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Topic: Why even bother?

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  1. Michael89
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    6 January 2020
    After years of doing all known medications and so called talking therapies, nothing has helped. With all the suffering everywhere and meaningless, why even bother going on? Life seems to be one big practical joke.
  2. bipolarbeauty
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    6 January 2020 in reply to Michael89
    Hi Michael89

    Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out.

    Honestly I feel I don't know much/any of your story to give you advice on what's good or bad, judging from your first post. But I want to also say - I feel have also been through "all known" medications and talking therapies too, trying out all kinds of meds for my diagnosis of Bipolar and have at one stage in my life question what's the point of it all. What I learnt is to hold onto hope, no matter how bleak it seems. I learnt to find hope in having friends, having family who really cares. Self-care and mindfulness and also practicing gratefulness everyday has helped me heaps throughout these years. I was unemployed for two years, came out of a bad relationship and almost gave up, but overcame it through the help of my support network.

    I hope to hear from you again. Please keep us updated.

    Suzi
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  3. Michael89
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    6 January 2020 in reply to bipolarbeauty

    Hi Suzi,

    That's great you were able overcome your issues. So after you tried everything as well, you were able to get better through a perspective change and finding support in friends/family? I have tried various meditations/mindfulness techniques with no positive changes. I had friends but they slowly went away, which eventually happens to most people. However, when I had friends, talking to them about everything didn't change my mental illness, at all.

  4. bipolarbeauty
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    6 January 2020 in reply to Michael89
    Hi Michael89,

    I would answer your question as yes and a no too. Not everyone I met and became friends with understood my condition well, and sometimes I feel making it more detrimental to my mental health. At most times, a lot of people said I look 'normal' and don't think I have mental health issues. Only a few who saw me at my lowest and I can honestly open myself to and knew how to help me at my low points. At times, I had to communicate to them "how" they can help me in a practical way. Hope that helps?
  5. therising
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    7 January 2020 in reply to Michael89

    Hi Michael89

    Thing things I recall passionately hating most about my depression was the soul destroying nature and the question 'When will I come out of it, if ever?' Without a doubt, it's one of life's most torturous conditions. I found myself in mine for about 15 years, before I finally found myself out of it.

    I believe we graduate out of depression and everyone's graduation happens in different ways. Some graduate with meds (chemical balancing system), some with therapy, some with an effective support network and the list goes on. Unfortunately, part of the graduation is a trial and error process which seems seriously cruel.

    For me, I stagnated through part of my graduation by relying on alcohol to shift my chemistry and boy did it shift it in all the wrong ways. I tried about 5 different meds after the one that worked stopped working. I graduated through some truly horrible challenges in those years, such as miscarriages, an overdose (at my lowest), a bit of help and a lot of (unintentional) poor advice from friends, family and even therapists. How the list goes on. I reached solid ground above my depression through, of all things, post natal depression group therapy. It was a powerful experience, listening to how others raised themselves through many challenges. It was also a powerful experience to note all the common traits we shared and how angry and sad we'd become, with very little energy to keep going. I recall looking at this long list on a whiteboard when it suddenly hit 'This is not me, these are the traits of depression itself'.

    Michael, I regard us as truly amazing; to get through life with such a list of incredible challenges (those that come with depression). I also regard those who have just about run the gamut of positive ways out of depression as incredible. It was not until coming out my low that I looked at how often I had raised myself to a challenge which I hoped would bring me out. I look at your list of trials and note that you have also raised yourself often to such challenges. I see how amazing you are.

    Each time we rise to a challenge, this is a step up. Whilst it may not feel like it, I ask 'How proud are you of your efforts in trying to raise yourself?' In this moment, I would love to hear you say 'I have never tried harder at anything in life and in knowing this have never felt prouder of myself'.

    I suppose the joke of it is 'We have been raising our self all along and didn't even know it'.

    :)

     

     

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