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Topic: Why does music really bring the emotions we have

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  1. Dubbl0seven
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    4 July 2020
    Getting answers for this is difficult and it really knows where to hit when we see us with what we are going through at the time . It like magic and sometimes that magic is really joyful and then it can really suck . But we listen to it no matter what .
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  2. Croix
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    5 July 2020 in reply to Dubbl0seven

    Dear Dubbl0seven~

    I'm afraid I've no deep answers to your questions. I do know music has an effect on me, and can be positive or negative depending on the mood of the music and the mood in me.

    Add to that music that I associate with a particular event and it make it very hard to come up with rules.

    Some examples

    Handel's Messiah can bring me back to when I was young as I sang it in a prestigious event.

    Via Con Me (Paulo Conte) makes me remember the good times with my late wife

    Windmills of Your Mind reminds me of the hidden complexity of my thoughts when they are made too clear cut and hopeless by depression, a positive thing.

    I do know playing the wrong type can be irritating, cheerful music such as

    Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries theme when I'm right down makes matters worse, feel more isolated.

    One I've recently heard, NF's Outcast can blend with a really down mood and make me feel less alone and others understand.

    I've no idea if this in any way helps your inquiry, all one can really say is that music is indeed mood altering and persona knowledge helps us select the type one wishes at the time.


  3. geoff
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    5 July 2020 in reply to Dubbl0seven

    Hello Dubbl0seven, and a warm welcome to the forums.

    Music can be soothing or can even just act as a distraction from the stress of everyday life or we can associate a song/theme with something or another person we only wished we could be with or perhaps our imagination could only hope that we were in a situation created by the song, and that's why we play and replay that particular song, either to be happy or even sad.

    If any music does make us unhappy, we do want to replay it, over and over again, because it's something that we can grab hold of, where only ourselves and the song/theme can relate to, that nobody else knows about.

    I have many numerous songs I love to listen to, it doesn't matter how many times it's played, which can make me happy, in a positive way or the reverse, the balance is even.

    Take care.


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    5 July 2020 in reply to Dubbl0seven

    Hey 007 and welcome to the forum! ✌

    I understand what you mean as I have a relationship with music going right back into my childhood. While visiting my pop when I was little, he'd slap one leg as I sat on the other cuddling him each night to his fave old 78's until I fell asleep.

    Our home was filled with music on the radio from sun up to sun down. Mum wanted to be a country singer so was always singing in the shower; you know, acoustics and all. We'd all laugh, but it was her way of keeping her dream alive.

    Before housework I play 70's or 80's pop music to sing along and move to. Music 'gets in' yeah?

    My last long term relationship was empty of music as [he] didn't like listening. His home was silent growing up so it didn't resonate with him. I hated that silence, though he had the gift of the gab so all wasn't lost.

    On Valentine's Day our last year together he surprised me with a special dinner night at his home. There was a red and white checked tablecloth, candles, wine and...jazz and blues playing in the background that he'd downloaded just for me.

    I guess what I'm saying 007 is that no matter the genre, our lives can be uplifted when we're down, calm us when we're angry or fill our hearts with beauty and passion when the world seems ugly. And yes, it can bring tears to our eyes or trigger old wounds and memories, but what would life be without music? Even tribal communities appreciate rhythms replicating the sound of a heart beating. Life goes on...



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