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Topic: Mothers Day 2020

8 posts, 0 answered
  1. Guest_8790
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    130 posts
    10 May 2020
    Firstly I hope everyone who still have their mum really appreciated them not just for today but every day.
    Sadly I lost mine on 31st July 2015. I have good memories and a visit to the cemetery gave me some sense of peace. I had the opportunity to be with her when she left. Sadly during this pandemic not all people got that opportunity. For
    Those people I feel so sad for you and hope you can think of them in better days. To all mums please have a safe and healthy day. A friend of mine said to me that every day is mothers day as they never take a day off. My mum said make
    Every day count as no use feeling regret once they have gone. This I managed to do before she left so this makes my
    loss a lot easier. Isolation may be hard but a loss is harder. Appreciate what you have now for this period will not last
    Forever.

    Rusty








  2. blondguy
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    11 May 2020 in reply to Guest_8790

    Hi Rusty

    I feel your pain Rusty....my friend's mum passed away last year and its the first mothers day she has had without her mum who passed away in her early '70's last year

    my condolences for the loss of your mum Rusty on July 31 2015 x

    Paul

  3. Guest_8790
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    130 posts
    24 July 2020
    Another year

    31st July will mark five years since mum left. Its hard enough but now my only friend had her mum pass away 7 days ago so now we share july as memory day for our mums. I am supporting her as best i can but never want to intrude so early. Luckily i had bought card and small gift and was going to leave it at her front door but she saw me and welcomed me and spent two hours. She has been good to me in my dark days so now am glad to be helpful to her. Today i was not in a good head space but now i can help her. I met her mum so was sad. Thank god for one good friend. Even she passed the same way as my mum in having a stroke so that was hard to hear.

    Now I need to keep mentally healthy for not only her but me which is hard to do.

    To all who still have their mums, please stay close especially in these awful times.

    Guest
  4. Croix
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    26 July 2020 in reply to Guest_8790

    Dear Guest~

    It may be only a crumb of comfort but I'm sure your help for your friend will be that much more comforting following your own sad experience. So many have no idea, at least your friend knows you understand, even without words.

    I've found it has been hard to jump one way or the other on anniversaries. I started out the first few years planning a day of distraction, of later years came to think more in terms of a day with activity, but memories too.

    Do you and your friend have anything planned?

    Croix

  5. Happy Cat
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    27 July 2020 in reply to Guest_8790

    Hi Rusty,

    sorry to hear of your loss.

    Even though some time has passed it is still a significant event in your life.

    It is something you will never forget. We only get one Mum.

    Your post is a testament that you loved her very much. You shared a great love. She looked after you and gave you love. You gave it back in return. That is the best.

    A loss of an estranged family member is worse.

    Lots of love to you and your family,

    regards,

    Happy Cat

  6. Guest_8790
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    130 posts
    28 July 2020 in reply to Croix
    Hello croix

    Thank you for reply. My friend and I caughtbup a week after her mother passed and went to a movie and as it was on my birthday she gave me some beautiful flowers. Such generous nature thinking of me at such sad times but she had been preparing for many months as her mum had alzheimers. I was always there for her as she was when my mum passed on 31st july 2015. Another visit this friday. She was glad to have an outlet to talk to. We used to work at grow and became good friends. Now we go out each month for a catch up which is good for both our mental health. I am so glad to have one good friend than a few. Her mums funeral is on this wednesday so my thoughts will be with her on the day and will contact her after a few days.

    Guest
  7. Guest_8790
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    29 July 2020 in reply to Happy Cat
    Hello Happy cat thank you foyour lovely words.Yes I loved her so much but at least I was with her when she left. She told ne she was ready to go and after I told her she was free to go she gave a big sigh and was gone

    I Have good memories and that will never fade. I am estranged from.my only brother so have adjusted to that so am on my own.

    Kind regards
    Rusty
  8. Croix
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    2 August 2020 in reply to Guest_8790

    Dear Rusty~

    Having a mutual friendship and understanding is one of the very best thngs. It sounds like your friend's mum has started to lose her faculties. This is so hard to bear. The parent one had known , respected and loved has gradually dissipated until it is only possible to go though the motions.

    Something that causes great grief.

    I hope in time your brother comes closer, sometimes being family overrides the past.

    Croix

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