Hello Strugggling, thanks for your reply.
We understand all the protocols, but you have realised your mishap and pulled yourself back, probably at the most difficult time, especially after texting sex messages, because if you wanted to continue on and take this further, would have been quite easy, but no, that's when you stopped it and this takes great strength and deserve credit in doing this.
Can I put you in another situation, if a child desperately wants a toy and when you tell them no, how does this make you feel, and would you relay this to your husband, may be or just let it ride it's way out and just disappear, and what would happen if your husband said to a female that she looks great in that dress, occasions like this happen all the time.
You are bright enough to understand that perhaps it may have gone a little too far, but you pulled away at the most opportune time, and please take credit for this, and by doing this has made you a much stronger person totally aware of any other situations you don't want to be involved.
Sometimes it needs us to establish these boundaries to understand exactly where we stand.
Take some pride and please let it drift away, your a good mum.