I don’t know how to help or how to grieve. The father of my children passed away late last year we had been separated 10years but for the majority of our separated time we co-parented quiet well with 50/50 care arrangements & 98% of decisions made for the children we made together
5 months later my own Dad passed away he had lived with my children and I for 11 years. Dad and I were close I supported him when we lost mum 12 years ago and done everything in my power to make his last years here as easy and as comfortable as I possibly could. My children aren’t coping with their grief one can’t find a job the other struggles to attend school each day, home just feels like a shattered mess where we just tolerate each other. My ex’s girlfriend is trying to obtain his super, and has all of his belongings. They lived together only 10months and she believes she’s has more right to these things then his actual children. (My kids were extremely super close to their dad). They are shattered hurt angry sad and missing their dad beyond belief. I don’t know how else to help them to get through these times. We all had our first Father’s Day without our dad’s this year and I made sure I was with them to get through the day but my own feelings of grief made it hard to be the supportive mum I needed to be.
For me I’ve lost my hero the man that loved me unconditionally & supported me with all of my choices my dad but I also lost the man I went too for any decision regarding the children & for every milestone moment of their lives their dad