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  1. mmMekitty
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    Hello Hanna, Grandy & all fur babies everywhere.

    I was attempting a post earlier, but my internet browser suddenly closed

    Grandy, you,& everyone is most welcome to drop in anytime. ๐Ÿ˜ป I'll be around for Xmas & New Year, & the days either side & in between.

    I go for the Pre-Op Clinic Tuesday 21, & then January 4 I have to go for the Sentinel Node Localisation Scans & I was called last week & told I would have my surgery January 4, but havenโ€™t yet received a letter to confirm this.

    Iโ€™ve left Xmas/NewYear plans loose, not knowing what was going to happen. I still have some of my infrequently purchased foods to have, music, tele, & I bought some new clothes recently. Big dressing gown, expensive shirts & trousers - those can be my Xmas prezzies for me this year. But I still want to buy the new Australian birdsong album.

    & I want to find the ABC's community choir song for this year, written by Katie Noonan. What I saw the other morning, it's bound to put a lump in my throat & bring happy tears to my eyes. So, be warned if you go looking for it.

    Although my voice is not nearly as good as once was, I still enjoy singing, & would have liked to go somewhere & sing Xmas songs with a crowd. I find that activity brings the individual audience members together like nothing else does. Seems to do that for footy crowds too.

    Iโ€™m still figuring out what Iโ€™ll take with me to hospital, how to pack it, & not be frantic in the couple days prior to January 4.

    My neighbour & I have so little actually in common. He genuinely hasn't recognised me from when we worked for the same organisation. I don't want to remind him, not because of anything he did, but because of the way I was treated by someone else, & the people I ought to be able to turn to didn't understand & help when I needed it. Finally, I simply had to leave. This neighbour used to drive their truck, drinking while at work too.

    Following from there, he had a bad car accident. Now he's forgotten so much, it seems he recalls nothing beyond a few people he mentions from time to time. He said he was diagnosed with alcoholic psychosis. & he has diabetes. No close family, either. He recieved a pay out, & blew it all away.

    So, I do think he's lonely, but can't motivate himself to get out & meet people. I have tried to help, but, no.

    Gabble on, like talking over the back fence. I like it๐Ÿ˜ธ& you, too, take care โค๏ธGrandy, โค๏ธHanna, โค๏ธDoolhof, โค๏ธMum Chris, โค๏ธCroix, โค๏ธEVERYONE!โค๏ธ

    mmMekitty

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    19 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Dear Kitty,

    I think itโ€™s a good idea to have your hospital bag packed before you need to go in....

    You made me smile when you said you bought yourself some new clothes for Christmas...I love hearing when people are giving themselves some self care and presents...I buy each Christmas a bottle of Tia Maria, itโ€™s the only alcohol drink I like...and look forward to buying it each year....

    Kitty...maybe just a few personal items, you like...a scented candle is nice to take....even though you canโ€™t light it...a few sniffs will bring you the gentle smells...A phone with your favourite songs downloaded, audio books and donโ€™t forget your ear/head phones....and charger....Little things that we like can make a lot of different in helping soothe our anxiety...Oh and of course your clothes, light blouses with buttons on them...A lady in town wore only those summer brunch coats after her surgery....until she healed....She said it was comfortable and looked like a summer dress...so if anyone came to visit her, she felt she was respectful to accept them....

    I am sorry that happened to you at work...You would think that people of working age knows better then they do....Itโ€™s just so sad that people can do so much damage to another personโ€™s soul and not care....warm hugs, sweet lady,,,๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—..

    My anxiety and fear of people keep me away from the carols by candlelight..I do watch them each year when I can on tv and sing along with the songs I know...Then my fur girls run away and hide under my bed ๐Ÿ˜‚..my singing sounds like a frightened angry animals trying to escape...

    I am not really familiar to singers etc, I will listen to Katie Noonan if I can find her...I do try to listen to artists that are mentioned by people here....I will have my box of tissues ready...thank you for the warning...

    Hope your day today is going good for you...

    Talking over the back fence...I like it, and used to do that as a child with my next door friend....although more like talking between fence posts back then....๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚.

    Thank you for your welcome to drop by anytime...means a lot..

    Hugs everyone...๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

    Grandy..

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    19 December 2021 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy,

    Try searching for:

    Classic Choir sings All is Love by Katie Noonan - YouTube

    *sigh* I'm not making a link..so at least, you ought to be able to find it on ABC Classic or by searching the somg name & by Katie Noonan look to the YouTube results. check when posted, because there previews & promotional items when I searched.

    Good luck with this. She does have a unique sound.

    I am definitely taking my phone, & the earphones & charger. The tele without many things with audio description is difficult when I can be seated near it, but the way they have them, I won't be able to get much out of them at all.

    Have a few books on my phone, & some music, & I could use the ABC Listen app I have one it. I' not quite how well I will get onto BB & post while I'm there, & could only use my phone, dictating something, but then I'd want a quiet place, away from others to do that...so I don't know.

    I'm only supposed to be there 2-3 days, my surgeon said, which is shorter than I had imagined.

    So, today I did some washing, so things I will take are clean. I will gather everything on my sofa, & see how big the bundle is & hopefully, the bag I'm thinking of using is big enough. I'll put my meds in a container, too. & another for personal care items.

    I'm keeping the paperwork in my shoulder bag, so I don't lose it.

    So, as worried as I may get, I'm sure I will have things ready to go on the morning..

    I know I'm getting ahead of myself, even to thinking this Tuesday is the surgery day, really, believing that. It' is something my mind does from time to time. I know for a moment there, that's exactly what I thought. Lucky it's just a moment! I have had a little wordd with myself, & we're using the same calender again.๐Ÿ˜ผ

    WE could make a different sort of choir - with Smallwolf, & the full moon for our excuse, we can 'serenade' our way through Xmas!๐Ÿ˜บSay, we could bring the band up from Croix's Iceberg!

    Hi Smallwolf,๐Ÿ˜บ if you are reading, there's a doggy door somewhere around here. I had it installed just for you.

    mmMekitty

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    19 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty~

    That was a lovely reply and painted a great picture of your life. My apologies , I can't reply in kind tonight as my mind will not concentrate, so I wrote a Happy Memory aimed at the ancient instead.

    The only thing I will refer to is walking, like you I'm not that happy walking by myself, apart from the enjoyment of talk and company, I'm always conscious I might need rescuing due to physical hassles so Mrs C accompanies me.

    Croix

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    20 December 2021 in reply to Croix

    Take Care, Croix, you & Mrs C.

    & don't fret if you don't manage a coherent reply....happens to the best of us.

    Since my browser collapsed, again, I went & had another long snooze. For a moment I thought I had awakened & lay on my back, with my eyes closed. It seemed to be light outside, & my ceiling light seemed to be on. Behind my eyes all seemed a warm orange-brown, like dark honey, with a brighter area at the top of my visual field. That's why I thought my light was on. I began to think, as if I had slept all night, what I was going to do today,Monday., but then Iopened my eyes & saw a completely different view. The room was dim, no light was turned on, the colour was also dim & dull. I realised then that this was still Sunday, & it was probably 6:30pm, but I still didn't feel awake enough to not go back to sleep.

    That was a dream, wasn't it?

    Following on, I did have another dream illustrating more anxiety than I have been aware of, about the forthcoming procedures.

    I was small, having to climb up to sit on a chair or bed, & not wanting to expose my body. I had on a large, heavy canvas kimino style coat, A. man with a gentle voice asked me if I wouldn't mind opening my 'ramikin' - something like that, & I know he was referring to my coat, which I wanted to wrap myself tightly into, & hide. He was reaching towards me when I woke again, & thought, I'm not going tback to sleep anymore, now.

    Conservatively, 3.5 hours.

    I'll go read your happy memory. Thanks Croix. ๐Ÿ˜ธ

    mmMekitty

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    20 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    * Potential Trigger in this post.

    ***

    Last Night, for a moment, I had an awful thought. Now I've had it, & cried, & don't feel it is going to be a major issue, but it is there, in the back of my head, like a hot, glowing red hot new brick in my head. It's toying with my uneasiness, my fear, my certainty about my decision.

    My brain suddenly yelled at me, "it's an amputation. That's what it is, an amputation". But it's not , I want to argue, not like if I had to lose a limb. It's also not like having an eye & an ear that no longer function as the organs they are, either. Having a double mastectomy seems somewhere in between.

    How much are these things part of who I am as a person?

    It's like the way people seem to identify themselves by what they do to bring in an income. My work would not be who I am either. I'm still a person without ever having a full-time, fully paid work, job or career.

    So not having a couple body parts will not diminish me as a person.

    So why this thought last night? Effed if I know.

    mmMekitty

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    & I thought, for a bit, that if the way I was feeling persisted, I would email my PDr., it was so intense. But, it didn't persist, & I am okay.

    It's just there, now, so I write, & it feels good to write, the words containing the thought & feelings.

    I don't think having these fleeting thoughts is abnormal, maybe even more common than I suspect. That's why I wanted to post about it. Being open here, I hope does help someone else.

    mmMekitty

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    20 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMeKitty,

    I'm wondering if there are any specific support people you can phone. I was recently told of organisations that can help me with a particular issue. There may well be a support group who can help you navigate, understand, comprehend and support you through this.

    Writing down how we are feeling and what we are thinking can help immensely.

    It sounds like you have lots of things planned for hospital. Are there some things you could put in place for when you get home again? Special meals in the freezer perhaps. If you can afford it, have some flowers delivered to yourself. Some kind of little indulgences that are affordable and will help to brighten your return home again.

    Just a few random thoughts. Cheers from Dools

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    20 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty~

    First off, my regrets about those mixed feelings, a pity, I hope they disappear, overwritten by current events.

    I've found that as some of the things that happen in my life, or are about to happen, then my stress level goes up (um, that's a surprise) and with it both psychosomatic problems and dreams or nightmares. sometimes they are loosely connected wiht the event in question, sometimes wiht things from my past, jumbled up.

    I think Mrs Dools suggestion of treats to look forward to on your return is an excellent idea, can one take it a little further and have a treat waiting to help you wake up and gain perspective after a horrible dream? I'm a bit humdrum and get up to have hot cocoa and a biscuit (we walruses certainly know how to live the high life)

    Yes your posts, both here and elsewhere are valued, and not only by those that post themselves but the vast majority, those that never post put do read. It's part of you identity to communicate and help.

    I can't see you changing after some surgery, you will remain exactly you, maybe a little richer in experience, but no change.

    Identification is a funny thing, and I'd expect there are things you regard as integral to yourself, however I'm sure they will not be related to your operation. Unlike you I did identify - with my job. And when invalided out and no longer a policeman I was nobody at all for a while. Eventually I recovered and my old pre-police character has resurfaced.

    Now to answer the most important question you raised:

    "How do you keep from dwelling on the fact that your polar regions are melting?

    I'm not in the slightest worried, having bound together as floats all the empty beer cans and bottles left behind by DB and Grandy my iceberg will never sink, and if I want cold I'll simply leave my fridge door open.

    Croix

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    20 December 2021 in reply to Croix

    Hello Mr Croix and mmMekitty and everyone

    Mr Croix I think you are being mischievous! I hope Grandy and Deebi come by! You did give me a good chuckle!

    MmMekitty waiting to have surgery is so anxiety provoking. Any changes to our self image and self perception are difficult and your surgery is hard for a woman.

    My friends who have had it were incredibly thankful they were well and able to live a long life, but I'm sure they went through the gamut of feelings and emotions that you are going through.

    When I had a hysterectomy it bothered me greatly but that feeling passed and I'm thankful I've been well ever since.

    Your feelings are very legitimate. I'm glad you are able to express them here. I think all of us here will be glad and relieved when you are through it and on your way to recovering and going back to your normal life.

    Is there some way or ways we can help or support you best? Please let us know.

    Big hug from me and a soft fluffy one from little Sam! ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ•๐Ÿพ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’

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    20 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Dear Kitty....Croix,Dools,Hanna and everyone...๐Ÿค—.

    I found the ABC choir by Katie Noonan, the words to the song were beautiful and listening deep and mindfully tissues were needed...I also listened to a couple more of her song...I like her voice and the songs she writes...

    Kitty, dear sweet lady....Iโ€™m sorry about your dreams and the thoughts that were in your mind yesterday....My heart goes out to you, with all that you have laying ahead of you...So many times I wish I could jump through the screen to be with people struggling with life events, just to sit next to them, hold their hand, with a listening ear, offer my shoulder to rest their head on if needed...You are one of those people Dear Kitty.....Itโ€™s so hard going through major things alone in r/l.....๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿค—...

    I agree with Croix....I canโ€™t see you changing after surgery...Your beautiful soul and lovely words of inspiration and support to others here will not change....you will still be you...

    Oh our dear wise walrus...how lucky he is that we thought about drinking all those cans so we could keep his iceberg afloat....we only drank them for his iceberg, without it, Deebi and I wouldnโ€™t have a place to practice our band music..๐Ÿฅ๐ŸŽธ๐ŸŽป๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽบ๐ŸŽท๐ŸŽค...We do really need a singer, if your interested in the position...payment is in the form of fun, happiness and joy....and watching our wise walrus dance the Jitterbug...

    Kindness, care and hugs precious Kitty...๐Ÿงธ๐Ÿ•Š๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’œ..

    Grandy..

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    20 December 2021 in reply to Hanna3

    Hello Hanna, Doolhof, Croix & Grandy, with a wave to the watchers.

    Your presence is incredibly valuable to me. Every post, all your support , caring words, cheeky words, & every word in between.

    I'll have to find out more about post-op after tomorrow. I realise I still don't know enough about how well I might expect to do ordinary things for myself or if I will need more help around my flat & me. It's a difficult time of year to be seeking more help. People want to have breaks at this time of year.

    I know I can call the Breast Care Nurse (BCN) for more information & support. I'm not quickly comfortable speaking to most people. I can speak to my PDr, who has said I could send a message or email & he would arrange a time to talk if I need before he returns from his break. That's so very reassuring, I actually feel less in need of talking to him, because he doesn't feel so far away. That's a little game my mind plays, I guess.

    Sometimes I feel I need him more than is strictly necessary, & like a little kid reluctant to grow up, I tend to get sulky & clingy, & am inclined to beg him not to go on his breaks through the year, especially these long breaks at the end/beginning of each year.

    *

    today, I think: my body parts do not define me. I have never felt particularly 'womanly' & really didn't get a chance to imagine being a woman might be a good thing; denied & stolen from me. I haven't always treated my body well, haven't liked it. It's been a convenience, to people I've been with. Even so, now I'm trying to treat it better, do nice, healthy things for it, I feel it has disappointed & I was going to say 'betrayed', but that's not it. I feel my body is getting back at me for my earlier misuse & neglect, more like, it is punishing me.

    I don't think I was all that bad to deserve this, though - 'But it could be worse', my brain speaks up, & true enough. My body could be failing in so many more ways than it has.

    No, not a good way to look at it. Thinking 'it could be worse' does in no way mitigate the seriousness of what is actually real.

    *

    I'm too tired for seriousness.

    When Croix's iceberg melts, I can only imagine the beer cans will be tied directly to Croix, to keep him afloat. ๐Ÿ˜ธ

    Let me imagine the Walrus Jitterbug! ๐Ÿ˜น

    I've drafted several singers. Until that certain movie, I hadn't known there were so many!

    What instrument for you, Hanna? I forget. Maybe the Triple Picklelow? That'll get Sam dancing. He can leave paw prints anywhere he like!๐Ÿ˜บ

    mmMekitty

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    21 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty~

    A couple of more serious things to get out the way:

    I'd expect you are going to surprised how much energy having the operation will take out of you, and if I could suggest it please do make arrangement for more practical household/personal help than you think you might need. This is what both I and Mrs C have found over the years.

    Second, there is no way you deserve punishing, and no, your body is not an instrument for that. It's true that we may not always look after our physical condition as well as we might, through circumstance, thinking badly of ourselves, lack of motivation, or lack of hope. These conditions however have dictated what you have been able to do.

    At one stage I saw no point in eating, and smoking was a willing trade off between coping now, and some possible ill in the seemingly remote future (that one came back to bite me)

    You have survived and show courage and stoicism - an example.

    Incidentally I saw the post you wrote Phoenix6 yesterday, I thought it spot on and far better than my stumbling effort. You have a talent for helping.

    Now for the important section:

    I'd have to say you are not that familiar with walrus capabilities, we can swim and stay afloat without assistance -from beer cans or otherwise. It is simply weaving all those containers together will give me a nice ledge for a snooze (and somewhere to put my refrigerator)

    Also walruses are far to dignified to jitterbug, in that we are like Sumo Cat. Perhaps one might essay a waltz - with suitable music of course. I'm not sure the WUSWOP would be capable!

    Mind you I do appreciate the generous efforts Grandy and DB went though to drink all that alcohol for no other reason than to keep me afloat. Was that the inebriated kiwis intention too or were they just opportunists?

    Talking of kiwis, when I was on the South Island I started up the west coast and saw a hugely long beach, and all along was a solid pile of driftwood. Went for miles, higher than a semi-trailer. All dry and tangled. Large trees and small.

    Funny, seals snoozing beside the road on the East side, driftwood on the West.

    Croix

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    21 December 2021 in reply to Croix

    Hi, everyone,

    Long day, early humid & very warmth, then into cool dry air-conditioning. There were no other patients waiting when we arrived. & even as I went back & forth from seeing one person to another, it seems very few patients were being seen that day.

    I think I saw saw six different people, apart from the people behind the counter. We filled in duplicate forms to the forms we had already filled in. This time, I thought to add my PDr as a contact person. If anything untoward happen, I would like him to be informed.

    everyone I saw asked my anme & birthdate.

    I spoke to a junior doctor, had my weight & height measured, an anaesthetist who & talked about fasting prior to surgery & my usual meds, then had an ECG, saw a physiotherapist, wo spoke of post-surgery exercises & he spoke about how much my movement may be limited, & someone measured my arms up so they could watch for lymphoedema after lymph nodes are removed, (Low risk, having just a few taken) , & saw the BCN again, & she answered a couple questions about after care, &, yes, asking about getting more support at home afterwards. & I was given the rundown of risks, & signed the consent form.

    I think I have forgotten some things. Too tired now to finish.

    My helper & I did a little shopping, had lunch & came back.

    It was a long day. I tried to have a snooze, but was feeling uncomfortably warm

    will be seeing my other helper tomorrow morning, the GP after, when this main helper will come & take me to the GP's. It seems I am going to get my COVID-19 booster tomorrow. Yippee!๐Ÿ˜บ

    โ˜ฎ๏ธto you all, &โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธas well,

    mmMekitty

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    22 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    You had a busy and what must have been a stressful and tiring day.

    I don't know if someone has mentioned this but it's a good idea to have some easy meals ready in the fridge or freezer for when you get home after the op.

    A couple of frozen meals and long life milk, orange juice and snacks etc.. Also maybe panadols for some pain relief, whatever you can think of that might make it easier for you afterwards.

    I've found this helpful after I've had surgery and living alone.

    I hope you have a rest after such a long day!

    ๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ‘

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    22 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Dear Kitty,

    Your day Yesterday sounds so busy and stressful, I hope so much youโ€™re managing okay and are okay...

    Im wondering if your local hospital will arrange a care nurse to call in to see you each day after your back home...Have your professionals spoken to you about that, if not would you consider asking them....please,

    A little distraction for your tired mind and body today...if you feel to read the following...

    I am a tree hugger and watcher, a bird watcher, if Iโ€™m lucky a kangaroo watcher...well I suppose I would say a nature watcher....any how...this morning I was lucky to see a large kangaroo and 2 smaller ones, grazing amongst the cows...no judgement on either species...just all enjoying the fresh green grass, the breaking of a new day...all together,

    Then the birds up early took use of my bird bath and a few were flapping their wings in enjoyment of an early morning bath...a couple of others decided to have a dirt bath, they look so cute on their tiny bellies flapping the dirt around all over them with their wings....imagine us doing that๐Ÿ˜‚...

    The huge gum tree across from me, is my hugging tree, and the cows umbrella from the sun...Their was this one cow I noticed was swaying slightly from side to side, on a closer look I seen he was scratching her back in a fallen branch....I had seen this before...Animals always seem to me to be content, enjoy each moment that they are alive and not have a care in the world....I wish we had similar minds....

    The beautiful people here have gotten to know, love and care for you...are holding your hand precious lady and are all doing so with our care....

    If you need to talk, cry, vent we are here for you...you are going through an incredibly hard time right now...with so much grace and kindness to others here...Please donโ€™t forget to give yourself plenty of self care and look after yourself best the can...

    sending you some love, care and lots of warm comforting hugs beautiful friend...and a beautiful ๐ŸŒน rose...because I just want to..

    Grandy...

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    Thank you, Hanna & Grandy. ๐Ÿ˜ป

    Indeed, Hanna, they will be arranging a Community Nurse to come to my place to change dressings, & deal with the drainage tubes, keeping an eye on how much fluid drains, at when it it a small enough amount the drainage tubes come out.

    My freezer is already full up with frozen vegise, a little fruit, some bread, ice, milk & easily prepared meat. If someone could drop off fresh salad stuff already chopped up to bite size, every couple days, that'd be great.

    I have noticed, the more tired I am, the more typos I missed correcting. ๐Ÿ˜ผ

    IGrandy, I love your descriptin of the world around you. It sounds so wonderful, I would love to pitch a tent out there, & come to stay. It wouldn't be a big ๐ŸŽช, just a littleโ›บ, really....& I won't even chase after the ๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿฆš๐Ÿฆข๐Ÿฆœ๐Ÿค, or ride on the ๐Ÿ„๐Ÿฆ˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿฆ˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿฆ˜๐Ÿ‚!๐Ÿ˜ธ

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    Now I get a call to tell me I need to get a COVID-19 test 72 hours prior to my surgery.

    The Nurse Administrator said I'd need to get it Jan 1st. Really? So she said Friday 31st would be okay. But why anyway? Since she also said it really doesn't matter what the result is for me, only so the anaesthetist may adjust how they will treat me & my respiratory system. Something like that. &, stay home after. But I'm staying home anyway.

    My helper is moving house next week so she won't be available to help me. So, I'll have to go alone, & deal with that, not wearing a mask, being in a location where I may well be at risk, because people there are more likely to be there because they may have good reason to suspect they have been infected, right?

    Does this make sense to you?

    I'll go in there, sure to test negative, & end up possibly becoming infected while I am there, whereas if I simply continue to stay home until I go into the hospital I'll be fine - guaranteed to be uninfected.

    Now I'll have to get a taxi, there & back, also, not sure about the status of the drivers, am I?

    I dread how many people will be there on the 31st, while cases continue to rise, & more people will be wanting to be tested.

    You know that Munch picture, oh, I wish I could.

    mmMekitty

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    23 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty~

    Yes it is a worry, and a great pity your helper is not available. While I'd not expect the testing station or the cab to be particularly dangerous may I offer some thoughts? I expect you have considered them already, but you never know.

    First throw the whole thing back on your Nurse Administrator, anesthetist and surgeon, each in turn. Explain the dangers and difficulties, see if they will budge on requirements or offer alternatives. At worst they may provide taxi vouchers. There is also hte possibility of patient transport.

    Second if this does not work a small aerosol of disinfectant plus hand-wash if your respiratory system will put up with them for short periods. Spray cab plus anything else you think appropriate (probably not a good idea to spray the driver)

    At least in my area you can order a maxi or ability taxi which is generally more suitable (and cleaner) as it is designed for transport of people with physical difficulties. It costs no more.

    On arriving at the station do as I do and ignore any queue, buttonhole any staff member (the cabbie will often assist wiht this, particularly if forewarned when you ring up) and explain your conditions (the white cane will be a help to catch an eye). As you are unable to navigate or stand for any protracted period I've found this has got me though the process at top speed, even with someone to help fill in any writing.

    With The Scream, I tend to collect art spoofs and have a lovely one, showing a VW beetle in the foreground on the pier with a parking ticket under the windscreen, plus the obligatory reaction, which now seems to have an excellent cause as the figure has just seen the ticket. The brushwork on the car is identical to the original.

    And yes, it does make sense.

    Croix

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    23 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    I can relate to constantly changing information from medical staff. I was reassuringly assigned two specialist nurses and not only did they tell me different information and then say I was mistaken. They even contradicted themselves, I took a third party to take notes and that stopped the expleted deleted show.
    Thereโ€™s no avoiding the tests itโ€™s a given and moving all the time. Also up to interpretation and then thereโ€™s the delays on results. I do agree you go to front of line and ask for a quick test due to your need to get the hell out of there.
    Itโ€™s all terrible and time consuming and I found complaining constantly helped. Thereโ€™s no heroes and the nurses are cheerful enough. Music and earphones if you can handle it or audiobooks. Whatever helps you pass the time.
    im getting booster shot in the morning I get pneumonia from a cold and Iโ€™m also concerned about what they are now calling soon to be endemic.

    ๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„๐Ÿฆ„ unicorn shield of protection for you and โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ to keep you feeling cared for.

    MC

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    23 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    What a nuisance for you as well as something else you now have to deal with!

    I agree with Mr Croix - if there is nobody who can go with you to have the Covid test, as you have sight issues I think you should either ring the nurse or ask for the social worker at the hospital you are going to and ask for assistance.

    Every hospital has a social work department. They are there to help you with all sorts of problems.

    I'm sure at the testing centre if you can go up to a staff member as soon as you arrive and explain your situation they will put you through as fast as possible. I would speak to the hospital and try to get help first though.

    You are having to deal with a lot of things as well as getting psychologically and emotionally prepared for your surgery. It's all extra stress for you!

    Is there nobody you know who could take you to the testing clinic?

    Maybe phone the hospital tomorrow and let us know how you get along? I'll come by tomorrow and check?

    Big hug!!! ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’ž

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    Thank you all, for your comments & suggestions.

    I think I'll call the Breast Care Nurse, & see if she can wield some clout.

    Love the ๐Ÿฆ„โ™ฅ &the (why is it) ๐Ÿค—'hugging face'? & especially the๐Ÿ’žall around

    & the spoofs of art - good fun! The Annals Of Improbable Research (AIR) used an image of The Thinker sitting on his 'throne'(๐Ÿšฝ). Some parts of that magazine were quite juvenile. ๐Ÿ˜นCatch me in the right mood for it, & look out!

    Thanks again. It really does me a lot of good to feel you are really out there, big as life & 100% as nice! ๐Ÿ˜ป

    mmMekitty

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    24 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Ringing the breasts care nurse is a good idea mmMekitty, let us know how you go.

    I'm not sure about that smiley either I think it is a tiny huggy smiley thing! Have another one!

    ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ•๐Ÿพ๐Ÿฅ

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    I had to leave a message for the BCN to call me back. Somehow, now it's after 4pm, I don't think she's going to do that. Xmas, Boxing Day, Official Public Holidays, maybe I won't hear from her until Dec 28 - which would leave very little time to arrange anything else anyway.

    I tried phoning the GP office,& they're not available either.

    ๐Ÿ˜พ

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    24 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMeKitty~

    Thank you for drawing my attention to"The Annals Of Improbable Research", it was not something I had heard of. In return I hope you are able to use:

    https://www.designcrowd.com/community/

    as this specializes in letting skillful members of the public use Photoshop in competitions on a vast variety of different amusing categories. Renaissance Art and Honest Adverts are two that are very good. You can see all entries, not just the winning ones. The competitions are repeated with fresh entries umpteen times. I hope they enlarge enough for you to appreciate them.

    Also if you can find it Miss Piggy's Treasury of Art Masterpieces from the Kermitage Collection. (Your library may have it as a download).

    I believe this contains an alternative 'The Thinker', it certainly has an alternative to the Mona Lisa, entitled Mona Moi and features Miss Piggy. Some content is reproduced with permission in the Muppet Wiki:

    https://muppet.fandom.com/wiki/Leonardo_da_Vinci?file=Monamoi.jpg/

    Actually this particular collection was made before digital techniques were in use and all the reproduction backgrounds, costumes etc are actual sets. Amazing inventive attention to detail.

    Is that enough for now? Sing out if not.

    Croix

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    PS

    I nearly forgot to say, as I probably will not speak wiht you again this evening please let me wish you a peaceful, amusing and worry-free Christmas Day๐ŸŽ„ and a wonderful year ahead.

    -C

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    24 December 2021 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Dear Kitty,

    I am Just popping in to wish you a very Merry Christmas...and hope that tomorrow will be a peaceful day for you....and you manage to do something nice for yourself...

    I will call in tomorrow, if thatโ€™s okay with some Christmas Cake and a pot of tea and coffee....and we can listen to some Christmas music....

    look after yourself sweet Kitty.....

    Sending you a couple of Christmas hugs....๐ŸŽ„๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐ŸŽ„...

    Grandy..

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    Thanks Croix,

    โ„๐Ÿช๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿฅ•๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿ“ฆ๐Ÿ’๐ŸŽ๐Ÿฅ›๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿญ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽ…๐Ÿ””๐Ÿฌโ›„ โ˜ฎ๏ธ โค๏ธ๐Ÿ โ„๐Ÿช๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿฅ•๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿ“ฆ๐Ÿ’๐ŸŽ๐Ÿฅ›๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿญ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽ…๐Ÿ””๐Ÿฌโ›„ โ˜ฎ๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ โ„๐Ÿช๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿฅ•๐Ÿคถ๐Ÿ“ฆ๐Ÿ’๐ŸŽ๐Ÿฅ›๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŽ„๐ŸŒŸ๐Ÿญ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽ…๐Ÿ””๐Ÿฌโ›„ โ˜ฎ๏ธ โค๏ธ๐Ÿ

    Have some more ornament for your Iceberg. Lucky you, the milk will freeze & not spill all over you. Everything else I've strung up there will also freeze, except for the โค๏ธs (the ๐Ÿ’–x I've decided are stickers, so will freeze, & the Clauses will also freeze just fine, too. The stars will still shine, the bells ring, & the music will be heard all over the world - so you can sing as loud as you like!

    Have a happy Xmas!

    mmMekitty

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    & you, dear Grandy, I'll be glad to share Xmas with you! ๐Ÿ˜ป

    Do you have favourite Xmas songs? Or shall we sing whatever Croix is singing?

    Can't wait! ๐ŸŽถFa la, la la, lah, la la, la lah!

    mmMekitty

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    Oh, my lovely home helper, who emailed me & said she wanted to bring around an Xmas lunch to me, & had done that, & I told her about needing to get a COVID test within 3 days of going into hospital, wondering she'd heard of anything like this. She has offered to take me to get it on Friday 31 (which the person on the phone agreed would be okay), so that's good for me. I hope. By then, I wonder just how busy these places will be.

    ๐Ÿ˜ปWhat a gift!

    mmMekitty

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