I'm so proud of you. See, after 11 years of emotional abuse this so called tough ex prison officer, Air force etc guy was compelled to leave and I was left dangling as to my future.
I recall my first night away from my young kids and ex saying to myself "I will leave you in my wake" and I did.
I decided I'd never have a child support payment that was late (14 years and all were on time). I decided to build my own home
I decided to be the best part time dad I could become
I decided that regardless of how she still treated me, when picking up or dropping off the kids, I would treat her with dignity
I'd left her the 100yo house and I took the garage as my settlement and relocated it. Our kids would stay in their home, less instability.
and so on.
Once I finished my home and was living in it my kids had their first weekend in it. Fairy curtains, fairy doonas etc. wow!. Then dropped the kids off. I was exhausted but proud.
Then 2 weeks later I got a letter from child support. She was claiming that "as he has a new house and I have a 100yo house, I deserve more child support". I was shocked.
As it worked out she wasnt entitled to any more money. But it is an example of how these events can be taxing on your mental health. That is why it would be a very good move for you to get your own counseling. Yes, you are decisive which is great but the inner anger/disappointment will take time to get over, the quicker the better.
Beyondblue topic the best praise you'll ever get