I’m very sorry for the loss of your grandfather. It sounds as though his death has hit you really hard and I know it’s very difficult. Hugs to you.
You’ve asked a good question: Is it normal to still be grieving after 3 and a half years? It’s a really hard question to answer because grieving is a truly individual process.
There is no set timetable. No set process. No set rules to follow. And I’ve found as I’ve moved through different stages of life that every loss feels different.
It’s a universal human experience yet we don’t talk about it enough and many people are left to flounder on their own.
I think it’s fair to say that many people generally experience ups and downs and start to heal with time. They start to have more good days than bad and start coping better with life.
But I also think it’s true that people can become “stuck” in their grief and need professional support to move on.
I’m not a professional and don’t know if you need professional help, but I don’t think it could hurt to find out. You’ve got nothing to lose and much to gain.
I’d like to suggest you try contacting GriefLine, which offers confidential telephone and online grief counselling every day between midday and 3 am – call 1300 845 745 or visit griefline.org.au.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Please feel free to post any time.
Kind thoughts to you