Evening all, I have never asked any professional person this question probably because it simply hasn't been a problem for me. Nor is it now....but....I can't seem to find any websites, or long term effects, if any, or posts on Forum about "not" grieving a close family member. In my case, my mother when I was 16.
The reason I am curious if this is more common that usually thought....is that my sister died a few months ago and I didn't seem to "grieve" much then either, even though I had no ill feelings towards her. In fact I felt terribly sad for her during her illness and problems through life and loved her, still do. I wouldn't call it"grieving" though. (I have grieved terribly for pets...unrelenting pain, distraught with the grief, taking long long time to cope with that kind of loss...but with these 2 people, I seemed to just get on with my life).
Re my mother, I can honestly say I have never missed her, felt sad at her passing, wished she was here, been around to see my children, life's successes, shared my celebrations, not for one second, minute, hour or day since the Dr delivered the news at the hospital. Never felt the need to "talk " to her or share anything with her, "ask" her advice, cry for her....nothing! Has this lack of grieving process at 16 affected me in other ways perhaps? Is that really relevant anyway? Just curious if anyone else "non grieves"
Sending wishes for peace and love to you...thanks for listening...Moonstruck