I popped in to post my BF nightmares (actual dreams, not him being a nightmare lol) & read back here.
Woah I'm so sorry that's all going on, also what ppl have gone through in the past. Darn. I could add myself there but... Group hugs everyone, come in here & share one.
That situation when one person loves the other person who doesn't love them back = "unrequited love".
Jt great idea, blocking SM.
It's too hard to deal with.
So hard trying to get over someone & "past" the r/ship when they're flashing in front of your face 24/7.
I agree about the stuff "ppl say to do to get over someone" is all too hard if we're depressed.
If we're angry it's GOOD! Better investing all that angry energy into something OTHER than shouting on SM or IRL in any way (except for on a mountain top / SINGING really loudly).
I learnt all about "angry cleaning & gardening", & yes, rx sitting with the emotion is healthy also (as my Counsellor said "as long as it's not for too long & you do SELF-CARE at the end").
Rx is that what you think is happening?
GF seeing someone else?
If so, I really feel for you. (I do anyway).
That's a whole other ball game.
Sorry rx :-(
A nightmare about BF doing THE most revolting things & expecting me to get involved, in a vivid detail, woke me up this afternoon from a nap.
Yes I'll tell him about it, many wouldn't, I know.
But I do.
We had a short talk about "commitment" & he feels far more strongly about what that means than even I do - & I'm strong about it.
It was brought up because clearly I'm being vilified at work because a Colleague's H has been far too adoring over me for far too long. BF knows of him & others b4 doing same.
Yes I've spoken to that H directly about it many times over.
Now I deflect any attention. Talk to the HAND!
It's embarrassing for my Colleague (AND ME!). Now she's axed me from specific programs at work & put mountains more work on me.
Via Zoom recently her H popped in & said "Hello beautiful" to me. That was the clincher after days of it.
Her H & I went to school together - over 50y ago. We're a CLOSE group since school.
Awkward. I do everything right about that person. Grrr.
She says they argue for DAYS after he says these things to me.
Not my problem, except work impacts. So unfair.
Our common friend saw it & told me.
SHE SEES IT TOO. Crazy.
I don't like it.
I'm already in love, NOT with a married man! (grr)