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Topic: Losing my 7 yo Daughter in a Preventable Accident

6 posts, 0 answered
  1. Chicken Little
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    18 October 2019

    Hi,

    My beautiful little girl was killed when a 100kg truck wheel fell on her almost 10 weeks ago.

    I rushed my daughter to the local Hospital in a minute or so, but the blunt force trauma was too great for her to survive & approx 30 minutes later the ED team had to call it off as she was gone forever.

    It has been almost impossible for me to work & think clearly but I need to try & continue my work so that I survive financially.

    Only time will tell if I can stay afloat.

    The negligent tenant who stacked the truck wheels against the outside shed wall appears to not care, feel any shame or embarrassment for his actions & has continued to attend & work on his junk in the next door storage shed whilst I'm trying to work. He has walked past me several times & acted as though I'm not even there. He has shown no remorse, given no apology for his actions & didn't even clean up the junk that he left lying around outside the storage shed until I put in a official complaint about his junkyard.

    Everyday has been a roller coaster of emotions, my disbelief that my little girl is gone forever, my disbelief that someone could be so stupid to lean truck wheels against a shed wall unrestrained in a Public access walkway to the Toilets, Anger that this has happened to an innocent little girl that should have been safe & had walked to the Toilets many times without incident.

    I just don't understand how this has happened & that nothing seems to be happening to punish the negligent party.

    My 7yo girls life was cut short by the stupidity of a Truck Driver who had no excuse for his actions, He had plenty of time & plenty of available space to store the wheels safely but chose not to. I don't see that Justice will ever be served for his actions & it only hurts more when I'm told that my little princesses life is worthless under Australian law.

    Time does not heal all wounds & whomever came Up with that lie has never lost someone that they truly, deeply love & care about.

    This tragedy has only continued to grow in its abilty to break our family more as time goes on.

    The problems that it causes multiply everyday & I know I will never get over this loss.

     

  2. Sophie_M
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    187 posts
    19 October 2019 in reply to Chicken Little
    Hi Chicken Little,
    I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your daughter. I cannot imagine how hard it would be to lose a child like that at such an early age. 
    Please know our community is here to listen and talk through whatever comes to mind. Just letting you know that we have also sent you an email to offer additional support.
    Keep checking back in to let us know how you're going. You’re not alone in this.
  3. geoff
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    19 October 2019 in reply to Chicken Little

    Hello Chicken Little, you are so brave to post this comment because it must be so difficult for you to comprehend what has just happened and why, so can I please offer you my utmost and scenarist condolences, no one should have to ever go through such a tragedy.

    I simply can't imagine the pain you are struggling with but as a father myself, it would simply devastate me.

    Please know that you have people here who can listen to the tears you shed while you type for our support.

    My Very Best.

    Geoff.

  4. blondguy
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    19 October 2019 in reply to Chicken Little

    Hello Chicken Little

    I cant even begin to fathom your grief and have no words

    7 years old..

    Paul

  5. Philomena
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    30 October 2019 in reply to Chicken Little

    Hi chicken little

    I offer you my condolences on the death of your daughter. I understand what you feel as I too lost a son aged seven by accident.

    The pain of losing your daughter can never be taken away no matter what anyone says you need to feel and express the pain in order to start processing the loss.

    After all these years of a struggle I know what it feels so I did my course in bereavement support in order to help others who may be experiencing the same to cope with the loss. grief is a normal reaction and everyone grieves differently.

    There are many emotional and physical reactions to grief the emotional side you feel fear loneliness numb denial confusion panic attacks and physically you may get head aches stomach pain weight gain or loss sweating shaking palpitation and also you may feel a sense of withdrawal not wanting to participate in activities as before.

    The main thing is to accept the reality of the grief by having a memorial service in honour of your daughter where family and friends gather and work through the grief by accepting these feelings knowing they are a normal reaction to grief also try to adjust to a new environment in which your daughter is not present by having her in your heart and mind tell stories and memories of your time spent together and develop an enduring connection with her try to develop new skills new friends.

    you may also join a support group where you will meet others who grieve so you will know you are not alone and they may have activities you can join in.

    In case you still can’t cope may be wise to talk to a bereavement counsellor you can check online to get details.

    stay strong you will be fine

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  6. Mistic
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    3 November 2019 in reply to Chicken Little
    I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I don't think I could even imagine what it would be like to lose a child especially under circumstances that could have been avoided. I'm sure life would look pretty hopeless at the moment. I hope you get some sort of justice for her and it also must be so hard facing people that could have helped avoid the death of your baby. Stay strong and please keep talking and seeking help.Time will help you move on but you will never forget her. Thoughts are with you and you are not alone.

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