you have reached out here tonight. We can hear how lonely you're feeling and we're sorry to hear about how much the bullying has  impacted your mental health. Its not easy to reach out like this but we're very grateful you felt brave enough to do so. 
    We're here to provide as much support, advice and conversation as you need. We’d encourage you to reach out to our Support Service- we’re available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. One of our professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area. Please keep checking in and letting us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.

    lease know that you've come to a safe, non-judgemental space and our community is here to support you through this difficult time.
  3. Tay100
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    12 July 2020 in reply to Taylah.P

    Hi Taylah.P

    I'm sorry to hear that you have had a rough experience so far, please know that you don't deserve that and you have every right to feel the way you do. In addition to getting some professional help as Sophie_M suggested, please feel free to use this thread to express your feelings in this safe, compassionate space. We are here to listen and to help you find a supportive community.

    Let us know how you are going, if you like.


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  4. Azza12
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    19 posts
    12 July 2020 in reply to Taylah.P
    I'm sure you are a very beautiful girl
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  5. golden82
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    140 posts
    12 July 2020 in reply to Taylah.P

    Hello Taylah;

    I hope you are feeling a bit better now that you have opened-up on here about how you have been feeling.

    My advice would be to seek out a counselor or psychologist to talk through what you have written on here. You could see if your school/or wherever you are have a counselor; or you could book a Doctor apt (just the local GP) and ask for a referral for a bulk-billing psychologist - so there is no cost to you. And you can talk through all these things and they can help you with understanding things.

    Also I would forget the facebook - try your best not to look at the photos your Mum puts on there. Instead, try look at things/read things that make you feel better about yourself. There are lots of areas on this website you could read/post in. I am sure you will find lots of others who have similar thoughts.

    Your thoughts and struggles are just as important as anyone else's. They are very real to you. But it is probably better to discuss them with a professional - who shouldn't judge - rather than your friends.

    My father and brother used to call me fat etc too when I was growing up. It is horrible. It stuck with me and I have always had body image issues. I am now 37 yo and my strongest advice to you would be to not give any worth to what they are saying. And instead give worth to YOU and all you are more than your body. You are a personality, a brain, a friend etc etc. And your body is to function - so look after it and love it for you to be healthy. I have been in hospital before and the nurses say to be your own best friend.

    Try your best everyday to be your own best friend. You are worth it :)

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