I would answer anything you ask but for exposure of who I really am.
You wouldn't believe me if I told you! lol...
I stayed and stayed. It was a horrible "existence". ex was extremely demanding & abusive and I can't go into all the minute details but it was bl**dy awful.
Then "something" came out.
I kicked him out but he kept coming back and in the end used Police to gain entry even.
I ended up securing half of the house for me and the kids.
It took around 6y in 5 different Courts to finally be rid of him, forever I had hoped. (Not so. He still does stuff but outside the CCTV cameras Victim's Services put in for us).
ex is a psychopath - coined by Police and known by my Legals too.
I think H there is an abuser - clearly he is. Whether he has Narc traits or not IDK.
The thing is we CAN'T know how things will play out.
We have to jump into the abyss and go for it. But I wished I'd known as much as I know now way back at first meeting lol! I tried to kick him out of MY house a number of times...
anyway I digress.
I changed the locks on my half of the house. After a year of me trying to negotiate a Parenting Plan and house changeover (MY house which he got his name onto)... ex was WEIRD and slimy and I got sick after he ate here (I worked out later he was poisoning me)...
ex sent a barrage of Lawyer's letters which I ignored... was preparing to answer but he stepped in and ended that. I refused any reconciliation.
I gave up and went No Contact. Withheld the children because FACS told me to. I was terrified but did it.
About 2y later ex lodged in Family Law Court. ex ONLY wanted money but pretended to want the kids too - in the end ex consented to my Proposed Orders and I got the kids 100% and with years of all my paperwork gathering (he had destroyed everything)... I slammed ex and gave it a pittance. Around $70k in legals and I starved to pay them.
There were other Courts too but this would reveal my ID.
Indeed ex had been vilifying me for DECADES and even had my own adult children from a previous marriage turn against me. All my family too. Most of my "friends".
My strongest recommendation is for you to speak with the free Women's Legal Services.
I am happy to talk more about your situation and mine if it will help!
You don't need "a reason" to end a marriage. No fault divorce we fought for. You have plenty of reasons.