Welcome to the Healthy Families forums!

This is a space to ask questions, share experiences and support each other. Find a relevant thread or start your own!

Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community and have a read of the community rules. Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia.

  • share on Facebook
  • share on Twitter
  • Print page

Topic: There’s no point

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Padden
    Padden avatar
    1 posts
    16 September 2020
    There’s no point. We live and then we die.
    my husband is dead. He was my everything and now there’s no point in continuing. I wish I could die.
    I have spent my whole life trying so hard to be a good person, someone lovable but now there’s no one. My family have not supported me at all since my husband died. I have no one to talk to or share anything with. People might say, let me know if there’s anything I can do but what can they do. They can’t bring him back, they can’t make it hurt less. There’s nothing so I say nothing and hurt on my own. I can’t do this. This isn’t a life and I don’t see any hope that it will get better. Every day I wish I could die.
    what is the point in trying to feel better. Terrible things will happen and there is so much pain still to come in my life.
  2. Sophie_M
    Sophie_M avatar
    3133 posts
    16 September 2020 in reply to Padden
    Hi Padden,

    We’re grateful to have you reach out to our community this morning and are so sorry to hear everything you have going on at the moment. What you're going through sounds so overwhelming and it's understandable that you're feeling hopeless about the future. We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you. 
      Our Support Service is trying to reach out to you via email as we're worried about you. 
    We hope you know that there is always help available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7/365 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).
    Keep checking back in with us whenever you feel up to it. 
  3. Ggrand
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    Ggrand avatar
    6996 posts
    16 September 2020 in reply to Padden

    Hello Padden...

    A very warm welcome to our forums...

    I am really sorry Padden, about your husband passing and how overwhelmed you feel....

    My husband passed away 7 years, after 38 years of marriage.....I felt lost and confused because all of a sudden I was on my own...and for many years I asked myself what is my purpose...Still today I find myself asking the same question...it’s hard to wake up to no one, and to me the nights are worse...I have no family living near me...My children are 7 hours away...and I very seldom see them..it’s been over a year now...

    After much help from the lovely people on this forum and my Dr...my life is beginning to look up a bit...I applied for and am now volunteering myself one day a week at a charity shop...I volunteer here for Beyond Blue..and these are giving me a sense of purpose...which I think is something that everyone needs to feel...

    Grief is a long process for a lot of people.....their no time limit to grieving....even now at times I still cry about loosing my husband...I think it’s something that never leaves us... It’s really hard but we have to try to live without them the best we can..... we carry the love you had for him.....and the love he had for you in your heart forever..

    I am elderly and have no plans or wants for the future..I was thinking that maybe if you felt up to it that maybe a volunteer job..might help you to start mixing with different people and hopefully you might feel you do have a purpose..

    You’re not alone dear Padden...

    Talk anytime you’re feeling up to .,,,We are here for you and we hope we can help you...

    My kind and caring thoughts..


  4. quirkywords
    Community Champion
    • Outstanding members who have volunteered their time to support others here on the forums
    • A member of beyondblue's blueVoices community
    quirkywords avatar
    7690 posts
    16 September 2020 in reply to Sophie_M

    welcome Padden.

    I am sorry you are feeling that life wont get better and that life is so hard,

    My house and shop were destroyed in the fires and I know that is nothing compared to the loss of a spouse, but it mad me feel that everything bad was happening and then covid and my partner was ill and more.

    I still have hope and I know it is hard for you but Sophie suggested about support, Grandy has shown how things can change.

Stay in touch with us

Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones.

Sign me up