I welcome you to the forum and well done for starting this thread.
It is hard to write down all your thoughts to express how you are feeling .
Younhave explained very well and I can feel your frustration and tiredness as well as you love and understanding for your partner.
I have lived with a diagnosis of bipolar for over 40 years and have learnt how important self care is and identifying and avoiding triggers are to ones health.
The trouble that can be difficult to achieve at times.
You aware of how stressed your partner is and he knows it affects you.
I am wondering if there is something he can do before coming home that will help him unwind , doing some form of exercise , talking with work mates, really anything that helps him de stress before he sees you. As I don’t know him , none may be suitable but it is just an idea.
Or when he gets home he sits and listen to music etc.?
It is most important for you to keep well.
Has he seen anyone about his stress and discussed how it affects him.?
It is important for you to get support and to practice self care. have you spoke to your doctor or a counsellor?
I knew what it was like to have problems and not be suppported. The thing is you realise you can not keep supporting him if your own health is not being supported.
I realise you have explained how you feel and his behaviour has not changed. Would he consider going to a counsellor with you?
There is a thread on this forum ,this bipolar life which you are welcome to have a look at and ask question and get support. It is a friendly group.
Also would you consider ringing beyond blue support line 1300 22 4636
where a trained counsellor offers support advice action.
Feel free to continue to talk here if you want.