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Topic: Feeling lost and in love, tell us your reasons.

  1. geoff
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    24 January 2022 in reply to randomx

    Hello RX and Sleepy, we never know what's going to happen tomorrow.

    Best wishes.


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  2. jtjt_4862
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    24 January 2022 in reply to randomx

    Heya Rx,

    The world works in very strange ways. I hope you were able to find some closure from this experience.


  3. WaterFront
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    24 January 2022 in reply to jtjt_4862

    Hi All,

    So here I am again. I don’t really want to go over it all again as I’ve talk about it here and on my own thread. I don’t even want to think about it really. She texted me yesterday saying that she had been waiting for 20 months for me to come back (as a friend) and I said I wish I could but I can’t. She wanted to know if I wanted to come to her wedding to which I said no. Yes, there is going to be a wedding. It was a fairly emotionally exhausting three hour text conversation that I tried to leave once because I was getting upset. I told her it takes different people different amounts of time to get over things.

    She just doesn’t get it. Doesn’t understand why I’m feeling hurt. Then she got assertive about the business we share and she runs, that she wants to take ownership of. I provided her with two alternatives that I thought were fairer and would give her the result she wanted and I have been waiting for her to get back to me.

    Just when I was starting to feel a bit better (relatively) and was more able to sit with it and accept the way things are, back she pops and unsettles me again - and leaves me hanging - which is her habit.

    I think I am being overly sensitive. I’ve spent today and yesterday feeling awful and having the whole thing swirling around in my head again. I have literally done nothing except get out of bed and get dressed. Like a giant leap backwards. A temporary setback and I’m sure I’ll rally around again tomorrow.

    Thank you for listening. It helps.


  4. randomx
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    25 January 2022 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff.

    No l suppose not . l've told people many times you just never know what's going to be around the next bend , it can all change in a heartbeat .

    Hi jt . Closure , don't really know tbh. l must admit l am a bit disappointed that she will now never know the truth buttttt. There is an acceptance though in that l know now she has moved on and she's building a whole new life for herself which is probably best.


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  5. randomx
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    29 January 2022 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff , hope your doing ok.

    Been wanting to bring up this question and wondering what your thoughts and observations, or maybe even people you've know, have been over the yrs.

    What do you think of ex's trying again ? Maybe they were once married , or together for a long time but rocky , or the stars just didn't seem to want to align for them the first time maybe through even no fault of their own , or for whatever reasons they'd split up one way or other.

    Do you think it can work next time ? l know that depends on many things buttt, we've probably all known someone that have tried again.

    All the best


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