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Topic: Introducing mmMekitty

  1. mmMekitty
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    1 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643

    Hello Sleepy & I wish you to have a Happy New Year.

    With nervous anticipation I am soon to go into hospital for some rather serious surgery. I have decided to have a double mastectomy to get rid of the breast cancer in both of them. For me, it's the simplest, most efficient treatment offered. A few lymph nodes are going, too. So afterwards, I will be sore, with limited mobility of my shoulders for a wile & I will be weeks/months recovering.

    & then I have to take some hormone treatment for the next 5 years, but I am assured that given my history, any side-effects ought to be minimal.

    So, that's it in a nutshell. I'll be glad to get the surgery, but it does make me nervous all the same. I'm not looking forward to how much pain I'll have at the start of my recovery. They have said I'll get some pain killers stronger than what I usually have for my osteoarthritis. I don't them to be 'too' nice. I've had various painful conditions for many years, & the idea of getting a pain killer that would maybe make these things be not painful is a 'challenge', let's say.

    As I said, I'd snoozed in the evening, two & a half hours, I guess, then woke 2 minutes shy of midnight - that's the post above. afterwards, I posted a little more before going back to bed & sleeping until nearly dawn, but didn't rouse myself enough to go look out the window to see the sunrise over the neighbouring block of units. I went back to sleep for another 3 hours. That's becoming a good night for me.

    & you?

    mmMekitty

  2. Mum Chris
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    2 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    The surgery has come around quickly and I wouldn’t worry about the pain meds it’s been my experience when you need them it’s all good and to just come off them as soon as you are able. I didn’t know you have osteoarthritis I have that too and I have not been able to find relief from painkillers. I find voltarin gell and heat packs work better. Anything with codeine destroys my stomach and causes more pain. I’m just coming off them now and I can’t be bothered taking a Panadol. I mean why bother 😂

    My friends think I’m hard core but truth is haven’t found relief except heat rest and movement depending on how bad it is.

    I’m glad the breast care nurses are being reassuring about painkillers and that they will make sure your ok. I’m glad you don’t have chemo

    Are you getting cabin fever or are you settled at home. We have a bit of cabin fever and I was planning to go to 1 shop for a special thing but realised it will be packed public holiday new year etc. What was I thinking 😂

    Glad you are getting sleep even if it is broken sleep as long as you keep getting back to sleep and keep trying to get a good amount. You need your strength and ask the dr if you can have help to sleep in hospital. Sleep is good.

    MC

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    2 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi 🐱Kitty,

    I am relieved in a way that you have decided on having a double mastectomy...

    Just wanted to call in and let you know that having big butterflies and bees buzzing around in your stomach would be so normal at a time like this...I am really so very sorry that you’re going through all this and am praying that that you will make a full recovery...

    Talk out your thoughts and feeling here when and if you need to...you have many friends here that care so much about you..including myself...

    Today if it’s okay, I’ll just sit quietly next to you and hold your hand...I’ll bring my furs with me, they have such beautiful personalities and would make you laugh with their funny little antics...

    They love pats and return them by wiggling their tails and giving lots of kisses back..lOne of my fur babies has the most beautiful tail..it’s long with a little twist and very furry, reminds me of a foxes tail in a way, she is white with some light brown marking on her and her fur is long, nearly touching the ground..she is small and petite....her daughter is also small and petite with long black n brown fur...but hasn’t got the beautiful long fur on her tail like her mum has...

    We are all here for you, beautiful 🐱 Kitty..

    My kindest thoughts, with love and some peaceful hugs..☁️💜🕊🌹☁️..

    Grandy,,,

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  4. mmMekitty
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    2 January 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Thank you, Grandy & MC & everyone, including the

    Walrus, whenever he wanders bym

    You have all been so great, I can't tell you how much I have appreciated your words of wisdom, comfort & support. I didn't imagine this when I first joined.😻

    Lovely fur babies 😻 I wish I could take them with me. I bet everyone would love them! Do they like to be groomed?

    & you, MC, are you out enjoying the sights & sounds of nature? I've had a couple brief showers today, but the weather is rather good, actually. I've opened up my back door, & my windows, hopeing for some breeze to air the place a little. Of-course I hear the aeroplanes,& the occasional helicopter overhead, & risk hearing neighbours, more, but that's the trade-off.

    I had another book from Vision Australia, which I thought was a human voice but was actually a synthetic voice. Not so good for pleasurable listening, but at least it does not whisper or shout during the reading. So I slept through most of that. 😸

    mmMekitty

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    2 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmmekitty

    How are u feeling?

    I, glad u got some sleep

    I had a quiet night on new years and the weather was a bit much for me. I haven't left the house too much. Good luck and hope Ur doing okay

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  6. mmMekitty
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    Hi Sleepy,

    Just now I feel I didn't get any for the last two days...although I know I have. But I think I'm okay, I'm able to let my tiredness be what it is without complaining & getting really grumpy about it. I did snooze a little earlier, but I don't feel any better for it. Like it's been two day or something, when it has not. I got hungry so I had to get up & fix a meal. Now I just want to sign off & snooze again. But I have meds yet to take, little personal care things to do, I tried to do a little more research but just can't manage that now.

    I am realy hoping this will get better once I have been to hospital & begin to heal & recuperate. I'm not sure how long to be patient! hahaha

    Thanks for asking.

    I am aware of your struggles, I often think how good it would be to simply sit with each other, as if in the same place, like a garden, or on Grandy's veranda, for example, with all the wildlife around. OIt always brings me a sence of peace & warmth when I try doing this.

    mmMekitty

  7. Mum Chris
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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    nope not out enjoying nature it’s rubbish weather. Seems apt can’t swim and be out enjoying the great outdoors. Lol. I need to preplan a trip to the loo.

    I find your strength and compassion inspiring. Never forget it’s a struggle worth fighting.

    May you be lifted up by warm winds and find prosperity and peace.

    ❤️❤️❤️

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  8. mmMekitty
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    3 January 2022 in reply to Mum Chris

    Hi MC & everyone

    Arf that rubbish weather. I hope it improves soon. I didn't see any news but for a little while making dinner. I hadn't realised there had even been a cyclone form off the coast. & I haven't had a lot of rain here to be of any concern over. Mostly I am happy we are not having extreme heat.

    I think my mental image of my being in a river or lake, with the water up somewhere around my neck to over my head, depending on where my mood is, has popped up again. & I seem to be treading water. Never a good swimmer. I have really once nearly drowned. & that feeds into this imagery. Happily, I'm not going under the surface, can still see the river bank with it's overgrown (I don't knw) green plants, some might be willows, others are like mangroves. If I ever got over there I'm not sure how I'd climb out onto land. & there are no signs of the little beasts that were (in a dream( swimming, snapping & clawing at my feet. Cute but v.dangerous.

    My tiredness feels like I can't keep treading water, because I have been drained of energy, & can't concentrate on keeping my legs moving. So, when I am feeling this extreme tiredness, I feel I could easily sink into the water & not come up again. But with some sleep, I do bob up again, for some hours, 4-5 to as many as 7-8 at a stretch.

    *

    I came here meaning to tell yu al, I got my PCR teat results back at nearly 11am this morning. It's Negative, as I expected. That's alright I guess, because the Txt didn't say when I actually took the test.

    Just DON'T delete it, mmMekitty!

    Please be kind to yourselves & each other. If I can manage to use my phone to drop in, I will. I wonder if I could use some emojis that are on my phone but not on my PC, & get them from here when I get back. I tried emailing them but they didn't work properly when I receeved them on my PC, I do think my PC is just too old for the newest emojis. (& other things).

    mmMekitty

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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mm Mekitty,

    I have just come across your tread following your advise and found out your are having surgery tomorrow. I wish you all confident and a successful surgery.

    I also noticed I am the only male among the pigeon here. Oops!
    All I can say as a male Boobs are overrated. Or as my mother said, they only get in the way and give you backache. Important is your health. Fiscally and mentally. As they take care of you take also care of yourself be a little selfish !

    All the best!!!

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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    Is your op tomorrow? Wishing you all the very best. The worst part is the waiting I think. Once you're through the surgery you can concentrate on getting better.

    We'll all be here to support you as best we can, so you're not alone!

    Big hug! 🤗👍💕🐕🐾

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    Hi Motz,

    Thanks for dropping by.

    Funny, about the boobs, mean. If they are so over-rated, why do so-called men's mags & porn promote the idea that bigger is better? Why was the Barbie doll form, & the hour-glass figure so idealised? & push-up bras, bras more than a little padded, plunging necklines, silicon enhancements promoted to already healthy women.

    This could become quite a debate!

    *

    I think I'll be okay. So long as I get through the fasting! Then dealing with the anticipated limited mobility around my shoulders & underarm, & physical pain. Then I gotta do exercises. I findit hard to stick to doing repetitive exercises. & having someone else in to deal with after care. I feel uneasy every time I have to let someone else into my flat. Not as bad as I used to, but still... it's just pretty big. 😸

    *

    Not so many men? I think you are right. You ar still very welcome.😺

    mmMekitty

  12. Mum Chris
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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    Good luck with fasting and of course your surgery. Do you have a special pillow or blanky to take with you. I never do but I have my iPad and apps to keep me safe. Load some music and take earplugs. 🐈🎶🎼🎵🎧🎹🥁🎸

    Your can plan your post surgery meal I’m always starving and order the roast. Nurses intervene and I get a sandwich and tea and more rest usually 😂 They don’t believe I have a cast iron stomach. Sometimes some pale sultana cake bleh

    Its good to have help you will appreciate it and I hope you get a quiet respectful person. Clue them in immediately don’t touch me without asking and lower your voice whatever helps.

    🦄 unicorn emoji for magic sparkles 🐈 kitty emoji for company.

    MC

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    Hi Hanna, MC & all,

    Yes, tomorrow is the big day. Gotta get in early, & fill out some green form, then there is the Lymph Node Localisation Scans & then, I am presuming, ('cause I can't remember) I'm going to the ward, & have a shower, before going into surgery. On the phone I was told to have a shower, washing hair too, the night before, (tonight), & then another in the morning. If she said anything more about that I forgot or didn't take it in...

    I have decided I will have a bottle of water next to my bed, & when I am awake, I can sip it (& eventually have to get up), until 6am, I can take one of my meds early, so I will keep that there too. I'll have to remember to keep check on the time if it looks like sunrise out there. (if it's cloudy in the morning that might be tricky).

    I don't like not being able to pre-pack everything I want for hospital. I don't to forget anything, like my tooth paste & tooth brush. Anything els I haven't thought I will need? This is something anxiety does to me. I fear I'm just not prepared - practically speaking.

    I'm gonna miss my big milky coffee morning tumbler full.😾

    mmMekitty

    Thank you all, again. ❤️😻❤️

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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty

    I guess phone and charger, medications, slippers, light cardigan in case the ward air conditioning is too cold, keys comb/brush/toothbrush, debit/credit card (don't take much cash) in case you want to purchase something...

    Nighties...anything else in particular you will need.

    Very best wishes! 🤗

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    3 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3

    Thank you Hanna - you remind me, I meant to write a check-list! I forgot that too!

    😸❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️extra for everyone, including furry friends.

    mmMekitty

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    Oh, yes, I sure do hope I can pre-order my first meal after. Not sure what time that'll be, because I am scheduled to go in shortly after 1pm. Maybe I ought to try for a dozen sandwiches? 😺

    Good idea to try, because someone will have to read the menu to me anyway.

    mmMekitty

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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Dear Kitty 🐱..

    Calling In to let you know that I’m wishing you the best for tomorrow and will be thinking of you...

    Even though it’s not an overly long stay ...maybe something special to you, that you can put on your bedside table....The last time I was admitted to hospital I took along with me, my little fluffy stuffed toy that I keep on my bed at home..

    Very best wishes Kitty 🐱..with kindness and care..

    Grandy..

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    3 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty 😺 (with a wave to everyone):~

    I guess you will realise from the number of people (males included😁Motz:) that have come to wish you well that you have touched the hearts💞of so many people here, who care for you and have their respective paws, fingers, flippers or whatever is appropriate) crossed 🤞for you.You have also been given a deal of excellent practical suggestions💌, and I'll not try to add to them.

    I have no doubt I will see you after the op when you can get your communications organized🚲. After the dust settles once again many will once again benefit from your posts, both about the numerous problems you are overcoming, but also those you make directly to particular posters, messages 😀 which I think are very warm and helpful. As I may have mentioned before you do have a talent for it👌.

    When you think about it just the accounts of your problems and the way you remain cheerful and deal wiht them gives inspiration, comfort and hope to many. In fact to far many more than you would realise. The vast majority of people here at the Forum do not join, do not post, but do read - and come back for more.

    All that may seem pretty general waffle so I'll say on a peronal note you have given me much. Apart from having the legacies resulting from PTSD, depression and anxiety I am stuck with several deteriorating physical issues that cannot be regarded as paltry. When they seem all to gang up and leave me feeling completely unequal to the challenge (and just want to stay in bed with the covers over my head) I think of you persevering, and that helps

    Croix - raising a (400ml) 🥛 of water to you

    P.S. Sumo Cat and Foxy Dog send their good wishes too.

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    Hi & thanks, I'm just trying to fit in a toasted cheese sandwich & the rest of my lettuce, before midnight*! (when it might turn into yucky pumpkin)

    Cheeky Croix! That's the first time anyone ever gave me a 💌! I assume Mrs C edited & approved?

    Grandy, I meant to tell you, I love all your ideas of 'comfort' things to take.😺Unfortunately the hospital want people to take the barest minimum. I am taking my new pillow with a new pillow case on it. It' has Galahs on it

    I am also taking my phone, & risk having a go at posting, although, the thing is so frustrating to use, I may get cranky enough for the entire hospital to hear me swearing.

    Love to all furry friends. (I wish I could sneak them in, even Sumo, if I could find a big enough bag. Maybe I should stick to 🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸🐸?

    mmMekitty

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    4 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hello Kitty,

    I hope everything went well and you are recovering and healing the best you can...

    Sending you a huge bunch of Australian wild flowers, A get well card...that says..

    “As you rest and heal, know that you are thought of very warmly and wished a quick recovery”..Get well soon.💚..also inside the middle of the flowers you’ll find something yummy to eat...a small packet of biscuits 🍪..

    No hurry to reply, just wanted to call in to see you.

    Kind thoughts...with very very gentle hugs..☁️🤗☁️🤗

    Grandy..

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    4 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty,

    Just wanted to leave a message of best wishes and I hope the operation has gone well and that you are OK and being well looked after.

    Let us know how you are when you are up to it. Meanwhile we are thinking of you.

    Very best wishes!!! 🙂🐕💝🌺💐🏵️🥀🌸🌼🌹🌻🌻🌻🍀💞😺

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    Hi mmMekitty

    I’m sure you are in recovery and hopefully resting comfortably. Best wishes for when you are able to check forum. I saved some hearts for you. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ And cherries 🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍒🍗🥓🍤🥟🍿🥞🍧🍰 and some yummy food

    MC

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    Hi everyone,

    I'm back home now. There's much I may well be posting about here, but for the moment I would like to thank you for your messages & wonderful support.

    Love the food & flowers! The frogs I snuck in thought they were all delicious, & left evidence of their feasting all over the floor around my bed.

    I am reassured everything went well, & barring infection or any other post-surgery problems which may arise, I ought to be fine. For now I'm feeling rather knocked about & sore even to my left shoulder blade, both shoulders, all around my front up nearly to the base of my neck & down to half way down my ribcage. Bruising,tenderness & swelling. which to my gentle touch, feels very odd to have touched applied. Rather like it's numb.

    I haven't found out one thing I would like to know. If anyone knows, can you tell me a way to remove the sticky residue from the taping they had removed. I had thought they'd leave that layer of padded bandaging on longer, even let me home with it, but no. When they took it off it was (I think) 10 times more painful than waxing. (Not that I would go in for any of that.) I like my fur too much!

    I've missed a lot during the last few days. I've heard no news, not listened to radio or nothing. I had so much trouble making my phone do anything. Then I wan't on aWIFI network -& still don't understand how to do that.

    I couldn't even make my phone send a reply to a txt message!

    Also, the earphones aren't made specifically for my iPhone, so I couldn't adjust the volume, & sometimes the voice over was issuing from the speaker on the phone, not the earphone.

    & unfortunately, they needed all private rooms so I couldnot have one because others nees were greater. No privacy. I could not even get a room just for an hour to talk to my PDr when I did want to. So, I am talking to him tomorrow

    My helper will be in often, & wI ll have someone in to take care of th e drainage & any other wound care which may be necessary. & my home helper offered to bring me her version of home made chicken soup!

    My helper & I were going over the exercises the physiotherapist recommended, & there is some parts which don't quite make sense. So, I think I'll need to check in with my GP & arrange an appointment with a physiotherapist to help sort out. which exercises I'm supposed to do when.

    I'll have to leave this here for now, so, I'll see you all later. 😺 "...if only in my dreams." (Happy belated Xmas to anyone I missed!)

    mmMekitty

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    6 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi Kitty,

    It’s Wonderful to hear that your back home and things went well for you....Now it’s time sweet lady to care for yourself and give that homemade chicken soup a try...As far back as I can remember, chicken soup fixes everything and makes you feel better....

    Not sure about the sticky residue left on from the tape...Maybe for a few days best to leave it alone...could be tender around that area...and it could hurt you taking it off then to leave it be....

    Rest now dear Kitty, I don’t doubt that you’ll be sore and tired for a few days, possibly weeks...If you need to talk at anytime we are here for you...in spirit with our care, love and support.....💚🕊🧸...

    A very gentle, soft, warm caring hug..Dear Kitty..☁️🤗🧸.

    Grandy..

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    6 January 2022 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi Grandy,

    Thanks again. I've just caught up with a little of the latest news,& I wonder if people out in the community have not had a harder time than I have had in the hospital for the last two days. I just about feel I've returned to some sort of parallel world, wondering what' going on with the leaders of this country. I can barely credit what I've already heard.

    I still need more rest, that's true enough. I've just had a little rest, & didn't even hear two episodes of 'Alone' which I left to listen to , thanks to audio description, on my tele out in my lounge, so it wasn't exactly quiet. I heard the end of 'Monty Python's Flying Circus', but then nothing until I heard halfway into 'Jeopardy!' I -do rather like 'Jeopardy!', especially when I can answer some questions.

    More later.

    mmMekitty

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    6 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Dear mmMekitty~

    I'm delighted

    Croix

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    6 January 2022 in reply to Croix

    Hi Croix, 🙀I'm still tired... It wasn't all so smooth sailing asI had hoped. Physically I'll be fine. There is some other crap I'm now going to need to deal with. For now, I am too tired. I want to talk to my PDr, (I would have like that by dinner time Tuesday actually then more following that. I rather wish I didn't have to wait until tomorrow, feeling as I do tonight. But I'll be right.I'll put my music on again, like I did last night. I'm sure that will help.

    mmMekitty

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    7 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Busy day, & I am tired again!

    Put the some washing in the machine, had some brekkie,then made a call to my sis, I have spoken with my PDr, which was good, thenm my helper came with some shopping I had asked her to get, & actually managed pretty well. After that, she helped me to shower, & then cut my hair. 😼She did a rather ragged job of it, but it is easier to manage while I am healing. Then I was tired. But my helper left before the washing was finished drying. So I debated about eating more, sleeping, or waiting for the Nurse to come tend my drainage tubes & fix it all up, as when showering, a part of the tubing came unstuck from my body. I thought the tape was supposed to be completely waterproof. Guess not. I asked how much fluid had drained, because when it only drains a little for a few days, the drains can come out. That will be so good. I'm thinking removing this wide adhesive over my chest is going to hurt like heck. That IS staying stuck! It's tight & uncomfortable. I feel I can't stretch, leaning back, or even tilting my head back without feeling the plastic adhesive pulling on my skin.

    The drainage seemed more complicated to do than I thought. I wonder how the folk at the hospital imagined it might be possible for me to manage that on my own. I'm glad I quickly realised that I couldn't tell themhow much fluid was draining each day, & then, to write it in a booklet...of course I wasn't going to manage that.

    Then I got a message telling me to call & confirm the follow-up post-op appointment a via the phone appointment. Really? No, not really - I should not have been sent that message, I heard a little while later, when someone else phoned to confirm the face to face appointment, which makes more sense because, in part. they need to examine the wound, maybe) remove the drainage?) Getting me to show them via my phone just may be a bit of a stretch, too! I don't even have a camera on my PC.

    I managed to remove my dry washing - tiny bit too high really, but I was as careful as I could.

    Then I did eat a little, because I could barely keep my eyes open & wanted to sleep more comfortably.

    Listened to more music while dozing. That was very useful. I had been feeling irritable, flustered, jumpy as well, so definitely needed to calm myself.

    That was so evident at the hospital. I was not calm for dang near the entire time - until I put the music on & sleepily drifted off. I need so much of that.

    mmMekitty

  29. Hanna3
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    7 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi mmMekitty,

    It's good to hear from you! I can imagine you'll be rather uncomfortable and tired for a little while after such a big op. You sound like you're managing incredibly well!

    Your body has been through quite an assault, so get all the rest you can and eat and drink well and give your body time to recover.

    Time to pamper yourself and take things very easy.

    Your helper sounds excellent I'm glad you have her. Did the nurse come today? The bandaging sounds a bit uncomfortable so I hope she can help you with that a bit.

    You've been through quite an ordeal and it's good to see you back here!

    🙂👍🐶🌻🌼🌹💐

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    7 January 2022 in reply to mmMekitty

    Hi Hanna & everyone,

    Yeah, the Nurse came today, but she didn't touch the large plastic-like stuff stuck over my entire chest area. It's not just the edges that have adhesive either. Every square milimetre of the entire thing is stuck firmly in place.

    I also spoke to the BCN & remembered to ask about some very odd tingly sensations around my armpits & she assured me this would be because some nerve damage does occure, & it ought to get better. I'm thinking, slowly.

    There was that problem with one of the drugs used in the anaesthesia, which seems to have caused some problems with my thinking & mood, which might be what is responsible for my old memories, feelings, thoughts, &such arising spontaneously to mind when I was coming round, & were still effecting me all through Tuesday night to Wednesday night. With my poor sleep before going into hospital, & not sleeping muc at all over night, didn't help, or may even have contributed to how I was reacting to every sound I heard. It certainly could be true that not sleeping well & the effect of that drug could have also caused my feelings of disorientation & fuzzy head - like my brain was on holiday, & forgetting 95% of everything I was told, heard, wanted to remember to ask, when things were supposed to happen, pretty much across the board.

    Wednesday night/Thursday morning was better in that the ward was quieter. It was still evident to me that the problem was persisting. I did get more sleep, though, after deciding to put my music on.

    Last night, I was getting upset, thinking, I just didn't want to come back to my flat, downstairs from that aggressive neighbour. I'm feeling his aggressive manner is really getting to me, & I'm not sure how much I can cope with his behaviour.

    My days ahead I will be having one, two or three people visit. Whether I want to or not, I gotta b up & dressed.

    It's going to make it difficult for me to come to BB as much as I'd like, mostly because I am still getting so tired.

    Thanks for all the lovely flowers, there sweet perfume fills my flat just right. 😺& the wrapping on the bouquet was delicious. I'm planting the Sunflower, so hopefully some bees will be around soon, & we'll get Sunflower Seeds out of it!

    mmMekitty

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