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Topic: First time post

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Priscilla28
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    27 June 2019

    Hi

    this is my first time posting.

    i am currently dealing with the loss of both my parents and don’t really have anybody to talk to about it.

    my father died suddenly in 2017 and my mother died in 2018 of cancer. My dad was 51 and my mother 49.

    some days are good and some days are bad, but I feel like I have to keep going and pushing through for my children.

    i dont have much support or help so I do feel alone most days as I was very close to my parents

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  2. Lonelydan
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    49 posts
    27 June 2019 in reply to Priscilla28
    Hi Priscilla, Welcome to the forums. I’m so sorry for your loss. To loose both parents so close, what you must be going through is unbearable. I think of the loved ones I’ve lost are just time away. There in a place you can’t visit until it’s your time. It’s so hard because in situations like this words are useless. I wish I could make it better for you. All I can say is it takes time. As time goes by it gets better don’t let anyone rush you through your grieving process. Dan...
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  3. quirkywords
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    27 June 2019 in reply to Priscilla28

    Priscilla28

    Welcome to the forum. This is a supportive and friendly place.

    I too feel deep sorrow the loss of your parents at such a young age.

    Have you spoken to your doctor or seen a counsellor?

    I understand you are pushing yourself for your children, but you need to look after yourself so you can care for your children.

    There are grief and loss support groups would you feel okay about seeing if there any groups nearby.

    Would you have look at the Lifeline website. They have information, a helpline, support for grieving family .

    There maybe some information you may find helpful.

    Quirky

  4. Philomena
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    11 October 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi Priscilla28

    I am sorry to hear about the loss of both your parents.

    I love you to share your feelings with me and I am available to listen to you so you feel comfortable you can share with me.

    The pain can never be taken away whatever anyone says but you have to feel and express the pain in order to start processing the loss.

    I know you feel sad and angry and upset but grief has many emotional and physical reactions too.

    Try to accept the reality of the loss by having a memorial service in honour of your parents, where family and friends meet. Work through the grief and develop an enduring connection with them though they are not present, in your mind and heart by sharing their memories and biographies with others. Try to develop new skills and new friends to move on with your life.

    if you still feel lonely try to locate a support group in your area where you will meet others who are grieving and don’t feel alone in your grief, moreover these support groups have activities you can join in.

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