Thanks for starting this thread.
I am in a similar situation to Gems. My partner lives in the U.S. and indeed covid has put unbelievable stress on our relationship, my anxiety skyrocketed due to his work as a engineer repairing machines that make testing kits and test for covid. Can you imagine.... his name was on the TOP of the Federal Govts list for 'free to fly anywhere' in the U.S. to do this important work.
I was a mess as he flew on jets ALL by himself.. so scary.
And my partner did not see the dangers.... at first.... SO I was begging him to be careful and he was basically laughing at me.. at first.
THEN his anxiety skyrocketed as the pennies started dropping.... then he began drinking more and more... then depression took over.
There's NOT the MH support there as there is here. Well not that he can see anyway.
We broke up.
Then missed each other lol, I stopped watching the news altogether, I had to. He watched news MORE.
I got a Psych as well as kept my Counsellor, took leave and worked hard on my MH.
ALL of my children, and myself, are front line / essential workers. Their shifts skyrocketed, more work for me.
Their studies were shattered and some of them are trying to hold on by a string, as the next waves come and now more people have left their workplaces (as mine also).
I'm doing "okay" now... BUT my partner is still not.
Me being calmer helps but his anxiety / depression sets mine off too. So I really have to end calls quickly that begin to escalate me.
If I go down then my whole family goes to lower ebbs too, so it's important I keep tabs on this for me, for them.
Leelee..... I am very concerned about your partner's behaviours. You described "red flags" very clearly in your post.
PLEASE call 1800RESPECT and speak to a Counsellor about what's going on. You can do this anonymously. You don't need to give your name (I always do and they keep notes on myself and my family)... you can hide your number too.
Thankyou for reaching out Leelee. I really hope you feel welcomed and supported on the BB forums. WELCOME!
Never knew we had so much in common Gems!